Taking time out

[Rita]

Hi Everyone,
I have decided to take time away from the forum. I didn’t agree with a recent decision by those in charge in rejecting someone and sitting in judgement of them…….I totally believe the person concerned needed nurturing rather than rejection. It’s bothered me….
Other things just seem to be allowed, if you look around at all the things that could lead many down a rabbit hole, some can voice strong opinions and they can convey exactly what they like without any correction, while others are banned for doing the same.
Many years ago I heard a sermon about Christians wounding their own, boy is that true !
I need to think about what this place is turning me into, in many respects it’s hardened me up and definitely got me a thicker skin, but in the process I find mutual lack of respect existing which basically closes the door on many of us hearing things that the Lord may need us to hear or listen too.
I need to respect those in authority here, and right now I don’t. ..sorry.
Even a thread early about the gospel …someone posted a really interesting response that was deemed blasphemy and deleted ( although it showed up in the post that advised the writer about deletion ) I found myself question that decision and wondering why it was rejected, rather than be used to address the misinterpretations of scripture that the writer had made. It could have been used to ‘ come alongside ‘ that person…..but no, once again rejection.
@APAK , @Cristo Rei @Josho …enjoy the rest of the Euros ………its been fun having something I could link too that was part of my life here in the U.K.
Cristo, I was angry and offended….I need to address that… some of what I posted was based on a conviction, but I think the lack of mutual respect didn’t help me convey it in a helpful way…..
I am not sure this message won’t get me banned, but sometimes you have to be real with why you are taking time out………

 

[Addy]

Gosh... I don't know what to say to your heart... I HEAR you.. and I FEEL you.

I think some of us sensitive ones have a difficult time in forums... I sure do... I take my stay here day by day... and I am not so quick as to think I FINALLY found a niche because that can so quickly be lost... I get offended ALL the time... with a great many things.

BREAKS are good... I take a lot of them... I need a lot of them... God is working deeply in my heart.

BE BLESSED @Rita ... REST and RE-CHARGE.

 

[Shattered]

Hi Everyone,
I have decided to take time away from the forum. I didn’t agree with a recent decision by those in charge in rejecting someone and sitting in judgement of them…….I totally believe the person concerned needed nurturing rather than rejection. It’s bothered me….
Other things just seem to be allowed, if you look around at all the things that could lead many down a rabbit hole, some can voice strong opinions and they can convey exactly what they like without any correction, while others are banned for doing the same.
Many years ago I heard a sermon about Christians wounding their own, boy is that true !
I need to think about what this place is turning me into, in many respects it’s hardened me up and definitely got me a thicker skin, but in the process I find mutual lack of respect existing which basically closes the door on many of us hearing things that the Lord may need us to hear or listen too.
I need to respect those in authority here, and right now I don’t. ..sorry.
Even a thread early about the gospel …someone posted a really interesting response that was deemed blasphemy and deleted ( although it showed up in the post that advised the writer about deletion ) I found myself question that decision and wondering why it was rejected, rather than be used to address the misinterpretations of scripture that the writer had made. It could have been used to ‘ come alongside ‘ that person…..but no, once again rejection.
@APAK , @Cristo Rei @Josho …enjoy the rest of the Euros ………its been fun having something I could link too that was part of my life here in the U.K.
Cristo, I was angry and offended….I need to address that… some of what I posted was based on a conviction, but I think the lack of mutual respect didn’t help me convey it in a helpful way…..
I am not sure this message won’t get me banned, but sometimes you have to be real with why you are taking time out………

A wise course of action. The Lord bless you and increase your faith, Rita.

 

[Cristo Rei]

Hi Everyone,
I have decided to take time away from the forum. I didn’t agree with a recent decision by those in charge in rejecting someone and sitting in judgement of them…….I totally believe the person concerned needed nurturing rather than rejection. It’s bothered me….
Other things just seem to be allowed, if you look around at all the things that could lead many down a rabbit hole, some can voice strong opinions and they can convey exactly what they like without any correction, while others are banned for doing the same.
Many years ago I heard a sermon about Christians wounding their own, boy is that true !
I need to think about what this place is turning me into, in many respects it’s hardened me up and definitely got me a thicker skin, but in the process I find mutual lack of respect existing which basically closes the door on many of us hearing things that the Lord may need us to hear or listen too.
I need to respect those in authority here, and right now I don’t. ..sorry.
Even a thread early about the gospel …someone posted a really interesting response that was deemed blasphemy and deleted ( although it showed up in the post that advised the writer about deletion ) I found myself question that decision and wondering why it was rejected, rather than be used to address the misinterpretations of scripture that the writer had made. It could have been used to ‘ come alongside ‘ that person…..but no, once again rejection.
@APAK , @Cristo Rei @Josho …enjoy the rest of the Euros ………its been fun having something I could link too that was part of my life here in the U.K.
Cristo, I was angry and offended….I need to address that… some of what I posted was based on a conviction, but I think the lack of mutual respect didn’t help me convey it in a helpful way…..
I am not sure this message won’t get me banned, but sometimes you have to be real with why you are taking time out………

Think nothing of it Rita. It was just a disagreement and some of my language wasn't helpful either...

