First off RLT, I appreciate your response. Second, if I ever used the word "homosexuality" in my posts, which I doubt; I'd want to refresh my memory in what context I used the word. To give definition as to what I am talking about, I go to an English dictionary:
The definition of "homosexuality" in the Merriam-Webster is pretty well standard in today's English, and it has two meanings:
1 - sexual or romantic attraction to others of one's same sex
2 - sexual activity with another of the same sex [the only clear reference in the Bible is to male to male sexual conduct]
Also in the M-W "The first known use of homosexuality was in 1892"
My view of this subject is pretty much as the Bible Dictionary of the IVP, 3rd Edition in 1996 -
"The Bible says nothing specifically about the homosexual condition (despite the rather misleading RSV [1st Ed]translation of 1 Cor. 6:9), but its condemnations of homosexual conduct are explicit. The scope of these strictures must, however, be carefully determined. Too often they have been used as tools of a homophobic polemic which has claimed too much."
We MUST examine what "homosexual conduct" is being condemned. I'm using the word "homosexual" in that manner as an adjective, merely stating it is same-sex. I am repulsed as any Christian is, by the debauchery and disgusting sexual displays by the LGBTQ community; but I am equally disgusted by the debauchery of the heterosexual conduct in places like the New Orleans' Mardi Gras.
I DO NOT "endorse" anything like the LGBTQ as in their Pride Parades, same-sex marriage, etc. I object to the 'liberal' views on gay life, and I also object the 'conservative' views as being too much, homophobic. A church of any size is likely to have born again, believing men who are solely or predominantly attracted to other men. The conservative churches too often are giving such men little comfort in their Christian walk. They are told they must live in total sexual abstinence; or, they must go the faith healing farce of being 'cured' or going through the failed psychobabble approach that tries to mix psychotherapy with theology. I do not see in the Bible anywhere, that condemns a male having a relationship with another male that includes sexual expression. Just as with the 'straight' male, the 'gay' male must be private and discreet with much of his romantic/sex life, and probably must be much more careful or discreet.
The love of David and Jonathan is spoken of in only approving or glowing terms. If the erotic element in it was sinful, it is nowhere condemned as David was hit with judgment over Bathsheba:
2 Samuel chapter 12: Nathan the prophet was sent by the LORD to expose David's sin in a manner in which David convicts himself.
The punishments:
"Now therefore the sword shall never depart from your house, for you have despised me, and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife. Thus says the LORD: I will raise up trouble against you from within your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes, and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this very sun. For you did it secretly; but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun.” David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.” Nathan said to David, “Now the LORD has put away your sin; you shall not die. Nevertheless, because by this deed you have utterly scorned the LORD, the child that is born to you shall die.” (2Sam 12:10-14 NRSV)
Psalm 51 is David's speaking of his remorse over his sin - "To the leader. A Psalm of David, when the prophet Nathan came to him, after he had gone in to Bathsheba."
When God said it was not good that man be alone, that was not only for 'straight' men. Even in our fallen, imperfect world, it is still not good that man be alone. When the church insists on total sexual abstinence for a 'gay' man, it contradicts Paul's statement about such abstinence is a "gift" that not all men have -
"I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has a particular gift from God, one having one kind and another a different kind. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain unmarried as I am. But if they are not practicing self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion." (1Cor 7:7-9 NRSV)
This is an extremely complicated topic, and made more so by all the different voices from many directions on the matter. Even what I've written here is going to be misunderstood, but that is just how things go in written conversations. It takes time to truly understand exactly what the other person is thinking in detail, without 'reading into' their words more than what is stated. But, I'm trying to respond to your very legitimate comments.