Praise God with me....I need a man!

[Rockerduck]

My friends are in the forum...I don’t have any friends...in this world...other than a couple of acquaintances.....not everyone has the same needs.....my need is to know more of the heart of God.....unfortunately some people in the world are led by their emotions...one day hot the next day cold...their friendship is “ conditional “...from my own experiences of friends.

When I go shopping, God usually brings me people to have a natter with.....that’s enough for me.

Yes, Christ meets my needs. He is my friend and Savior. This world is not my home because my home is in Heaven. I like a group of friends to talk to about Jesus, that's my bible study. Coffee and Jesus in the morning and praising Jesus the rest of the day. Its a powerful thing that God will bring a friend into your life just as you need it. Never knowing that you needed the friend.

 

[Ritajanice]

Yes, Christ meets my needs. He is my friend and Savior. This world is not my home because my home is in Heaven. I like a group of friends to talk to about Jesus, that's my bible study. Coffee and Jesus in the morning and praising Jesus the rest of the day. Its a powerful thing that God will bring a friend into your life just as you need it. Never knowing that you needed the friend.

I don’t need a friend..so please don’t speak for me.

You have just explained your own experiences....my friends are on this forum and I fellowship with them...

God has his own will for my life...I am very much enjoying him at the moment...

 

[Ritajanice]

So you really didn't read that conversation I wrote to you,

Some things like"hey hey you you,I can be your girlfriend, no way no way thinking in a new way."

I told you why, I haven’t been able to concentrate on your “ lengthy” message to me.

My way of thinking ,is to rely on God for a husband....not a boyfriend or girlfriend here one week gone the next...of my own choosing....been there done all that....devastating consequences.....now ..I rely 100% on God.

If he brings me someone to share my life with , it will be a husband...not a boyfriend that may only last for a few weeks or months...I’m not into boyfriends.....like many people have these days...friends with benefits...not my scene...it’s the worlds scene..yuck!

My belief is that ,if it’s Gods will for my life..he will bring me a husband....when or if he does...my spirit will recognise him straight away....that is my belief only.

 

[soberxp]

I told you why, I haven’t been able to concentrate on your “ lengthy” message to me.

My way of thinking ,is to rely on God for a husband....not a boyfriend or girlfriend here one week gone the next...of my own choosing....been there done all that....devastating consequences.....now ..I rely 100% on God.

If he brings me someone to share my life with , it will be a husband...not a boyfriend that may only last for a few weeks or months...I’m not into boyfriends.....like many people have these days...friends with benefits...not my scene...it’s the worlds scene..yuck!

My belief is that ,if it’s Gods will for my life..he will bring me a husband....when or if he does...my spirit will recognise him straight away....that is my belief only.

You are eating the fruit of the tree of good and evil. The discussion here does not include these things. Boyfriend or girlfriend, there is not so much meaning of good and evil before we eat the fruit of the tree of good and evil.

 

[Ritajanice]

You are eating the fruit of the tree of good and evil. The discussion here does not include these things. Boyfriend or girlfriend, there is not so much meaning of good and evil before we eat the fruit of the tree of good and evil.

Your post makes absolutely no sense to me...respectfully.

I’m Born Again..and as the word says, a Born Again does not continue to sin because they have been Born Of God’s seed.

That resonates with my spirit.as it’s biblical...your post above isn’t.

 

[Debp]

So what do you think should happen after we die ?

We will be in God's holy presence....no more sin, suffering or illness.

More information with scriptures....

What is heaven like? | GotQuestions.org

What is heaven like? What will heaven be like? What does heaven look like?

www.gotquestions.org

 

[soberxp]

We will be in God's holy presence....no more sin, suffering or illness.

More information with scriptures....

What is heaven like? | GotQuestions.org

What is heaven like? What will heaven be like? What does heaven look like?

www.gotquestions.org

So partnership is a sin? Start at Genesis?

 

[Debp]

So partnership is a sin? Start at Genesis?

I think you are confusing earthly life with heavenly life.

Are you Mormon?

 

[soberxp]

Are you Mormon?

No.
I'm just asking if partnership is a sin since Genesis, when did God say that partnership is a sin.

 

[Ritajanice]

We will be in God's holy presence....no more sin, suffering or illness.

More information with scriptures....