I had a break from the forum for a month or two as well... It's good to take a break every once in a while...

I'm sorry, I hope there is no bad feelings between us. I hope u come back

 

[Rita]

Gosh... I don't know what to say to your heart... I HEAR you.. and I FEEL you.

I think some of us sensitive ones have a difficult time in forums... I sure do... I take my stay here day by day... and I am not so quick as to think I FINALLY found a niche because that can so quickly be lost... I get offended ALL the time... with a great many things.

BREAKS are good... I take a lot of them... I need a lot of them... God is working deeply in my heart.

BE BLESSED @Rita ... REST and RE-CHARGE.

Hi Addy,
On an emotional and mental level this is not anything to do with sensitivity……on a spiritual level it has everything to do with sensitivity. I am on other forums but I can talk, share, relay things that are laid on my heart…and the hearers hear through the spiritual lens , just as their words, convictions thoughts are equally heard, reflected on……there is mutual respect. Here that only exists with a few people…….as I said I just ‘ feel ‘ things with regards to recent decisions and posts….

Rita

 

[Rita]

Think nothing of it Rita. It was just a disagreement and some of my language wasn't helpful either...

I had a break from the forum for a month or two as well... It's good to take a break every once in a while...

I'm sorry, I hope there is no bad feelings between us. I hope u come back

No bad feelings Cristo xxx…..

 

[Rita]

I will add that some of this is based on conviction that I am addicted to coming here, then I get frustrated - need to find a better kind of balance.
I am reading through Matthew …the sermon on the mount challenged me the other day. When Jesus conveys about us sinning in our hearts ect he was conveying to everyone that while many can convey they follow the laws and are ‘ okay ‘ because outwardly they lead good Christian lives …the reality is the inside ALL of us mess up , so before God none of us are Okay………..yet some are judged and rejected just for being where they are at this time on their journey.
It’s the rejection rather than nurture that is challenging me…..we are ALL in need nurture because none of us have arrived at that place of perfection…..
Right I need to do what I said………..much love to everyone xxxxx

 

[MatthewG]

Take time to spend and talk with God, there is rest to be found for our souls in learning from Christ Jesus, Rita.

I taught the sermon on the mount today in a youtube video I created... very fascinating what one can learn from the first starting 12 verses in Matthew 5 that was taught by the Lord Jesus Christ chosen disciples that day.

 

[Pearl]

Hi Everyone,
I have decided to take time away from the forum. I didn’t agree with a recent decision by those in charge in rejecting someone and sitting in judgement of them…….I totally believe the person concerned needed nurturing rather than rejection. It’s bothered me….
Other things just seem to be allowed, if you look around at all the things that could lead many down a rabbit hole, some can voice strong opinions and they can convey exactly what they like without any correction, while others are banned for doing the same.
Many years ago I heard a sermon about Christians wounding their own, boy is that true !
I need to think about what this place is turning me into, in many respects it’s hardened me up and definitely got me a thicker skin, but in the process I find mutual lack of respect existing which basically closes the door on many of us hearing things that the Lord may need us to hear or listen too.
I need to respect those in authority here, and right now I don’t. ..sorry.
Even a thread early about the gospel …someone posted a really interesting response that was deemed blasphemy and deleted ( although it showed up in the post that advised the writer about deletion ) I found myself question that decision and wondering why it was rejected, rather than be used to address the misinterpretations of scripture that the writer had made. It could have been used to ‘ come alongside ‘ that person…..but no, once again rejection.
@APAK , @Cristo Rei @Josho …enjoy the rest of the Euros ………its been fun having something I could link too that was part of my life here in the U.K.
Cristo, I was angry and offended….I need to address that… some of what I posted was based on a conviction, but I think the lack of mutual respect didn’t help me convey it in a helpful way…..
I am not sure this message won’t get me banned, but sometimes you have to be real with why you are taking time out………

I will miss you Rita and I suppose I'm a bit like that just now. I just have no inclination to post but I keep popping in to have a look what's happening.

