WHO GETS THE HOUSE?

[GodsGrace]

I have battled with anxiety most of my life, would you believe that they think it started when me and my twin brother were separated when we were a few weeks old, he stayed in hosp and I went home. When he joined the army when we were sixteen my world fell apart and I nose dived into a depression- he now lives in Germany. It triggers in the pit of my stomach constantly, so it’s not a mental anxiety it’s much deeper. I get it, I understand it , but just can’t stop it - drives me nuts !
Whats normal - does that actually really exist !! lol

Of course it happened when he joined the army! Don't have to be a psychologist to know that.
My friends that I'm talking about lives in Berlin...she's Italian from London but is in Germany due to his work.
Anxiety is a real thing....most think it's some kind of emotional instability ....but it's far more than that and affects every
facet of life.

Normal....the definition used to be WHAT THE MAJORITY DEEMs TO BE CORRECT....
Who knows what it means these days...I sure don't know.
I really believe mainline Christians are normal...because they follow God's rules and God's rules are for our
benefit.

 

[GodsGrace]

You said^
I commented “where is he getting his information from?”

I was only referring to the above where you had commented “Apparently he could remove her because she was in tears yesterday when she found out.” I guess I misunderstood and assumed someone told him he could remove her.

Actually, we're not in communication with him. But he removed her from the policy,,,so we have to assume that he could.

That sounds like he claimed or thought he has law enforcement on his side to remove her from the house.

Oh no!
Not at all.

That is why I asked “where is he getting his information.” I see now, maybe he isn’t getting information from no one, instead he tells her he can remove her. Which I would be shocked if he can.

We'll have to wait and see. Each European country has their own rules.
I'd be shocked too.

Maybe if she’d hit him over the head with a bat, he could have her removed on the basis his life is in danger. But not because he just wants out of a 25 year marriage. (Imo)

Wow. That is a long time. I really don’t have any more to contribute. I hope she is okay. I’ll keep her in my thoughts and prayers.

Thanks Victory. That's all we could do.

 

[GodsGrace]

Please note that I suggested that as God draws them into His Loving Embrace that the best solution for both of them will be the outcome, whatever that may be.

This is a God Problem to solve, and our prayers should reflect our willingness to hand all of the issues within this particular relationship over to God to resolve. Otherwise, we are getting in the way for God to be God.

Jay,,,,my opinion is that EVERYTHING that is going on in the world these days is a God problem...
or, can we say, a LACK OF GOD in our society.

 

[GodsGrace]

He can't do that.

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Your friend needs to get a divorce attorney.ASAP.

In the meantime,if this is occurring in America, she might Google her state name then seek and answer to the question about the house.

She's living in Berlin Pepper.
SHE doesn't even know what the law is.
She MUST go to a different atty because this one is too lax.

And, whatever the law is regarding the removal of a spouse from health insurance...
I'll have to say that no matter what this shows a flagrant disregard for a woman he lived with for 25 years..

 

[MA2444]

She didn't cheat.
She's not the type and her faithfulness in remaining with him with his problems proves it.
I agree with all you've said...it seems only right.

It sounds like the husband cheated then and that's why he wants her out. Something triggered it, Jay was right.

You can see what the man has in his heart. 25 years...get out? That's greed and perhaps the green grass syndrome.

 

[GodsGrace]

It sounds like the husband cheated then and that's why he wants her out. Something triggered it, Jay was right.

You can see what the man has in his heart. 25 years...get out? That's greed and perhaps the green grass syndrome.

I kind of doubt it....but who can know for sure?
Only him and only her.
I think, my opinion, that his depression has a lot to do with this.

 

[amigo de christo]

Jay,,,,my opinion is that EVERYTHING that is going on in the world these days is a God problem...
or, can we say, a LACK OF GOD in our society.

Everything , every problem is a result of a lack of GOD in society .
Think about it dear friend . Had everyone been a believer in Christ and following the Spirit
error would be absent . WHY does GOD warn us NOT to do and tells us what to DO .
The more reprobate society has become , due to the rejecting of GOD , the worse its gonna get too .
The largest one world religoin which will merge all under what they see and believe is love and of GOD
which though it cries will usher in peace n safety and has given society and the religoins a false hope
a false solution , will have led them only to this , SUDDEN destruction .
Take note their is one that has come in his own name
to preach a love that appeases both the religoins and society and has promised peace n safety , peace in the
middle east . A covenant of great darkness has been offered up under the guise its love and by its means
can attain peace n safety in the world .
NOW that be the house everyone needs to get out of quickly . its humansitic love will save none .