What is heaven like? | GotQuestions.org

What is heaven like? What will heaven be like? What does heaven look like?

www.gotquestions.org

Amen!...Praise God..no more suffering,Sis.

 

[Ritajanice]

So partnership is a sin? Start at Genesis?

What do you mean, partnership is a sin.....ah...do you mean having a boyfriend or girlfriend?

As long as you aren’t having sex...or getting intimate.how can it be a sin...having a boy friend or girl friend.

My window cleaner is a friend...not a close friend...I make him coffee after he has cleaned my windows...he’s been cleaning my windows for the past 12 years...we have a friendly chat over coffee....we aren’t in any type of committed relationship......committed to me means marriage is on the cards....but, no sex before marriage....I’ve already explained this to you in a pm.

 

[soberxp]

What do you mean, partnership is a sin.....ah...do you mean having a boyfriend or girlfriend?

As long as you aren’t having sex...or getting intimate.how can it be a sin...having a boy friend or girl friend.

My window cleaner is a friend...not a close friend...I make him coffee after he has cleaned my windows...he’s been cleaning my windows for the past 12 years...we have a friendly chat over coffee....we aren’t in any type of committed relationship......committed to me means marriage is on the cards....but, no sex before marriage....I’ve already explained this to you in a pm.

I'm really confused. If partnership is a sin in heaven, then I deserve to be alone.

 

[Ritajanice]

I'm really confused. If partnership is a sin in heaven, then I deserve to be alone.

What do you mean by partnership?

Explain what partnership means to you..

 

[amigo de christo]

@Debp .....when we’re totally and utterly in Love with God...how can we ever truly be lonely....?

I used to be co- dependant on my husbands and even my family , as a Born Again.

God imo wants us to be totally dependent on him 100%...has taken many years to understand that.

At the moment all I want to do, is seek more and more of God’s heart out...I ain’t got time these days...dwelling on him bringing me a husband...LOL.

This isn’t undermining the OP starter post....she is where she is at, in her walk with God....she spoke from her heart honestly and I admire her for doing that...she made herself vulnerable.

The LORD is our hope and our salvation . Paul lived single his whole life and he did have the JOY of the LORD indeed dear sister .
Let all that has breath praise and thank the LORD .

 

[Debp]

I'm really confused. If partnership is a sin in heaven, then I deserve to be alone.

As @Ritajanice asked, please explain your definition of partnership.

If you are talking of romantic partnership, there is no such thing in Heaven. As Jesus said there is no marrying or giving anyone in marriage in Heaven.

 

[soberxp]

What do you mean by partnership?

Explain what partnership means to you..

This meaning is written in Genesis, before Adam and Eve had children, the meaning of helping each other. As the Holy spirit help us.

I always thought that if Adam and Eve did not eat from the tree of good and evil, they would not need to have children. Although Genesis describes be fruitful and multiply.I think it's because God knew they would eat the fruit of the tree of good and evil. So it was arranged and planned by God from the beginning.

 

[DuckieLady]

Peeps...

I'm so very single, and want a man to keep me company.

So I am going to use this wonderful Praise forum, in order to keep a focus on progress, and hopefully to encourage those in the throws of any loneliness and document my progress, on meeting the "one for me"

So a bit about me...

I broke up with my last partner many years ago ( I was not a christian back then, and he had an affair) and we have two wonderful grown children in the military doing well in themselves.
I have not met anyone I like enough to marry or keep as a life partner since then... everyone seems to be taken, or I am just not feeling the love.
All I have ever wanted was to fall in love and get married which has never happened and it feels like a military operation

I work with many men, but most are all younger than me,( I work with the military too in a large military complex. I have only been there 4 month) I have been to churches and either they are married or there are more women than men. My current church is full of women LOL. I have tried dating sites and they all seem like a conveyer belt... Just swipe left ...
They seem to all be looking for hook ups. And the dating site I used, tried to charge me after I left and avoided my cancellation plee for ages, charging me even after dumping the service.


There is currently a man right now on my radar at work, I will call Derek. (not his real name)

Derek is someone at work who is a civilian trainer, who I cheekily asked for some of his home made wine after finding out he brews it himself. It tasted alright but it nearly gave me lockjaw but I wont tell him that. I have not noticed a ring on his finger yet, so next time I see him I hope to ask more about him if he has no ring or no girlfriend. I don't know when I will see Derek again, he only pops in now and then..in the meantime here's to all you single lonely people out there....



