Responsibility is a compound word. It's made of two words combines. It breaks down to, Response, and Ability. Which is the Ability to respond appropriatey and intelligently.
That's what women can't do. They cant take responsibility for anything. How could any woman who has had several failed relationships rationalize them into thinking that she did nothing wrong. One time is bad luck, could happen to anybody. Twice? There's a problem that needs to be addressed. Why wasnt she Able to Respond appropriately and say no to the next three turds in her successive relationships?
This is an otherwise capable woman who has intelligence and skills to do many things, so it's not like she's retarded or anything. Why could she not learn to see red flags and say to the mistake that she already made a few times? She's shown herself to not be stupid, so it must be something else.
Women are emotionally driven. But women have no emotional intelligence. All they know (Guessing) is the emotional highs they get from bad boys. That surge of adreneline. In the moment and all that, and with a whole lot of reationalizations to justify the mistake afterwards. I was drunk, I was young and needed the money, my boyfriend cheated on me, he wont work, it just happened, works too much, and slaps me around!
Are those reasons really reasons or merely excuses? The reason women like to believe that they have emotional intelligence is because they are highly emotional! As women want to think they have emotional intelligence, but the truth is, the fact that they are highly emotional is actually the biggest indicator that they have very low emotional intelligence because being emotional is having no control over our emotional state, which is low emotional intelligence.
High emotional intelligence is the abiity to be pragmatic, to see things realistically and to make choices and Respond to life not from an emotional place! It's the ability to be in control of our emotional state and operate in life from that place! Dont that make sense?
You have to own it that you were wrong and brought bad situations on yourself. Ok, so I goofed. So what? So do many other people, so you arent alone, lol. I made a bad choice once. I made an effort to not repeat the mistake even as I was walking away from McDonalds. In retrospect maybe I even made another poor choice in who I married? Who knows?
But you have to strive to operate from an emotionally stable state where you are in control and dont let the heat of the moment get to you. You keep who you are, but stay in control. If you never admit it to yourself your mistake(s), then how will you start healing.
I've often wondered why women and certain others are so emotional. Scripture tells us to not think with our feelings but turn to God and havr faith in Him. So what the heck is emotions really for anyway?
I couldnt figure that out for years! But then I finally seen the scripture:
James 5:16
16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed.
The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.../KJV
It seems to say that the fervant prayers are effectual prayers and they availeth much!
We all know what fervancy is, right. A display of power in speech or work or whatever.
There's an auto accident and the momma's child is pinned under the car, no one around to help. She goes to help, she can not lift the car. She gets flustered and is very emotional and perhaps cries out, God help me...and then she picks the car up off of her child.
So maybe that's what emotions are for if we aint supposed to operate from them. Emotions are good in this way. They tell us what is wrong, fear, sadness and worry mixed with power and love bursts forth. In that situation I doubt she would even have to cry out to God. A sigh with fervancy would get the Lord's attention and He would have compassion and mercy on the momma and help her.
does that make sense? That emotions are for praying with?
