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Considering that I was the breadwinner in several of my long-term relationships, no...I wouldn't have a problem with that.
Why does a woman have to "march in the streets" in order to be a "REAL" feminist?Where are the REAL feminists, marching in the streets, angry at this violation of human rights?
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Not really an answer to my question. I’m disappointed but not surprised.Why does a woman have to "march in the streets" in order to be a "REAL" feminist?
I never said that they "sat home" (although at times they did, mostly feeling sorry for themselves) while I worked. I said I was the breadwinner, meaning that I made more money than they did. No, I wasn't some 'high-powered' woman trying to climb the corporate ladder. I just wanted to work at a job I liked, and made enough money so I could reach into my pocket and pay for a few extra's now and then.Ok, well sorry but I just said that to see what you would say. It would go against everything that I have ever been or been taught as a man. I couldnt let you go work for bill money while I sat at home. I'm not that guy, lol.
I agree that being married means that you voluntarily give up SOME freedoms.I wouldnt take your freedom though. If that didnt appeal to you you can always leave if you want to and divorce me! I wish you well...
I WAS married. Twice. As for why MOST of the long-term relationships didn't result in marriage, well...As an aside may I ask you why you were never Married? Several of your long term relationships was not several of your marriages, so that has me curious about why there were several of them and never marriage? Were the men abusive toward you or something? Cheaters?
Again, part of my soul searching. It's not that I 'picked' bad men several times. Bad men USUALLY don't reveal themselves as 'bad' right away. If they did, PLENTY of women wouldn't have anything to do with them.Why did you choose bad men several times? Is this not a reflection of the type of man that is attractive to you? Why would you keep choosing the same type of man?
Do you have more than one baby's daddy's?
For a long time, I didn't consider marriage as something I actually wanted. To me, it was simply something that eventually happened. another 'step' in life. Never occurred to me that I could CHOOSE to marry or not marry. It was simply expected of me.I was married one time for 26 years. Oh I had girlfriends before that but I always asked myself if I can see myself getting married to this girl and if not took appropriate steps to ensure that didnt happen. My ex-wife is the only woman on earth who has my children also.
Like I mentioned earlier, many of those 'bad men' keep their bad side hidden. Even my late husband told me (after we were married) that a "guy can't keep up that CHARADE forever." Once we married, he CHANGED.So why do you think you keep making poor choices with men? One would think that perhaps after bad man #2 that you would catch on, whoa I have to choose better. I have to...learn to say no.....??
Geez LuEEZ, what kind of answer did you expect? Where are all the feminists in that regard? Seriously?Not really an answer to my question. I’m disappointed but not surprised.
Feminism in its TRUE SENSE isn't "evil". You only see it as "evil" because you still see yourself as being 'superior' to women in general.Feminism is evil and its disregard for men, women, children and babies is seen at every turn.
LOLOL!!! Talk about delusional! Most single men I've met have ONE aspiration in life, and that's to have as many ORGASMS as they can with a woman!Agreed.
Men have two great aspirations in life. To have a good name in their Family and to have a good name in their work. Make sense? Yes.
It depends. IS he a bum and won't work, especially if SHE'S working?What is womans two biggest complaints in men?
1. He's a bum and wont work...
2. He's always working and never here...
Nowadays it doesn't cost a "man" money. It costs a couple money.There is a fine line between the two. If a man puts too much attention to either way, the other suffers! Spending more time with her being romantic costs a man money. Time off take a trip somewhere? Vacation? Even more money.
Too much of that and she's like, get a job boy. Go back to work, lol. Never satisfied.
LOLOL!!! Talk about delusional! Most single men I've met have ONE aspiration in life, and that's to have as many ORGASMS as they can with a woman!
It depends. IS he a bum and won't work, especially if SHE'S working?
And is HE putting in MORE HOURS THAT'S REQUIRED of him?
Did HE ever ask HER what SHE wanted from HIM?
Nowadays it doesn't cost a "man" money. It costs a couple money.
And being "romantic" doesn't cost a DIME if you KNOW how to be 'romantic'.
Unfortunately, one does not always know RIGHT AWAY that they made a poor choice until so much time has passed. As I said before, people in general don't always make their intentions known right away...and put their best foot forward until so much time has passed to where they feel 'safe' to reveal their true selves.Now look, it's not my fault that the men you pick are all bums and the only thing they bring to the table is their seed. I'm not one of those guys and your poor choices do not change my truth, LOLOL!!! ;) I must have hung out with a better crowd than you do?
