The parents should be taking on the complete burden of the spiritual burden...or growth, I would say...of their child. Why only part? The church should be involved, but the burden is with the parents and THEY are the first teachers of their child's faith. The first catechists are the parents...catechists should only be confirming what the parents have taught the child.
Unfortunately, these days this is not true, and some parents even see bringing their children to catechism class as a bother.
As to the parent paying the price if the child if he errs....I don't know what you mean by this.
The parent is held responsible for the child. Similarly the priest who is reckless about confession is held accountable if he is too lax. If he is sloppy and tells someone his sins are forgiven when all sins haven't been fully confessed, the priest is agreeing to bear the consequences. Jesus told his Apostle they could remit sins, and that's how they do it. It's also why being a martyr works. If you are willing to die because of the love you see in Jesus and wish others could see it too, God will not allow your blood to be wasted. Similarly if people persecute you for his name sake and you can still love them, you will be blessed because they are tied to you.
How do a fisherman catch a fish? Sometimes we must be willing to be the "bait" used.
This is a most beautiful thought.
It reminds me of
1 Corinthians 7:14
14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.
I can only say I would hope your idea is true,,,,but I don't believe it is.
Doesn't love for God have to be personal?
It will be in the end. If someone is tied to you in love, eventually they will have to see how your love for God is personal and then they too will arrive in the kingdom. They will perceive your relationship with Jesus and come to know him too.
It takes time. There are people in Heaven who have ties to people on the earth. God respects those ties, and Heaven will move many things to answer the prayers of the saints in Heaven. Some may think God just makes people "forget" about bad things in Heaven in the following passage' but that is not so. In the end, we shall see how it is:
Revelation 21:4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
Some may say God will impose a kind of forgetfulness on people; but God does better than that. He can answer prayers and remove the cause of our sorrows.
Tears are interesting.
Psalm 56:8 Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?
Angels collect the tears as prayers that cannot be answered immediately. It may take time for them to be answered. When it is time, an angel takes them and offers them to God. Then it is as if God "remembered" them.
Revelation 5:8 And when he had taken the book, the four beasts and four and twenty elders fell down before the Lamb, having every one of them harps, and golden vials full of odours, which are the prayers of saints.
The Roman soldiers almost had to be saved because Jesus was willing to forgive them. The Roman Empire was "on the hook" the way a fish is when it crucified Jesus unjustly because Jesus returned love. Anytime a Christian can forgive, returning good for evil, he is going to be rewarded since the other person is "on the hook." A bond has been created between the two that acts almost like a magnet.
Jesus went up to Heaven. The ties of Love remained; and they acted to pull the Apostles up to Heaven, pulling them up, up, up so they could be with Jesus; and as they went up, they also pulled up others who they had established bonds of Love with. Hate is temporary. Love is eternal. It is truer than we may suppose at first. Charity never fails. Isn't God good?