You are grossly mistaken and disoriented regarding this entire subject. You have made it a rude obsession.
Those who have faith in the promise of God that salvation is everlasting do not "hate obedience", but just the opposite. On the contrary, we are those whom Paul referred to as "we who are alive and remain."
In context Scott!
1 Thess 4:1 Finally then, brothers and sisters,
we ask you and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received instruction from us about how you must live and please God (as you are in fact living)
that you do so more and more.
The following instruction would be pointless if Paul believed in OSAS.
4:2 For you know what commands we gave you through the Lord Jesus. 4:3 For this is God’s will: that
you become holy, that
you keep away from sexual immorality, 4:4 that
each of you know how to possess his own body in holiness and honor, 4:5 not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God. 1 Th 4:2–5.
I could go on, but you can clearly see (red text) that there are obligations for salvation (and warnings), expectation of performance in the things of God.
As I'm constantly having to do with believers like you and Rita etc is show the complete picture and not cherry pick confidence verses which confirm your bias.
4:7 For God
did not call us to impurity but in holiness. 1 Th 4:7.
Its a high calling, many of which will not endure in faith till the end
4:8 Consequently the
one who rejects this is not rejecting human authority but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. 1 Th 4:8.
What's interesting about chapter 4 is its primarily made up of warnings which an OSAS advocate would dispel as meaningless, as salvation in their minds is locked in without question.
OSAS does not account for a persons walk...its an arrogant belief in the present, which is ill-informed of the future.
It's foolishness...man made teaching.
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