Ritajanice
Born-Again
Complicated, for me coming from an emotionally abusive family...Praise God I understand all of that now.imo.In my divorce, I learned there are 3 non-substitutable foundations for ANY positive, healthy relationship:
The virtue of integrity leads to the emotion of trust. I'm not sure why but some people think they have veto power on having to respect another if they "don't understand" the boundary the other person draws.
- Integrity
- Respect
- Responsibility
Understand.My ex-wife was most guilty of lacking emotional responsibility. She kept trying to get me to take responsibility for how she felt. It was a manipulative tactic. She just could not take responsibility for how her actions hurt the relationship. She dismissed accountability on the grounds that she "was emotional." Near the end, I told her that having emotions is not a "get out of jail free card" in acting with impunity. She was horrified.
Agreed.Getting back to faith in relationships, my father was amazed that I instantly understood the dynamic with my sister and his right to set boundaries was not being respected. "Not understanding" is a ploy to attempt to get away with not living up to your responsibilities in the relationship.
I don’t agree here, I’ve taken leaps of faith and just trusted the prompting of the Spirit,,having no understanding of what I’m about to let myself in for..It's that way with God. He does not provide full knowledge to us. We are not expected by him to take the next step only on the condition that we understand.
God has always taken the lead in that situation and spoken through me to another...now, wether they were listening or not is another matter, I did what I believe I was asked to do by God..then automatically I knew when to stop and walk away.that’s my take on faith.
My faith got me through taking medication pills that I was on before..I believe they set my AF in motion, the doctor said they didn’t, so I’ve had to start taking them again, I’m trusting and putting my faith in God for the outcome..that they don’t set my AF off again....we step out in faith without understanding, that is my belief...faith needs to be exercised...if I had to understand everything God was doing in my life...which could take forever...I’d never step out in faith...
Faith in God is a wonderful thing...such a precious gift..
Yes, I trusted him , walking in faith is different for each one of us I believe..plus we are all at different levels of faith.Rather, he expects us to take that next step because we trust him. I've said this to my current wife. When I yell "Duck!" don't stubbornly stand there and demand a full explanation. Act. Now. Or there will be negative consequences. Faith based relationships are so much better!
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