If they follow teaching that is blatantly against Scripture how could they possibly be a good source for accurate biblical interpretation? How do you know what to trust and what not to trust? And still, you have not given any biblical support for your position on marriage, the most you have given is that your pastors say its good to go and you go with them, even though they follow unbiblical teaching on gay marriage. Not exactly good ground here.
I have told you I am not a leader and will not ever be one. That does not preclude me from getting married. I don't want authority, don't need it. Don't want power, don't need it. It is simply who I am.
If it does, then perhaps Christianity and I aren't a good mix.