Hi Helen,
I don't know what Christians you are talking to, but I would be willing to go out on a limb and say that anyone who calls themselves a Christian that wants others to suffer eternal torment are not truly saved themselves, as if the love of Christ is in us, the same love that hung Him on the cross, should our desire not be to want the lamb that was slain to have as many who will accept Him?
Contrary - the true Christian should reflect the heart of Christ, and that is to yearn that people would turn and be saved. That is the will of God.
With respect, I notice that you focus on His love and grace, but neglect His righteousness and Holiness. I could only hope that I am wrong in this, and all would be saved. But the urgency to preach the gospel to me reflects otherwise. As does Paul's severe warnings to those who would preach any other gospel. If universalism is true - then what need is there for such urgency?
The four creatures don't sing eternally in the throne room of God about his love or mercy, but His holiness. I can't help but think that we miss something when we don't balance His love along side of His righteousness and holiness.
I have seen universalism and focus solely on God's love creep in to places I never thought I would see. I have seen people I grew up with at Church who still call themselves Christians now encourage homosexual lifestyles and marriage, and vote "Yes" for homosexual marriage in our own country, because "God loves everyone", and "Love wins", with neglect for His holiness and righteousness.
If God get's everything He desires - was it God's desire for the devil to rebel? Will the devil be saved as well in this universal salvation? Does God 'Win' with the devil, and if so - is it by casting him and his minions into the eternal lake of fire, or by delivering them from sin and saving them too?
Thank you for your good response ...I don’t think we have spoken before.
I have like the post of yours That I have seen. It’s nice to have you on the forum.
I know you will feel that I am coping out in my response here.
That Lord called me in1964, and I said - yes Lord ...and starting listening.
Like most , I also responded to what I heard preached about 'hell fire'...
We were in very active evangelism for a decade.
Then we were in a Sonship Movement for a couple of decades ...
( I’ve told my story a few times on this Forum ...so I won’t again ...
the Lord started nudging me about things , on and off for many years , and I argued with Him...for years .
I totally know what you are saying ...and you have many excellent points.
One being what you mentioned about the Love of God and Grace. Agree 100%
Those words have been greatly misused and twisted by many.
Grace is not without accountability , as Paul said -
“Receive not the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ in vain.”
When this is done , it is a choice ...in fact what we each believe is a choice.
Some just believe whatever is dished up...some are too lazy to wait, pray , listen and study. That is their choice. As are all things in the Lord.
All I can say is that I have to do what I believe the Lord has spoken to
me.
Being very aware I am a fish that swimming against the tide. But ...on That Day I have to give an answer , as do we all.
For me this was not something light or easy , as I mention many times before...
It was very hard , and it was over a decade in all... but once I saw the whole revelation , the cost of the Son of God , and the Father heart , there was no going back for me.
And yes, I have known Christians ( and some on this very site ) who has said flippantly and often about , people deserving nothing but torment and hell for ever and ever...
Have any of us got from God 'what we deserve'!

Thankfully not.
You mentioned Holiness ...totally agree.
But, I think that in the many years I have been on this Site I have only posted two threads about this subject.
I have ‘said my bit’, I have made my stand , but I will not ‘beat some drum...or make it an agenda.
Punishment and Fire ...yes....but I do not believe in any eternal
everlasting fire and torment for mankind ...the Lake of fire was created for the Devil and his angels .... I’ve done all of the word studies...translations and root searches...
But, this is 'just me' , every man must be persuaded in his own mind ...
I won’t argue the point.
I won’t do - “This is my scripture verse , now you show me yours “. Been there and done that too many times ...
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A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still “
The Lord bless you and yours ...Helen.
P.S. I am on my iPad , it is 2.30am , I am in the dark (trying to sleep) the font is very tiny, my eyes are old, please excuse all mistakes,,,,,H
P.P S. *Plus, thank you very much for your politeness , so many seem to just get rude , indignant and angry.
But then again , if they can only see a harsh , angry God ...I do understand why.