 

[amigo de christo]

I kind of doubt it....but who can know for sure?
Only him and only her.
I think, my opinion, that his depression has a lot to do with this.

a mind stayed upon the LORD has hope .
a mind focused upon this life and the world is as the sea driven by the winds
and the waves be crashing upon the shore. No stability , no real hope
only the idea of what it thinks will give it what it needs . And yet even when it gets those things
its but for a moment before the mind is once again troubled .
Cant nothing fill or fullfill a person , LIKE GOD can . EVEN in the worst of times
them men could sing in prison . HE or She whose mind is stayed , stayed Upon the LORD has peace
the moment that mind gets distracted from its HOPE , its focus on THE LORD
the flesh has no rest nor the one who seeks that pleasure .
There is a pattern and that pattern works for it is GOD inspired .
We can see it in what the apostles also left us to read as well as other places in the bible .
IT works . mans ways that always try and either add too or take from , WILL NEVER WORK .

 

[Lizbeth]

I told her to try another lawyer...this one seems too compliant to what the husband wants.
Selling the home and splitting...yes...others have said this.
You know what they say: A house is not a home.
But, yes, that may have to be the solution....I doubt she could buy her half since she's been home practically all her life.

I have 14 families in my immediate vicinity/neighborhood. 4 of them are divorced.
This one is "very close to home" and it saddens me deeply.

My personal belief is that HE should leave the home....I don't know why she has to pay for his bad decision.

So even when it SEEMS like a couple is getting along well, there still might be something rotten going on.
And see my post no. 9

If she has had to give up earnings over the years ( and eventually long term this might mean she has basically given up her ability to support herself), in order to stay home to look after her mentally ill husband and their house, I think justice would require that this be taken into account. And if the husband were to realize he will end up with little or nothing, he might even change his mind about leaving. Except that his judgment might be impaired due to the mental illness (and medications he might be on).

Because of his illness and emotional instability, this might even all blow over if the wife can just wait it out. She certainly doesn't have to leave the home on his say-so. It can be very hard for family members to separate the mental illness from the person and see the person and their behaviour objectively. Hope she is able to get some professional advice and objective opinion as to what is going on with her husband, as well as what her situation is legally in the country where she lives.

 

[amigo de christo]

I kind of doubt it....but who can know for sure?
Only him and only her.
I think, my opinion, that his depression has a lot to do with this.

why is it that often people in a marriage become depressed .
Because their focus became upon self . SELF IS ONE HUNGRY MONSTER that can never have enough .
Better we put the welfare of the other above our own selves .
JESUS never came to serve his own self .
Self always seeks its own , not what is best for the other .
The longer the mind be stayed upon IF ONLY I had this or that , and not rather I HAVE ALL I NEED IN CHRIST ,
the worse it gets too . The grass always looks greener to the mind that seeks its own pleasures .
But for those whose minds be stayed upon the LORD , PUTTING HIM FIRST above all
and then putting the even the welfare of others before its own , THAT ONE HAPPY SOUL .
The mark is JESUS THE CHRIST let all learn of HIM and stay refreshed and stirred up by REMEMBRANCE
of all things that were written for our adomintion in said scrips . This world is fading and nothing shall remain ,
not a house one , a state one , a country , its govts , its kings .
A NEW HEAVENS , A NEW WORLD is a coming . GOD will destroy the old and those who rejected CHRIST along
with it as all evil will one day be eradicated . HOPE IN GOD and be always thankful to HIM
for his abudant mercies given us IN JESUS CHRIST .

 

[Lizbeth]

Everything , every problem is a result of a lack of GOD in society .

Amen...very much so.

 

[GodsGrace]

If she has had to give up earnings over the years ( and eventually long term this might mean she has basically given up her ability to support herself), in order to stay home to look after her mentally ill husband and their house, I think justice would require that this be taken into account.

This is the situation and I agree wholeheartedly.

And if the husband were to realize he will end up with little or nothing, he might even change his mind about leaving. Except that his judgment might be impaired due to the mental illness (and medications he might be on).

Again...agreed. I don't think he's thinking straight but it's not passing this time around.
He's been through this before.
She's sorry that, in hindsight, she didn't get herself either emotionally or financially ready for this.
She said she should have seen this coming from even a couple of years ago.

