Jostler
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it looks like I've got an all nighter going too. I have to be up early to be ready for church this morning...I probably won't get any sleep til after all that.
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I had a daughter. And heaven help anybody who tried to hurt her in any way. Including her abusive husband who thought he could intimidate and threaten me and that I would just roll over. Well, he was in for a rude awakening. He found out real quick that I'm not a woman to mess with. And not only did he physically abuse my daughter but he also physically abused my young granddaughter who was afraid of him. He hit my granddaughter so hard that her nose was bleeding. She was sitting on the floor with her nose bleeding and crying and I let him have it full force, He told me to mind my own business. I said, she IS my business!!! She's my granddaughter and I better not ever see or hear about you hitting her like that ever again or you will have to deal with me. Because one of us is either going to end up in the hospital or dead. Because I do NOT back down. When it comes to my kids and grandkids, I will put my life on the line without hesitation. He even made a pass at me if you can believe that. He is such a pig!!!yes. i can text my aunt anytime but i feel like there was a warning i don tknow about about not telling anyone.
i was accused this past week of telling everyone in a church i go to. i had not. it is an insult to my nature. mom insists i told my one ex friend. i had not. against my nature to tell a friend i dont really like...or trust.
*big hugs, sis* I pray the Lord will comfort your heart in knowing that He has placed two mothers (@truthquest and I) in your life (even though long distance) who love you and I know that both of us would physically stand for you if we could. You are worth it...you are loved and your life has purpose.Interesting you both post that and I'm sorry. That is so heartbreaking.
My mother insists my ex wasn't abusive and that i really loved him.
My mother insists that i only want to hear what i want to, such as someone's opinions or even scripture.![]()
*Hugs**big hugs, sis* I pray the Lord will comfort your heart in knowing that He has placed two mothers (@truthquest and I) in your life (even though long distance) who love you and I know that both of us would physically stand for you if we could. You are worth it...you are loved and your life has purpose.
You may not be able to see it, but I see selflessness in you very often when you're going through your own pain, messaging me to ask how I'm doing. And I know why you ask .... it's because you don't want to add to my suffering by sharing your own pain. I get it. But one thing that @Jostler often says ....and it is true .....love suffers. If we love someone, we are willing to suffer with them and for them. That's what love does. And that's something I see in you, too. But don't let my suffering deter you from reaching out. We are here for each other.![]()
"Deal with you"?? She is a huge part of the problem. She chooses to keep you suppressed and accessible to her perverted husband. She is selfish and a lazy mother.... I'm sorry, but wow.... she is using you as a scapegoat to take the blame for things she has done and allowed to continue.*Hugs*
Other than your suffering, i just don't want anyone to tire of me :'(
Things get old. I get old. It all gets old.
Like my mother having to deal with me having nervous breakdowns ... She said she's getting told to deal with me .. but i mean i still have to hear her dumb comments and can never enjoy family games.
Children need good, strong, loving parents that set the right example in what is right and what is wrong, what is good and what is bad, what is acceptable and what is not acceptable, what should be allowed and what should not be allowed, to help their children have good self esteem, to have confidence, to have the desire to achieve goals, how to view and treat others in a good, kind and compassionate way, to be honest and open with their feelings and to communicate and not keep secrets because often secrets are dangerous. Most of all, parents need to teach their children about God and the scriptures because the scriptures offer instruction that is beneficial and safeguards against all kinds of problems and troubles if followed and offers comfort, hope, peace, the importance of prayer, and draws one closer to God....I came across a post on Facebook a few days ago that my youngest son had posted. It asked who had a strong mother. My son posted, "I did". I could only smile at that. Because sometimes I feel like I could have been a better mother but there were things and people working against me and against my children. I will say that I did the best I could as much as I was able to and against all odds.I think it's a good thing and really important to share these things because @lilygrace needs to see how God meant for parents to behave toward their children.
My sons had a hard time with other boys beating them up. My youngest son especially. A boy threw a cement block on him and he was unconscious for a while after that. He was always getting picked on and beat up but as he grew older in his teens and got bigger, he could give a beating to anybody who challenged him. My oldest son was always big for his age. He didn't get beat up as much as my youngest son. Unless there was more than one boy attacking him. They are both now well over six feet tall. My oldest son is 6'4". They are both more than capable of defending themselves now. And they are very protective of me. My daughter didn't get beat up as a teenager. She could hold her own. Very few people bothered her. She was sort of like me that way.I can relate to what you shared, @truthquest. I have had to be the one to stand between my children and other people since they were little. When my oldest daughter was kidnapped in 2011 at age 18... for whatever reason, they dropped her off at a truck stop and I went to get her and her little dog. She told me that they didn't want anything to do with me because they were afraid of me. (And idk what frightened them except I let them know a thing or two.)
This is exactly right!! I have experienced this type of manipulation as well. Then they take what you tell them and use it against you.sometimes i think she wants to fight cos she makes me talk when i dont want to.
On top of all of this, my daughter is a twin and her twin was taken (at birth). I never got to bring her home and Idk what happened to her. I believe she is still alive somewhere. So that was another loss she suffered. I never mentioned it to her, but when she was 13, she came to me and said, "Mommy? Doesn't it feel like someone's missing?" (And yes, for many years, I struggled with that feeling and didn't know fully why... it was because of babies taken, and forced late term "abortions."But my heart breaks for my daughter who was raped by cult (mafia) at age 17 (because they wanted the bloodline) ...was threatened and kidnapped, miscarried a baby at around 10 weeks pregnant ....was dropped off at a truck stop ....then when I got her to a doctor, we found out she was still pregnant (was carrying twins). She lost a baby, and then her child was stolen .....and then she lost her baby brother. Please pray for her and the rest of my grown children. They have been through more pain than
On top of all of this, my daughter is a twin and her twin was taken (at birth). I never got to bring her home and Idk what happened to her. I believe she is still alive somewhere. So that was another loss she suffered. I never mentioned it to her, but when she was 13, she came to me and said, "Mommy? Doesn't it feel like someone's missing?" (And yes, for many years, I struggled with that feeling and didn't know fully why... it was because of babies taken, and forced late term "abortions.")
Another time she asked, "Do you ever feel like you're more than kne person?" (She knew about alters, so it wasn't necessarily about that.) So when she asked questions, I felt it was time to help her understand about her twin who was taken. It helped her understand the things she was feeling.
i can delete this and apologize if this offends you....but i also was thinking that your daughter's insight must have seemed like a confirmation against possible doubts...*hugs*
think about that...what in the world is that going to actually look like??? I don't think I can really imagine what walking in the measure of the stature of the FULLNESS of Him? But that is His promise....
No, please don't delete ... you're absolutely right. My children have confirmed many things for me...sad to say, because it means they've experienced things I wish they never experienced. :/i can delete this and apologize if this offends you....but i also was thinking that your daughter's insight must have seemed like a confirmation against possible doubts...
*hugs*No, please don't delete ... you're absolutely right. My children have confirmed many things for me...sad to say, because it means they've experienced things I wish they never experienced. :/