KingJ said:
A trip to where?
I mean this with aboslutely no offence, but she sounds like an emotional mental case. You need to send her for therapy. She shares a dream with you that she believes is from God and then she leaves you / goes on a trip...? She is attention starved or has issues from her past.
The fact that she is talking about God / God inspired dream with you. You can't see it because you are in the yoyo relationship.
She pretty much left without an agenda. She took food and clothes for a couple of day along with books and her camera. She headed south out of state. Do I know where she is at this moment?? Nope.
She has done this before. A couple years ago we went through this very same thing. It usually starts with her trying to find a way to escape reality, (something she does not do well) pretty soon she has alienated herself from the rest of the family. Then she takes a trip. No clue where she goes. Last time I had moved out and she asked me to come back after her trip. I haven't moved out yet this time but what I'm focusing on are my kids. I don't want to leave them behind for any period of time. Last time I moved out they were what I really missed the most. I love them with all my heart, regardless of the grief they tend to cause. HA HA!
The way I see it, if she comes back and still wants to split I'm going to fight for us but understanding at the same time that my kids are what's important. Now here's a double edged sword. It's best for our kids if we stay together, only if we both make changes in our home and we are getting along again. But, if the conflict remains, it's better for them if we separate. Last time we only separated for a few weeks. During that time I had to work about 80 hours a week so I had distractions. This time.... not so much. Maybe we take a little longer break than a few weeks???
I have two separate speeches prepared, depending on how she is feeling when she gets back..... So I guess we'll see. By this time tomorrow, I'll know.
Through all of it though.... I would like to post this song.........
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhxELo-uD3c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWww880E9wU Today is the big day. She will be back from her trip. Very important decisions will be made today. I'm almost numb today... Its snowing really bad out and she's out in it...... I tried to message her this morning but she has not replied..... I'm very worried....
Well friends. The moment of truth has arrived. And no matter how hard I tried today... She wants a divorce. I have left the option open for reconciliation but she wont take it. I want to thank you all for your kind words and support.
