St. SteVen said:
BINGO!
I agree. It's complex subject no matter what angle you try to deal with it.
"Complicated" makes it sound impossible, though.
I actually wrote "complex".
Which means, I don't think we should OVERsimplify it.
Tossing it out as a B+W issue doesn't really do anything to address the real problem with the church on this subject.
Fine folks like yourself who have had to grapple with it in close proximity are a lot more empathetic to the complexities.
I'm guessing this isn't something that you have addressed out in the open with your church folk?
And for good reason. And THAT is the problem here. We have to keep things under wraps or church folks go ballistic.
So no, it's not impossible (complicated), but church folk don't want to put on their boots and wade into this mess.
Understandable, I suppose. But, like a plugged sewer line, someone has to get down in the muck and clean it out.
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