This shows how callous he's become...he cares nothing for her or her well-being.
Apparently he could remove her because she was in tears yesterday when she found out.
What if something happens to her TODAY??
It's terrible.
I can't speak to any of my friends because we all know each other and no one else knows.
So grateful for this forum and those that are responding.
Where is he getting his information from?
Dang now I’m disturbed for her. It sounds like when he is done, he is done. Your friend has to be extremely hurt. I mean how can you be married and not at least come away caring for the other persons well being. That is why my input is for them to sale and split. Considering him also but it doesn’t sound like he is considering anyone but himself. And if he is telling her he gets the house and she is in tears…sounds like he is trying to force her out. Or at least manipulate her out.
How long have they been married? Not that it’s any of my business. You don’t have to tell us. But I think it has a lot to do with it. Is the house a house he owned prior to marriage and they haven’t been married long, and he is hearing that the house he brought into the marriage is still his? Or have they been married and all they have built-acquired- they have done it together? Even if she stayed home, her supporting him so they could acquire this home through years of commitment to this marriage?
ha! Her atty told her to move out. I told her to try a different atty. We'll see.
And where is she supposed to move to with no income??
Looking back she feels she should have continued working and leave him to his depression problems.
Hindsight....
I’d advise her to get a different attorney also. I don’t know their history though. It doesn’t sound right, the attorney telling her to move. I don’t know his reasoning though. Once she moves she is setting the standard that he lives in the house, and she does not. I have a friend who went through a divorce. Even the insurance thing…her attorney said anything that has been the norm the courts take into consideration. For example, if the norm has been his providing her insurance …then the courts look at continuing the norm at least until she gets on her feet and is able to afford her own. He may think it’s his right to pull the plug. Even if she goes to file for Medicaid…they will most likely deny her because her husband work offers insurance, which he cold heartedly discontinued just because he felt like it. Even if she is largely the problem (I don’t know them), still it says a lot that he just cuts her medical insurance.
Same with the house…if she moves before the time they file
and finalize the divorce. He can say she abandoned the house and left of her own accord. He could also swing it that she initially abandoned the marriage first, by her leaving the house and him in it. As a friend, I would urge to not do anything. Let him leave since he is the one vacating the marriage. Then when the divorce is final, maybe then they can talk about what happens with the home. That is all just my opinion though. I’m no attorney. You are a good friend though to help and support her. I understand you are not trying to stick yourself in her business, but being a friend to someone who probably can’t make clear decisions being so much in it. someone outside of the marriage, like you, at least can help her think straight in the collapse of her life. I don’t think that is wrong, but needful. Someone told me (someone who talks me down off the ledge during a panic attack): it’s hard for someone in the middle of the storm to see straight, but someone outside sees it more clearly. She is someone who points out the logical for me, when I’m drowning in the irrational. I do think that applies here too, how we all need a friend to help in times of troubles.
