I see lots of Christian folks that have grown up in a church. Some of them are having a transformative experience.
But lots are just going through the motions. A key indicator for me is when they are asked what they believe.
If they answer that their church believes such and so, I know it is probably not a personal belief.
In fact, they may be opposed to people having personal beliefs. Rather, the church makes these decisions for them.
What happens (IMHO) is that these folks place the church between themselves and God.
They trust the church to take responsibility for their spiritual well-being. Their part is to be a faithful attender.
Show up once every week or two (give or take a month) to polish the pew with their back side.
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Scene at the Pearly Gates
St. Peter: Welcome to the Pearly Gates
New Arrival: Wow, pretty amazing.
St. Peter: Are you a Christian?
New Arrival: Of course.
St. Peter: Baptized?
New Arrival: Yes.
St. Peter: Confirmed?
New Arrival: Yes.
St. Peter: Faithful attender?
New Arrival: Pretty much.
St. Peter: What's your position on the Atonement?
New Arrival: Check our church website.
St. Peter: Don't you have your own beliefs?
New Arrival: No, our church is against that.
St. Peter: So, you don't have personal beliefs?
New Arrival: Heavens no.
St. Peter: Why should I let you into heaven?
New Arrival: I told you that I am a Christian.
St. Peter: Everything else you said tells me otherwise.
New Arrival: Maybe you could call the Priest?
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