The women in my family are strong and beautiful. I care about them a great deal but I noticed that the married ones who took on the burden of leadership in their marriages suffered for it, including my Mom. Those unmarried pursued independence but seemed unhappy with that as well.
Seeming to be unhappy isn't the same thing as BEING unhappy. Plus, there could be a myriad of reasons why they were unhappy that had nothing to do with independence or leading in their marriages.
My Mom didn't head the family just to be some boss babe. She felt she must have a career and lead us in order to give us a great start in life. But I saw the physical and mental strain this put on her. I saw that she honestly resented it at times.
Did she actually TELL you this or are you making your own conclusions based on your own convictions?
We are tempted as women to envy the respect that men get.
As a woman, are you envying the respect that men get?
You have complained about how women who choose to be homemakers aren't getting the
respect that you think they deserve, for making that choice. While women now have the
legal choice to be a homemaker, there's no guarantee that they'll be respected for doing so. And it's like that with every other job a woman takes on. Even if she works in the typical female dominated professions, it doesn't necessarily mean she'll be respected for being there.
Yes, Wynona. YOU want respect for your profession. For your choice of profession. Maybe not the same respect as your husband would get, but respect, nonetheless. The respect you deserve
is not lesser than the respect your husband would get, or that a female CEO should get.
But are we willing to put up with as much crap as they do without putting the burden of leadership down? And if we are, is it worth the toll it takes on our minds and bodies?
Who says 'we' don't put up with as much crap as 'they' do?
The burden of leading the family wasn't always this great thing for my Mom and I saw this. Nor did financial independence or success salvage the lonely childlessness of many other women in my family.
The reality is that sometimes you want things not to be all on you all the time.
Many men feel the same way. Many don't want ALL the financial burden put on them or ALL of the leadership responsibility to be put on them or even ALL of the 'asking a woman out' to be put on them. I've heard from men in relationship forums for the past 25 years, and believe me...many men feel OVERWHELMED by the perceived expectations of 'society'. Some men simply aren't equipped to be leaders, even in their own homes.
But often, women can't. This is not how God wanted us to live. While it may be necessary at times, God's best will always be that women are sacrificially lead and are protected by a man they can trust.
Well, if it's "necessary" sometimes, isn't THAT God's will? Plenty of women out there can't find a man, even though they may want one. That may be God's will, too. And even if they DO find a man, it doesn't mean that the man they find WANTS to be the leader, a provider or a protector. Is that God's will too?