 

[Mayflower]

Hi Everyone,
I have decided to take time away from the forum. I didn’t agree with a recent decision by those in charge in rejecting someone and sitting in judgement of them…….I totally believe the person concerned needed nurturing rather than rejection. It’s bothered me….
Other things just seem to be allowed, if you look around at all the things that could lead many down a rabbit hole, some can voice strong opinions and they can convey exactly what they like without any correction, while others are banned for doing the same.
Many years ago I heard a sermon about Christians wounding their own, boy is that true !
I need to think about what this place is turning me into, in many respects it’s hardened me up and definitely got me a thicker skin, but in the process I find mutual lack of respect existing which basically closes the door on many of us hearing things that the Lord may need us to hear or listen too.
I need to respect those in authority here, and right now I don’t. ..sorry.
Even a thread early about the gospel …someone posted a really interesting response that was deemed blasphemy and deleted ( although it showed up in the post that advised the writer about deletion ) I found myself question that decision and wondering why it was rejected, rather than be used to address the misinterpretations of scripture that the writer had made. It could have been used to ‘ come alongside ‘ that person…..but no, once again rejection.
@APAK , @Cristo Rei @Josho …enjoy the rest of the Euros ………its been fun having something I could link too that was part of my life here in the U.K.
Cristo, I was angry and offended….I need to address that… some of what I posted was based on a conviction, but I think the lack of mutual respect didn’t help me convey it in a helpful way…..
I am not sure this message won’t get me banned, but sometimes you have to be real with why you are taking time out………

Hi Rita... Have you tried pming leadership with your concerns? I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

 

[Mayflower]

@Heart2Soul

 

[Heart2Soul]

You will be missed sister and whatever decision you have to make is between you and God. I pray you change your mind, pray and seek God and ask Him to help heal your heart in the matter.
I will be praying for you.
Have a blessed day.

 

[APAK]

Hi Everyone,
I have decided to take time away from the forum. I didn’t agree with a recent decision by those in charge in rejecting someone and sitting in judgement of them…….I totally believe the person concerned needed nurturing rather than rejection. It’s bothered me….
Other things just seem to be allowed, if you look around at all the things that could lead many down a rabbit hole, some can voice strong opinions and they can convey exactly what they like without any correction, while others are banned for doing the same.
Many years ago I heard a sermon about Christians wounding their own, boy is that true !
I need to think about what this place is turning me into, in many respects it’s hardened me up and definitely got me a thicker skin, but in the process I find mutual lack of respect existing which basically closes the door on many of us hearing things that the Lord may need us to hear or listen too.
I need to respect those in authority here, and right now I don’t. ..sorry.
Even a thread early about the gospel …someone posted a really interesting response that was deemed blasphemy and deleted ( although it showed up in the post that advised the writer about deletion ) I found myself question that decision and wondering why it was rejected, rather than be used to address the misinterpretations of scripture that the writer had made. It could have been used to ‘ come alongside ‘ that person…..but no, once again rejection.
@APAK , @Cristo Rei @Josho …enjoy the rest of the Euros ………its been fun having something I could link too that was part of my life here in the U.K.
Cristo, I was angry and offended….I need to address that… some of what I posted was based on a conviction, but I think the lack of mutual respect didn’t help me convey it in a helpful way…..
I am not sure this message won’t get me banned, but sometimes you have to be real with why you are taking time out………

And I was just starting to get to know you a lot more Rita from England and of BHA. Well again I think that England has a really good chance to win on Saturday if they are all about business with a keen focus and a strong Captain's leadership from Kane.

 

[farouk]

I will add that some of this is based on conviction that I am addicted to coming here, then I get frustrated - need to find a better kind of balance.
I am reading through Matthew …the sermon on the mount challenged me the other day. When Jesus conveys about us sinning in our hearts ect he was conveying to everyone that while many can convey they follow the laws and are ‘ okay ‘ because outwardly they lead good Christian lives …the reality is the inside ALL of us mess up , so before God none of us are Okay………..yet some are judged and rejected just for being where they are at this time on their journey.
It’s the rejection rather than nurture that is challenging me…..we are ALL in need nurture because none of us have arrived at that place of perfection…..
Right I need to do what I said………..much love to everyone xxxxx

Hi @Rita, good to see you. Yes, sometimes - often, even - spending time in the Word quietly can be better than a lot of time on the computer! :)

 

[Helen]

I will miss you Rita and I suppose I'm a bit like that just now. I just have no inclination to post but I keep popping in to have a look what's happening.

