if the lord GOD will marry me to someone she must have no children and be kind and social and holy somewhat either case i get her in heaven perfect !
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David Lamb
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You seem to want to tell Almighty God what to do. Forgive me if I am wrong, but you seem to be saying, "If God wants me to marry a certain girl, I will only marry her if she fits my requirements." In other words, you seem to be putting yourself and what you want above God and what He wants.
sheeplike
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God gave me the poorest women (widow) with two children (without father). She suffered from severe depressions, when I met her (2008 in N'Djamena) and had not eaten since 2 days - nor the kids. I employed her first as a "housekeeper", then I helped her a little: we bought a plot of land in NDJ, built a house (cheap, we talk about 1000)... when I left Chad, she followed me to Juba, South Sudan, then to Ouagadougou, then to Bangui, Central African Republic and we became close friends. Very close (ähm - more than the bible allows...). We then made Montenegro for 4 years together, and both kids started to visit the international school (FR). After this it was Sudan, again Chad and now Senegal. We married twice (Sudan was worth shit and is now in war, but Senegal is now recognized). The result is: When you follow James 1:21 (I think, or is it 22?) you do something good. Both kids are now in France, studying. And she is about to leave Senegal and will come here. Nevertheless - we keep the Apartment in Africa - and sustain some Christians there. Its a lot of fun. This is real love. I trust her with my life, money - everything. You can trust an old man - who has really seen it all (Afghanistan included for 6 years). The world is basically sad, help is only with God and faith. The only way. Sorry - was too long.
Not everyone is meant for marriage and you still have to do the leg work she's not going to come knocking on the door.Just live your life if you get married you get married trust in God.There are no guarantees as a matter of fact Jesus said its better to be single if you can. If not then get married.
7 The proud religious law-keepers said to Jesus, “Then why did the Law of Moses allow a man to divorce his wife if he put it down in writing and gave it to her?” 8 Jesus said to them, “Because of your hard hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives. It was not like that from the beginning. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sex sins, and marries another, is guilty of sex sins in marriage. Whoever marries her that is divorced is guilty of sex sins in marriage.”0
10 His followers said to Him, “If that is the way of a man with his wife, it is better not to be married.” 11 But Jesus said to them, “Not all men are able to do this, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are some men who from birth will never be able to have children. There are some men who have been made so by men. There are some men who have had themselves made that way because of the holy nation of heaven. The one who is able to do this, let him do it.”
7 The proud religious law-keepers said to Jesus, “Then why did the Law of Moses allow a man to divorce his wife if he put it down in writing and gave it to her?” 8 Jesus said to them, “Because of your hard hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives. It was not like that from the beginning. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sex sins, and marries another, is guilty of sex sins in marriage. Whoever marries her that is divorced is guilty of sex sins in marriage.”0
10 His followers said to Him, “If that is the way of a man with his wife, it is better not to be married.” 11 But Jesus said to them, “Not all men are able to do this, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are some men who from birth will never be able to have children. There are some men who have been made so by men. There are some men who have had themselves made that way because of the holy nation of heaven. The one who is able to do this, let him do it.”
David Lamb
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If her first husband died, or if he had been unfaithful to her, then tat would be no problem.
sheeplike
New Member
He died in a motorbike accident. I know the difference. The kids do not even know him. Son was 1 year, daughter still in the womb.
David Lamb
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sheeplike
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And a funny story about her: When she came to Juba, she flew for the first time in her life. When the plane was about to land, she thought, in Addis Ababa only children were living, as the houses were so small.... Yes, we had a lot to laugh: But SHE brought me back to God - after 30 years being a JW.
Lambano
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I remember ...
I had accepted a job 3,500 km. from home. I was lonely in a new city and facing the holidays all alone for the first time in my life. I prayed to God about the loneliness. I thought I knew the kind of woman I wanted. What God sent me instead was an older woman, divorced with two boys, with scars on her body and scars on her soul from a decade of physical and mental abuse. We celebrated are 40th wedding anniversary last autumn.
What if she has kids? Then you raise them and love them as best you can, with whatever grace God gives you. Even when you know you'll never be their "real father" to them.
sheeplike
New Member
Can I call you brother? Seems we have a lot in common.As well the age. I suppose.
Lambano
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What if she has? If she's God's choice for you will you reject her. Will you reject her is she is a bit taller than you are a little on the plumb side? If God chooses a lady for you she will be the best.
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