As you said, the second death is the penalty of sin. However, I see no mention of "second" in the original Hebrew. But from other scripture, we can know that the penalty of death that we will pay for our sins is called the second death (here a little and there a little).
That is so sad that you cannot see what is obvious within just one word. There is not need for the word "second" to be found in the Hebrew text in Ezekiel 18. Gen 2:17 actually reads as: -
“ . . . , for in the day that you eat of it you shall die the second death."
Where die the second death is found in the following two transliteral Hebrew words: - “mō·wṯ [H:4191] tā·mūṯ [h:4191]” where "mō·wṯ" in the Hebrew text has the meaning of "die" and not surely as our English translations suggest and "tā·mūṯ" in the Hebrew text has the meaning of "the second death."
Another way of considering this verse is that, if we sin then we become "candidates for the second death" and as Ezekile 18 suggest that if we repent of our sins then we will no longer be candidates for the Second death, but rather we will live.
Yes, Christ does draw people to Himself, but it is our choice to turn away from our sins and repent of them before Christ. It is after repenting that we are saves and it is only then that we are able to receive the Holy Spirit to help us to live righteously.
In Isaiah 58 God describes the form of the fast that He require of us: -
Isaiah 58:6-12: -
6 "Is this not the fast that I have chosen:
To loose the bonds of wickedness,
To undo the heavy burdens,
To let the oppressed go free,
And that you break every yoke?
7 Is it not to share your bread with the hungry,
And that you bring to your house the poor who are cast out;
When you see the naked, that you cover him,
And not hide yourself from your own flesh?
8 Then your light shall break forth like the morning,
Your healing shall spring forth speedily,
And your righteousness shall go before you;
The glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.
9 Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer;
You shall cry, and He will say, 'Here I am.'
"If you take away the yoke from your midst,
The pointing of the finger, and speaking wickedness,
10 If you extend your soul to the hungry
And satisfy the afflicted soul,
Then your light shall dawn in the darkness,
And your darkness shall be as the noonday.
11 The Lord will guide you continually,
And satisfy your soul in drought,
And strengthen your bones;
You shall be like a watered garden,
And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.
12 Those from among you
Shall build the old waste places;
You shall raise up the foundations of two ages;
And you shall be called the Repairer of the Breach,
The Restorer of Streets to Dwell In.
In God's eyes, our actions speak louder than our petition for forgiveness of our sins.
We all must take the first steps in responding to Christ's drawing of us to Himself.
If we do not take the steps to respond to God's drawing of us to Himself, then the promised Salvation is not available for us to receive.
The word "All" does not necessarily mean "All" in the manner that you are applying it.
In Gen 12"3b, only those who inhabit God's fertile field and draw nourishment from that field will gain their Salvation and be Blessed by the Descendants of Abraham.
God give you every opportunity to gain your salvation, but the final responsibility rests only with us and is dependent on our willingness to respond with repentance for our turning away from God. God gives us this responsibility to choose either life or everlasting condemnation.
I am not being judgemental. I am only presenting the "facts" of the scriptures which you want to twist so that you are not responsible for your own salvation. You want Salvation on your terms and not God's terms. In other words, you are acting God like telling God to save you.
The question that springs to my mind is who the puppeteer is and who is the puppet. Have you put God in His rightful place for your life so that you can receive your Salvation.
Shalom