Of course we are the product of our parents and their parenting.I gave you a LOVE because I love how you explained everything regarding the relationship between parents and children in the OT.
I do want to disagree however, with the idea that today we are following Jesus and not our parents. I hope I haven't misunderstood you John.
When I give kids lessons on the difference between love and honor I make it a point to explain that even if we don't LOVE our parents we still must HONOR our parents. This is a difference that is lost in today's society. To honor means to give respect to our parents even if we think they don't deserve it. It means to care for them and to speak well of them to others...it means not denigrating them in any way - especially to outsiders (of the family).
In a proper situation - which maybe does not exist anymore - children SHOULD follow in the footsteps of the parents. Of course, this would entail that the parents are persons worthy to be followed: People with moral values, civil attitudes toward their neighbors, and, yes, maybe even a touch of spirituality.
So, yes. we don't bring our children to the edge of town to let our neighbors stone them when they misbehave....but at the time of Moses order had to be restored after 400 years of slavery...but the 10 commandments will never be abolished - and honoring our parents is one of those commandments.
Sometimes honor can be a weight...but it's a weight that must be accepted by children.
(to reasonable degrees of course -).
Of course we should br grateful to God for the parents He provided us with....because through them or because of them we ran into the arms of our Heavenly Father.
"Give unto Caesars what is Caesars". God is ultimately in charge in this world....and sometimes the shortest distance between two points is not a straight line. Meaning sometimes it's not a result of our parents but a child's rejection of parents that makes them run to God. (Billy Graham's father was the town drunk)
And Franklin Graham looked great giving the prayer at the Presidential inauguration.
What Jesus was saying is that the Caste based society is over....you are not bound by your ancestors anymore. You can have a direct, personal relationship with God.
One of the Ancient Eastern beliefs is that God exists in and outside of time. And the only proper worship of God must include a good sized chunk of it.
Since you didn't have a personal relationship with God you couldn't start your own worship....you joined in your "Father's " worship (Abraham and Sarah's) And your parents were as well....which means you dress like you grew up in Abraham's house, ate only food Abraham would eat. All the rest of it.
And as you joined in Abraham's worship yours would be recognized as well.....but as the generations kept coming the traditions grew....and grew more extensive. The weight/heaviness of honoring all those generations became a heavy burden
That's what I was referring to.
Modern times kids and parents? We just about got a train wreck. If people actually have any kids...or even stay married long enough for kids to know both parents. Single parent families are the "norm" today. Over half of all kids grow up in a single parent home. Those that have two? One of the parents is usually a step parent.