the online friend I have right now I think is safe. I feel that he is safe and genuine but of course you should always be careful.
Edited title: prayer for God to send me the right boyfriend!
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Realistically not many people have time for interacting with friends or extended family on a daily basis, but I would say to let loneliness cause you to draw near to God, sis. Keep seeking Him, because truly He is the only one who can really comfort us in our need......there is an emptiness that I think most people feel at least at times, that only God can fill. We can talk to Him like a friend, cry on His shoulder so to speak, and in this way cast our cares on Him, because He cares for us. Friendships can offer a distraction from feeling lonely while not really be fulfilling our true need, because our true need could be something deeper than we think. Trust that the Lord knows what you need and is working even this together for your good. We need a certain amount of suffering in this life for our spiritual good. Try to take it one day at a time with Jesus, be seeking His will, and one day you might find loneliness isn't even an issue any more.
I think to have a friend you first have to be a friend.
I disagree!! We need friends! we need fellowship! That's how we were created as social creatures. friends are a support! It's even biblical.
In the meantime if there is no fellowship to be found, does that mean God is somehow coming up short in one's life? He leads us through trials and seasons for a reason. Times of leanness or lack in any area can be opportunities to learn to transfer our needs to Him and trust Him in it, that His grace is sufficient. When I prayed and cried out to the Lord about lacking and needing fellowship, He was quick with His answer in the scripture that says "When I called Abraham I called him alone...". It wasn't what I wanted to hear at all, but I needed to learn to submit to His will and trust and be patient in it.
Alright, if I don't have any real life friend who I'd like to be friends with then it's God's will and there's a reason. I'll update if I find out the reason. I have just been feeling so depressed about not having any real life friend who I'd like to be friends with and who is a good enough match but now it's the holidays so I will feel better.
Be encouraged sister. Nothing wrong at all with praying and asking Him, but at the very least if there are no friends to be found at this time, know that God is working it together for your good. A believer's path is not an easy path, but He is with us in it, and we can let whatever pain we are experiencing cause us to draw near to Him. I believe for one thing He wants us to learn to have fellowship with Him above all. And whatever negative experiences happen to be on our plate, we are more than conquerors in it.....because the Lord is turning it around for our spiritual good (Rom. 8). "In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." (1 Thess. 5:18) Blessings to you.
One of my daughters has masses of friends but I and my other daughter are like you and have no close female friends. I have often prayed for a friend but to no avail so I think God likes me the way I am. Perhaps I'm not very good at befriending, but whatever the reason God knows and I am content with my closeness to Him.
A few years ago my husband prayed for a Muslim friend. God answered his prayer in the person of Faisal who lived further up our road. We first met him when we were carrying heavy bags home from the shop. He insisted on carrying my bags. And every time after that he greeted us a 'friends' and called me sister. he brought food to our house and we invited him in BUT he couldn't speak a word of English. So be prepared that if God answers your prayer it may not be in the way you hope.
Ziggy
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I lost my best friend when my mom passed away over ... gee must be going on 30 years now.
I never had any "friends" . I had my husband and my daughter, but one is gone and the other lives too far to visit often.
Fot the last 6 years I been living alone with the Lord and this forum. This is where I call home and where my friends are.
Then the Lord sent me my dad last spring and now I have company.... we get along and support each other.
I prefer less distractions in my life. It helps me focus.
But thats me.
I'll be praying that the Lord sends someone your way who is faithful and true to help ease your lonliness.
Just remember Jesus is never far away. In fact he is closer than any person could ever be.
Hugs
Good news, I'm pleased for you. But I'm pretty sure there are also ladies on this site who would e-mail you.
Hi, thelord's pearl. I see this thread and the other one about being hurt and feeling sad and depressed. You've had rough times.
There's a reality in the bible, where God talks about, that you're going to be betrayed by people close to you or rejected by people. This is what's so hard. We're going to be dealing with loneliness, us in Christ Jesus, and may be separated from people to our benefit. I've had my struggles and been through much this past year. Sometimes being alone is better, and other times it gets you. I think you know that.
Endure hardness as a good soldier and fight the good fight of faith. I'm praying for you about stuff you have difficulty with. I'll get in touch with you when I can.
There's a reality in the bible, where God talks about, that you're going to be betrayed by people close to you or rejected by people. This is what's so hard. We're going to be dealing with loneliness, us in Christ Jesus, and may be separated from people to our benefit. I've had my struggles and been through much this past year. Sometimes being alone is better, and other times it gets you. I think you know that.
Endure hardness as a good soldier and fight the good fight of faith. I'm praying for you about stuff you have difficulty with. I'll get in touch with you when I can.
Hi ShineTheLight, I don't think what I was going through was about betrayal but I think I am ok about it now.
Anyway, I have not been feeling very good emotionally, a bit down and sad because I know now that I want to try having a boyfriend and not just a male friend. Though I want to be friends first and then that male friend to become my to-be boyfriend, and if God wants the boyfriend to be my to-be husband or if God thinks I should have a husband as I'm not sure about that yet then that boyfriend will also be my husband in the future for a lifelong relationship/marriage so there will be no broken relationships and that He will make it obvious to me when the right person comes along for dating/marriage: we would really like/care and love each other and we will be compatible and our age wouldn't be a problem. Thanks so much for this prayer!
update: I did get good online male friends that I asked for in prayer and soon after but no real life friends yet.
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so just saw and replied to your other posts about the guy you befriended online. This proves my point.
you have a friend that lasts eternity. His name is Jesus.
Hi TheOneHeLoves, I am not clear what your point is.
other posts/prayers to the update r welcome!
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I just want to say that the friend I was talking about earlier in this thread is not the same friend I've been talking about in the other prayer thread!
I want to try having a boyfriend now and friends first and I am tired of not having one or being confused.
I want to be in a place where it's obvious that it's the right person and no questions.
I'd like to know that you guys, Christians are praying for me as I find the prayers here have been helpful.
Thank you!
I want to try having a boyfriend now and friends first and I am tired of not having one or being confused.
I want to be in a place where it's obvious that it's the right person and no questions.
I'd like to know that you guys, Christians are praying for me as I find the prayers here have been helpful.
Thank you!
Chains Broken
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Hey, @thelord's_pearl
As part of my recovery from childhood trauma, I have come across a coach called The Crappy Childhood Fairy, and she does courses on looking for a partner which I may get myself as she seems pretty wise about romantic relationships.
I have decided that I will look for a husband as I continue to heal, something I never imagined I would do because I am in my 70's. But I have no family to speak of and need someone to love and be loved. I have never had a Christian husband before, and imagine that it must be wonderful to have that to share. I am praying like you that God will have someone for me.
As part of my recovery from childhood trauma, I have come across a coach called The Crappy Childhood Fairy, and she does courses on looking for a partner which I may get myself as she seems pretty wise about romantic relationships.
I have decided that I will look for a husband as I continue to heal, something I never imagined I would do because I am in my 70's. But I have no family to speak of and need someone to love and be loved. I have never had a Christian husband before, and imagine that it must be wonderful to have that to share. I am praying like you that God will have someone for me.