Because of his illness and emotional instability, this might even all blow over if the wife can just wait it out. She certainly doesn't have to leave the home on his say-so. It can be very hard for family members to separate the mental illness from the person and see the person and their behaviour objectively. Hope she is able to get some professional advice and objective opinion as to what is going on with her husband, as well as what her situation is legally in the country where she lives.

Absolutely right on...
I also believe she's having a difficult time accepting this and, in the back of her mind,
she just wishes it would go away like last time (but it wasn't this bad).

 

[Lizbeth]

This is the situation and I agree wholeheartedly.

Again...agreed. I don't think he's thinking straight but it's not passing this time around.
He's been through this before.
She's sorry that, in hindsight, she didn't get herself either emotionally or financially ready for this.
She said she should have seen this coming from even a couple of years ago.


Absolutely right on...
I also believe she's having a difficult time accepting this and, in the back of her mind,
she just wishes it would go away like last time (but it wasn't this bad).

Mental illness often gets worse over the years, and the meds take a toll too. Very, very difficult for spouses and family, my heart goes out to them.

 

[amigo de christo]

Mental illness often gets worse over the years, and the meds take a toll too. Very, very difficult for spouses and family, my heart goes out to them.

Did you realize that now a tremendous amount of people are mentally ill .
Society itself is
I mean how many genders do we have today . We do realize what insanity is right .
While its true most think its me who is mental
well it was heard some say Christ was beside himself as well .
This world is going insane in the membrane .
Were it not FOR CHRIST
i would probably have had to get on some prescription drugs myself just to be able to cope
with all the insanity i see today . But HE is with us and we are gonna be fine sister .

 

[amigo de christo]

I kind of doubt it....but who can know for sure?
Only him and only her.
I think, my opinion, that his depression has a lot to do with this.

There is a way which seems right to society
there is a way which seems wrong to society .
THEN THERE IS GODS WAY . WE CHOOSE that WAY my friend .

 

[amigo de christo]

Mental illness often gets worse over the years, and the meds take a toll too. Very, very difficult for spouses and family, my heart goes out to them.

Look around sister . You are correct . this mental insanity i see in society is gettng worse and worse .
And they running to the wrong cure and that is why ITS GETTING worse and worse .

 

[GodsGrace]

There is a way which seems right to society
there is a way which seems wrong to society .
THEN THERE IS GODS WAY . WE CHOOSE that WAY my friend .

Not many of us left Amigo...

 

[amigo de christo]

Not many of us left Amigo...

I have a motto , though i said it not first .
LET GOD BE TRUE but every man a liar . When any human speaks
they must be tested . And if what they say contradicts what GOD has said , THEY THE LIAR and wont be heeded by ME .
To ME EVERY WORD OF GOD BE TRUE .
And that bible is SWOLLEN WITH HIMS WORDS .
But men have always loved what men have loved .
But sheep love WHAT PLEASES GOD . Every word of TRUTH is meat for the soul of a sheep .
He who adds too or takes from such lovely words , WILL NOT BE HEEDED by me .
This church age has fallen DEEP in love with what THEY SO THINK so such wisdom
and yet for all them wise sounding speeches and words , REAL SIMPLE to see
that all that is getting done by these so called wise men , IS THEY TWISTING STUFF TO FIT THEY OWN agenda
and own doctrine . THEMS wont be heeded by ME .

 

[amigo de christo]

Not many of us left Amigo...

To the trenches my friend . the hour is late .

 

[amigo de christo]

Not many of us left Amigo...

Interfaith will destroy them all . No man can stand before GOD on judgment day
without the mercy of HIS grace which is given to those in Christ Jesus .
If a man thinks his religoin , his works , his so called love can save him he has decieved himself .
If a man believes He can stand before GOD and offer up his own works as a bargaining chip before God
that man is blind to the standards of a HOLY RIGHTEOUS GOD
and blind He is to the depravity of his own self that falls far short of the GLORY of GOD .
interfaith a fools gospel and its love will save none . WE SHOULD HAVE PREACHED JESUS to them ,
not told them we all serving the same GOD . the blood of many will be upon much of even christendom who
wallked these religoins and themselves right to damnation . GOD provided the world a lamb , and I SUGGEST we preach
ONLY HIS NAME , JESUS THE CHRIST , and the dire need to beleive on HIM to all .