trying to understand and apply the parable of the unmerciful servant to my current life situation.

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thelord's_pearl

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I'm trying to really understand the parable of the unmerciful servant if anyone can help.

Matthew 18:21-35​

English Standard Version​

The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant​

21 Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.
23 “Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants.[a] 24 When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents.[b] 25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26 So the servant[c] fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ 27 And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. 28 But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii,[d] and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ 29 So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ 30 He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. 31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. 32 Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ 34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers,[e] until he should pay all his debt. 35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”
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So does this parable mean that how merciful God is towards our sin and debt is based on how merciful we are to others? So if we are really merciful to others with their debts then God will be really merciful to us with our debts and will be as merciful as to cancel our debt in full, and if he cancels our debt in full it means that he does not punish us at all for our sins if we 1) confess, repent and forsake our sin and have a contrite heart and 2) we're so merciful to others as to cancel other people's sin debt on us??? Is this what this parable means? Thanks! I think this will help me immensely.
 
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It shows his forgiveness of the servants sins, and the one that becomes the wicked servant is a forgiven servant not extending forgivenes to those who owe him so little in comparison as to what the Lord had previously forgiven him.

I always loved this one, in terms of "borrowing and not paying again: versus being merciful

Psalm 37:21 The wicked borroweth, and payeth not again: but the righteous sheweth mercy, and giveth.

Matt 18:32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me:

Mat 18:33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?

So this is an "already forgiven" servant that becomes "the wicked servant" for not extending what his Lord extending to him (not being merciful).

It says here also

Prov 21:7 The robbery of the wicked shall destroy them; because they refuse to do judgment.

When true judgment executed is actually shown to be mercy

Zec 7:9 Thus speaketh the LORD of hosts, saying, Execute true judgment, and shew mercy and compassions every man to his brother.

Then says here also

James 2:18 For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy; and mercy rejoiceth against judgment.

And so we see

Mat 18:34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.

Then Jesus tells us

Mat 18:35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.

So in conclusion,

Luke 6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.

And again,

Mat 5:7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
 

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So does this parable mean that how merciful God is towards our sin and debt is based on how merciful we are to others? So if we are really merciful to others with their debts then God will be really merciful to us with our debts and will be as merciful as to cancel our debt in full, and if he cancels our debt in full it means that he does not punish us at all for our sins if we 1) confess, repent and forsake our sin and have a contrite heart and 2) we're so merciful to others as to cancel other people's sin debt on us??? Is this what this parable means? Thanks! I think this will help me immensely.
I think...

One of the purposes of this parable is to get us thinking about what it would be like if God treated us the way we treat others. And vice-versa, to remember how God has put up with our ... stuff when our relationships with other people get difficult.
 
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So I have read my study bible about this and it explained something like in those times, the consequence for a debt would be to work or be in prison until you can pay up so I see here that God cancelled/pardoned the servant in full and so he didn't have to go through the consequence of what he was indebted to at first, until he found out that the servant was so unmerciful. So what do others have to say and really know and understand about this parable? Thank you so much.
 
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Proverbs 16:6 By mercy and truth iniquity is purged:
and by the fear of the LORD men depart from evil.

The one being handed over to the tormentors for an unspecified time (or TILL) he paid what was due him, could also indicate the fear due to the LORD in departing from ones own evil.

Since fear hath "torment", so the one being handed over to that which torments (or tormentors) belong to evil doing (such as in this case, in someone not showing mercy) which is sort of like a spirit of judgment, or a reward into their bosom (a judgment without mercy shown to someone who shows no mercy, such as in this case). So one might learn to execute true judgment which is actually to show mercy.

Learning (or taught through discipline) how to chose what He delights in, which again is showing mercy.
 

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So I spoke with my sister earlier today and she gave me an answer. She said that God is always merciful and that He was not unmerciful to the wicked servant. He just made him pay every penny as he is supposed to but that He is still merciful so as to let him repent and change and then come back and have another chance.

As to apply God's Word to my current life situation, my sister told me that if God thinks I need discipline, He will allow the consequences of sin to happen but that I can trust that it will be from a loving care standpoint and it will be merciful.
 
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The Lord from the very beginning of the parable extended his mercy to all in that parable. Only one of them who had received His mercy (but extended not his mercy to another) is called the wicked servant, and that was the one who he handed over to the tormentors.
 

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As to apply God's Word to my current life situation, my sister told me that if God thinks I need discipline, He will allow the consequences of sin to happen

Ah Pearl, our first primary sin in all cases our to turn away from God. We often do that by simply trying to do God's job by acting God like. Out of this turning away from God, we lose our God provided compass that leads us away from committing the measurable manifested sins, like, I shall not Steal, I shall not kill, I shall not commit adultery, I shall not worship idols. When we realise that we are committing these measurable sins, it is the primary sin of turning away from God that we need to repent of. If we are genuine in our repentance of turning away from God, then all of our sins are forgiven, and we have fresh sheet so to speak of in God's eyes.

The measurable manifested sins however, although forgiven, have residual consequences that need to be rectified with the people, we committed them against. This also includes us, because these sins we have done them against us as well.

The biggest problem we have is that Satan and his fellow demons are still whispering in our ears, and we need to declare that all that is of me, shall worship God. That those entities, which has taken up residence in me, who will not worship God shall go to the place prepared for them to wait and shall not return or leave the place prepared for them.

Now I will openly worship God with my whole being, doing the things that are pleasing to God that He is encouraging me to become involved in. Now we have to retrain our ears so that we only listen to the Promptings coming from God.

This is a journey that we all go on as we strive to become a pleasing odour for God to enjoy in His temple.

Shalom