Women 'like me' said 'no' too. But what that showed me, was that the men I met were pretty much interested in ONE thing.How in the world would I know something like that? I never dated women like you. I learned how to say no early, lol.
You probably DID make more money than me. It wasn't about "getting out there". It was a matter of survival, WITHOUT my parents AND without a man in my life. Gone were the days where a woman went to high school and maybe college to 'find a husband'. I wasn't looking for a husband in college. I had no idea if I would even FIND one.It wasnt like that in my day. Or maybe I just made more money than you? Or maybe you could be saying you "need" to work is a lie and you just want to get out there?
Ok....Being romantic used to not cost a dime or much (if you had the right girl).
In my early days, I found myself broke for some reason on what was supposed to be some sort of present day for the girl (Birthday? Valentines?) I forget which. So having no money I had to get real creative and be super romantic or I was gonna look bad to her!
You don't know what a "woman like ME" is like. I'm VERY sentimental. You would have "had" me at the handwritten list of the reasons why you loved me. And the lifesavers? PERFECT!You will laugh at it now and all women would prolly spit in my face for such a (low down dirty trick!!!) as this would be in todays world. I put seven small things wrapped seperately in a much bigger box in tissue paper so she had to searcg for them. One was a hand written list of the reasons why I love her, one was a small heart shaped candle that said I love you on the tin, one was a roll of LifeSavers! (Genius!), and, oh I forget what the rest of it was it was almost two eons ago, lol! And so I gave her this big box all wrapped up nice, and she said at once, Hey you cant afford anything big for me, you didnt have to do this...and I said, I didnt, just open it. And it took her awhile to go through it and find everything and she realized that more effort than money was put into this box and she found that very romantic and said so! So I won that time, Lol!
A woman like you would scoff at such a gift! I chose wisely. And later on her husband did build himself up to being a 6 figure husband, which ruined all that but it worked at the time.
You don't know what a "woman like ME" is like. I'm VERY sentimental. You would have "had" me at the handwritten list of the reasons why you loved me. And the lifesavers? PERFECT!
And I wouldn't have cared if you made 6 figures...I married BOTH of my husbands when they were unemployed.
Not all feminists are created equal. Why don't you GET that?
I really, REALLY love this idea! Not only for a spouse, but for my own daughters...or ANYONEThat was the hardest part of putting that box together is making that list of 50 reasons I love her. I really had to use some bring power there because 5 or 10 reasons is easy but 50 is a Lot longer! And I really had to look deeply to see these things on her and articulate them. It's easy to look at a person and see good in them. But can you do it 50 times? Whoa. I remember that.
I admit your replies do surprise me. You have said some things that I didnt expect. I, dont get that not all feminists are created equal because typically, women lie ever so much. She could have been having a 10 year extended affair on her man and when she gets caught she's all, it was one mistake, it was the first time and all that crap. Women always want to appear innocent and pure but 99.9999% of the time, they aint. My experience has shown me that for every one thing that women will admit to, there are 25 other things that she wont tell you. So I have a hard time believeing women in what they say.
And you stand up for feminism so yeah there's some angst in there somewhere and seeing you are a woman how could I not think, women like you.
If you want me to believe you more perhaps you should not talk down the biblical principles that were in place for long before you & I ever came about.
You have a problem with God's precepts and rules, but you are holding it against men.
A proverbs 31 wife would not do that.
I learned that early, if ya aint got money then you gotta be extra romantic, lol. l.I really, REALLY love this idea! Not only for a spouse, but for my own daughters...or ANYONE
What in the world...? That was terribly romantic of you! And the 'romantic' in ME, would be saving the Lifesavers wrapper...and melting a splatter of wax from the candle onto the paper that said, "I love you"...and pressing it all into some hard plastic, adding the date it was given to me. I might even make the Lifesavers as a "thing" between us. Present you with a pack every so often with the words, "You were MY Lifesaver. I hope I can be yours."I learned that early, if ya aint got money then you gotta be extra romantic, lol. l.
She had a ball going through the box to find them and stuff!
Being romantic isnt hard to do but one does have to put some thought into it.
It's surprising to me that you can see that it was romantic. I thought you might be like other feminists and get mad at me and yell at me. I guess that shows that you can be a thinking woman! Good on ya for that.