Where can I find a really shy woman for a relationship?

[Lambano]

Yes, that exactly. Pride.

No. Pride is the mindset that you are superior to and more important than other people. And it is a far more dangerous sin than masturbation.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Oh? Then how is it defined? BIBLICALLY, if you can...

"...and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31​

 

[TLHKAJ]

Yes. I was just thinking of getting married as a way to become a better person and learn new things that I may miss otherwise.

Because singledom seems to make me really lazy.

Marriage should be built on love, honor, and respect by a man and woman who are rooted and grounded firmly in Christ.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

No. Pride is the mindset that you are superior to other people. And it is a far more dangerous sin than masturbation.

And if it's not enough, masturbation is also dangerous for the health, especially mental health.

 

[Lambano]

And if it's is not enough, masturbation is also dangerous for the health, especially mental health.

Pride is dangerous to the spiritual health.

 

[Mink57]

"...and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31​

Meaning...?

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Pride is dangerous to the spiritual health.

Which is also true.

So, masturbation damages us mentally and spiritually.

 

[Mink57]

And if it's not enough, masturbation is also dangerous for the health, especially mental health.

No. It isn't. It all depends on the person.

 

[Lambano]

Which is also true.

So, masturbation damages us mentally and spiritually.

Your association of masturbation with the sin of fornication was correct; your association of masturbation with pride was not. And your assertion that masturbation is associated with mental illness cannot be backed by data.

Pride is the mindset that one is superior to and more important than other people. I want you to think about that definition. And I want you to look at how you described other people in your church, women, your countrymen, et. al. in some of your earlier posts.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

No. It isn't. It all depends on the person.

Yes, it is.

It causes addiction, guilt, withdrawal from God and alteration of reality.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Your association of masturbation with the sin of fornication was correct

Then you admit it is sin?

 

[Mink57]

Yes, it is.

It causes addiction, guilt, withdrawal from God and alteration of reality.

You're talking about pornography; not necessarily masturbation, in of itself.

 

[Lambano]

Then you admit it is sin?

I don't care if it is or not. That isn't the point.

"The devil would be more than happy to cure your chilblains if he could give you cancer." C.S. Lewis.

 

[Mink57]

Your association of masturbation with the sin of fornication was correct; your association of masturbation with pride was not. And your assertion that masturbation is associated with mental illness cannot be backed by data.

Pride is the mindset that one is superior to and more important than other people. I want you to think about that definition. And I want you to look at how you described other people in your church, women, your countrymen, et. al. in some of your earlier posts.

Masturbation...fornication...adultery...

My my, how the meaning of some words has changed over so many centuries! Only about 100 years ago did the word "gay" mean "happy"; and had nothing to do with homosexuality!

Isn't it possible that a word such as "fornication" could have meant something other than what we THINK it means today?

 

[ShyIntrovert]

You're talking about pornography; not necessarily masturbation, in of itself.

Masturbation involves mental pornography.

And it is addictive with or without pornography. Your brain gets used to the feeling and longs for it chronically, which is why you later feel like you can't escape from it. In fact, the pleasure derived from orgasm has been compared to the one derived from drugs like heroine. Some former drug addicts have also stated in interviews that not a single drug could give them as much pleasure as an orgasm did.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Masturbation...fornication...adultery...

My my, how the meaning of some words has changed over so many centuries! Only about 100 years ago did the word "gay" mean "happy"; and had nothing to do with homosexuality!

Isn't it possible that a word such as "fornication" could have meant something other than what we THINK it means today?

And what do you think it could mean then? Walking with the hands?

 

[Lambano]

You're talking about pornography; not necessarily masturbation, in of itself.

I want to tiptoe carefully around this one. Jesus talked about men looking at women with lust in their hearts and equating it with physical adultery. (You women get off scot-free, apparently). Do mental images count? I suppose it could be done without photographs and without mental imagery; would it still be sinful? Feel free to decline to answer if the question makes you uncomfortable.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Thank you. What are your thoughts on my post prior to that?

This one?

I hear what you're saying. Oftentimes, she still loves him and shooting him isn't in her heart and it may be an even worse grief to take his life.

I can see that. The intent is not to kill him, but to keep him from abusing her. Even the most vicious of animals knows when it's got a real fight on it's hands and needs to back off. And that's the goal.

The reason I pose these questions is because I know women (like myself) who are survivors of SRA/MK whose marriages were set up and arranged by cult so that they marry a cult handler. They are kept accessible to be used by the cult ...as well their children. So these are important questions to be addressed for those thousands of women who are in this situation.

Well, based on just what you've shared here I don't see any marital obligation at play here, and certainly no emotional attachment. In western society this is criminal, not cultural. I would think there would be no problem separating AND divorcing in this situation since no mutual voluntary oath is binding the two together.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

I want to tiptoe carefully around this one. Jesus talked about men looking at women with lust in their hearts. (You women get off scot-free, apparently). Do mental images count? I suppose it could be done without photographs and without mental imagery; would it still be sinful? Feel free to decline to answer if the question makes you uncomfortable.

Then I can't see the point in doing it.

Masturbating for a chemical process which does no good apart from giving you 5 short seconds of euphoria? Really?

And I'm not sure that's anything easy either.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Meaning...?

SEX!

Without that you have nothing more than a good Monopoly partner who doesn't have to go home at 10:00.