I will not give up, because, ....

Romans 5:3-5 NIV. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.


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More to come...

Focus on God first. The one He plans is worth the wait.

Do NOT compromise and become unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Mr. Right Now and Available Right Here is not Mr. Right Forever.

Focus on becoming the wife God chooses and God will bring you the husband he chooses.

 

[Wrangler]

Thought I'd give my 2 cents with my own life experiences, 7 grown children and 18 grandchildren and will openly share my thoughts from the heart. 1st, @LittleTuneAlright, there are only a few people even on this forum whose input on such matters have earned my respect. On the female perspective, these include @Debp, @Ritajanice and @Wynona.

2nd, Naturally, I can only provide a male perspective but I have 6 daughters (5 step, 3 who I raised) and 1 stepson who was badly burned a couple of times. All my stepdaughters married their 1st or 2nd boyfriend, which is very rare these days.

I have not met anyone I like enough to marry or keep as a life partner

In another thread, I posted literally 100's of vids on the topic of male-female relationships today. Competing drivers are feminist ideology and natural hypergamy. Neither align with the will of God. See John 7:24 (Judge not on appearance).

This post is most revealing and disturbing. Implied is that you have met an abundance of eligible bachelors but they fail to give you the "tingles" as one YouTuber put it. A feminist mantra that is very destructive to female happiness in relationships is "don't settle." Appealing to pride and vanity, women take themselves out of the dating-sexual marketplace - and then it's too late. They hit the wall and are no longer the type of woman the man they want is seeking. There's a Youtube channel called Pearl who confesses women are not good at choosing a mate. The objective measures she uses in coming to this conclusion are:

1. Women have more power to decide their mate than at any time in human history.
2. The divorce rate is very high with women initiating 80% of divorces.

I submit this fleshy, emotional criteria is flawed. My advice is don't rely on the emotional "tingles" but character, starting with your own. Be the woman the man you want would want. @Debp put it perfectly.

A decade ago I professionally mentored a young engineer. He's become like a son to me and we've had many conversations about this very important matter. His mother is beyond exasperated with his progress (or lack of progress) in giving her grandchildren. One day his aunt and his mother asked him what he is looking for in a woman. He gave a one word answer that surprised them and one they had nothing to say about it as it stopped the conversation.

They were referring to superficial, physical attributes but his answer was responsibility, especially emotional responsibility. This includes the capacity to keep a commitment. They eventually mocked his preference in woman but disrespecting his criteria is not producing grandchildren any faster, is it?

All I have ever wanted was to fall in love

"In love" reveals the new age addiction to emotion. The Bible does not glorify this form of so-called love, which is really idolatry.

I have been to churches and either they are married or there are more women than men. My current church is full of women LOL. I have tried dating sites and they all seem like a conveyer belt... Just swipe left ...
They seem to all be looking for hook ups.

Indeed. Perhaps avoiding disaster is the best path you could have taken so far. :-(

Derek is someone at work who is a civilian trainer, who I cheekily asked for some of his home made wine

I enjoy wine also but why not ask him what he is looking for in a partner and try to be a woman of that character? Don't accept the first thing he says but ask him to think about it and expand on his answer and why that is important to him. Men will often talk if you show you're genuinely willing to listen and value his words.

I will not give up, because, ....

Romans 5:3-5 NIV

I'm proud of you

The only advice I gave any of my daughters was to my oldest daughter when she was in a fetal position for days after the repeated bad treatment of her 1st boyfriend. I told her that there are a lot of jerks in the world. You don't have to date them all.

I think the most important thing is to find out if he is a believer. If he's not a born again Christian, you will just be asking for trouble I think.

Exactly right @Debp! On what foundation shall we build? Luke 20:17. I found there are 3 irreplaceable virtues every positive, healthy relationship is built on:

1. Integrity
2. Respect
3. Responsibility

You need Christian friends. We all need friends. We help those in need and friends help. Develop close friendships with females, young and old. God will open your eyes through friendships.

Agreed. 1 Corinthians 15:33.

 

[Wynona]

I submit this fleshy, emotional criteria is flawed. My advice is don't rely on the emotional "tingles" but character, starting with your own. Be the woman the man you want would want

Sound advice. A handsome man gives you the tingles.

A man who fears the Lord is someone who will keep stepping up till you have an abundant life.