All I can say is - “DITTO “ Pat .
Every blessing on your eye appointment tomorrow . X

 

[Rita]

Hi @farouk…..how have you been keeping ?
I carried on reading the sermon on the mount and the lord helped me to understand the balance of judgements. I am not sure we always ‘ judge ‘in a scriptural way, but I do understand there is a place for correction, but only if done after prayerful thought and with conviction. That’s the part I think we often get wrong, we judge based on our own personal reactions and thoughts and believe the timing is always right …when the reality is that it may not be.
Although I didn’t agree with the decision to ban a member recently I did check the forum rules and I agreed when I joined that the moderators are allowed to implement things as they wish. I think it was the judgements made about the person that bothered me as I didn’t sense the same issue, however I accept it’s happened. I needed to put a bit of distance between how I was feeling and responding.
I found I would still check in , even if I didn’t always login….guess I am hooked on this place.
My son had surgery and now has his arm in a splint, the nerve is going to take awhile to heal but he is adapting to the pain and not being able to use his right arm or hand.
It’s been a strange week…first day of a weeks holiday and I had to have a tooth extracted unexpectedly ……. So I won’t be enjoying snacks as we watch the Euros tonight …..but I should still be able to shout for England !! Lol
Rita

 

[Mayflower]

Hi @farouk…..how have you been keeping ?
I carried on reading the sermon on the mount and the lord helped me to understand the balance of judgements. I am not sure we always ‘ judge ‘in a scriptural way, but I do understand there is a place for correction, but only if done after prayerful thought and with conviction. That’s the part I think we often get wrong, we judge based on our own personal reactions and thoughts and believe the timing is always right …when the reality is that it may not be.
Although I didn’t agree with the decision to ban a member recently I did check the forum rules and I agreed when I joined that the moderators are allowed to implement things as they wish. I think it was the judgements made about the person that bothered me as I didn’t sense the same issue, however I accept it’s happened. I needed to put a bit of distance between how I was feeling and responding.
I found I would still check in , even if I didn’t always login….guess I am hooked on this place.
My son had surgery and now has his arm in a splint, the nerve is going to take awhile to heal but he is adapting to the pain and not being able to use his right arm or hand.
It’s been a strange week…first day of a weeks holiday and I had to have a tooth extracted unexpectedly ……. So I won’t be enjoying snacks as we watch the Euros tonight …..but I should still be able to shout for England !! Lol
Rita

I've talked to this person elsewhere. I think this decision is for the best. I'm sure she will have opportunity to come back on here in the future.

 

[Heart2Soul]

Hi @farouk…..how have you been keeping ?
I carried on reading the sermon on the mount and the lord helped me to understand the balance of judgements. I am not sure we always ‘ judge ‘in a scriptural way, but I do understand there is a place for correction, but only if done after prayerful thought and with conviction. That’s the part I think we often get wrong, we judge based on our own personal reactions and thoughts and believe the timing is always right …when the reality is that it may not be.
Although I didn’t agree with the decision to ban a member recently I did check the forum rules and I agreed when I joined that the moderators are allowed to implement things as they wish. I think it was the judgements made about the person that bothered me as I didn’t sense the same issue, however I accept it’s happened. I needed to put a bit of distance between how I was feeling and responding.
I found I would still check in , even if I didn’t always login….guess I am hooked on this place.
My son had surgery and now has his arm in a splint, the nerve is going to take awhile to heal but he is adapting to the pain and not being able to use his right arm or hand.
It’s been a strange week…first day of a weeks holiday and I had to have a tooth extracted unexpectedly ……. So I won’t be enjoying snacks as we watch the Euros tonight …..but I should still be able to shout for England !! Lol
Rita

Sister you are welcome to come speak to any of the moderators privately and express your concerns. I am here and am always willing to discuss what is on your heart. If you would rather talk to Angelina or lforrest I know they are also open to speak with members.
God Bless

 

[Rita]

Sister you are welcome to come speak to any of the moderators privately and express your concerns. I am here and am always willing to discuss what is on your heart. If you would rather talk to Angelina or lforrest I know they are also open to speak with members.
God Bless

Thanks H2S, I had considered it but decided I needed to work through this myself , it wasn’t just that one thing, it was a general awareness of judgements that are made here and judgements I had equally made. You know how one thing can seem like the actual issue but when you take a step back you discover it’s not.
Rita xx

 

[Heart2Soul]

Thanks H2S, I had considered it but decided I needed to work through this myself , it wasn’t just that one thing, it was a general awareness of judgements that are made here and judgements I had equally made. You know how one thing can seem like the actual issue but when you take a step back you discover it’s not.
Rita xx

You are a very wise woman of God...I was praying for you as well.
Hugs and God Bless