You didn't answer my questions.
Well, he actually did, but just didn't expound on it. Plus he probably didn't answer them the way you
wanted them to be answered. Appropriate roles for women in the church is an ongoing issue these days, so you shouldn't expect ~ and you probably don't; I'm just saying ~ anyone here to resolve them in this thread... :)
No women lead the song service or the prayer?
There are appropriate (Biblical) roles for women in the corporate church. Preaching and teaching are not.
So you have separate classes for the men and women and only women teach women?
I'm not speaking for R1689, but regarding corporate church activities, I'm quite sure this is not the case. I'm also quite sure that only men teach them. Most churches do have separate men's and women's ministries, and men lead the men's ministries, and women lead the women's ministries. And both are overseen by the overseeers ~ the Teaching and Ruling Elders, who, yes, are men.
:)
how about spiritual gifts? Do women receive the gift of wisdom, knowledge, teaching...?
Sure they do. And there are most certainly Biblically appropriate ways to use those gifts in the life of the church.
... if they do , they are not allowed to use them on men?
Well, I would take a bit of an issue with the "use them on" language you use here, regardless of gender. But teaching, no.
Also, it is perfectly ok for women to teach Sunday School, I'm assuming...
Sure.
...at what age are males not allowed to receive instruction from a female teacher?
In our church it's any age beyond elementary school.
Are your adult classes mixed and have a male teacher?
Yes.
That's fine, but are women not allowed any input when questions are asked?
Well, it depends somewhat on what you mean by "input." But just generally speaking, sure they are, and many times even when not asked. I guess that gets into the "keeping silent" thing that Paul mentions in 1 Corinthians, but many go overboard with that.
Aside from all that, I think at least part of the problem is the term 'equality,' and what that means to certain folks. It does not mean 'sameness.' :) 'Equality' and 'sameness' are not synonyms.
I will say this, that I think my church, regarding these things, seems to be a
little left of where R1689's is. A little. In this discussion, it sounds like R1689's church might be what we would label "TR" ("Truly Reformed," which is a somewhat pejorative, albeit good-natured, term). Sorry, R1689; no offense intended.
Grace and peace to you, Cassandra.