Parenting

[Mayflower]

Any parents or parents with grown kids in here? I have a seven year old daughter and 4 year old son. And then kind of like a third child that I watch many times a month! Like one of my own. What have you found most challenging about being a mother? For me is it seems that a woman is expected to do so much more then the husband. We are to take care of the house and the kids, and these days work in order to provide. I enjoy this but not the best house wifey type. I’d rather work. Knowing discipline is the hardest part for me. What best teaches them and guides them in the right way. Moms can be hard on themselves, so any parent in here, either young or adult kids, just know you are doing a good job. If you point your kids to God, He is ultimately going to be the One who leads them in the right direction.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: And when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭6‬ ‭KJV‬‬

 

[Mayflower]

 

[Angelina]

Beautiful pics sister

 

[TLHKAJ]

What have you found most challenging about being a mother?

I think, in a very general sense, I can look back and realize that I didn't always make the right decisions. One challenge is having multiple children close together, discerning between who is instigating a spat and who is innocent. As adults, a couple of my children have shared in family get together settings how they regretted some things they did as little children ....things I had no clue about. (Things like agitating a sibling and getting them in trouble, for instance ...or telling the younger ones stories to scare them, etc.)

Another challenge was knowing when to enforce rules and when to be a bit more "lenient." In a time of major stress in our home, I protected my children by not requiring them to do household chores ....I did them instead, so as to keep peace and that the children's work wouldn't be criticized. (sigh) But I allowed it to go on for quite a long while and it may have hindered them somewhat, in the long run. In my thinking, they had enough pressure on them than to be perfect in how they washed a plate or put away the laundry.

Idk if this was what you were asking .... I'm sure more will come to mind.

Thankfully, as adults, my children (especially my married daughters), have said they believe I did an amazing job despite what we were faced with. As mom, I see my failures. But I look at them, and they are amazing! GOD is good!

 

[Mayflower]

I think, in a very general sense, I can look back and realize that I didn't always make the right decisions. One challenge is having multiple children close together, discerning between who is instigating a spat and who is innocent. As adults, a couple of my children have shared in family get together settings how they regretted some things they did as little children ....things I had no clue about. (Things like agitating a sibling and getting them in trouble, for instance ...or telling the younger ones stories to scare them, etc.)

Another challenge was knowing when to enforce rules and when to be a bit more "lenient." In a time of major stress in our home, I protected my children by not requiring them to do household chores ....I did them instead, so as to keep peace and that the children's work wouldn't be criticized. (sigh) But I allowed it to go on for quite a long while and it may have hindered them somewhat, in the long run. In my thinking, they had enough pressure on them than to be perfect in how they washed a plate or put away the laundry.

Idk if this was what you were asking .... I'm sure more will come to mind.

Thankfully, as adults, my children (especially my married daughters), have said they believe I did an amazing job despite what we were faced with. As mom, I see my failures. But I look at them, and they are amazing! GOD is good!

I think moms will always see our failures, but pointing our kids to Jesus is the best thing we can do as well as model being a Christian.

 

[Mayflower]

Maybe this thread can be a parenting thread for advice and stories.

For me today, we were at church. My daughter is being picky lately eating. I told her to sit down and she ran off. At first I had her sit down, but then she went to potty and was in the room playing again. I’ve had such migraines today and Bobby worked thirds and was sleeping, I just let it go. She is doing the same tonight and we have church in half an hour. Then the one I watch overnight, she kissed a boy at church today and following him around. She is 9. I told her no kissing under my supervision, and talked to her parents. It’s coming for Lorena. I got to start thinking about that conversation

 

[Mayflower]

I’ll definitely be praying and seeking wisdom!!!!

 

[Rita]

Well I am an oldie with four grown up children and four grand children. My marriage didn’t last because of unfaithfulness, BUT I had to look back and self examine myself as a wife. One thing, when you have young children and it seems that the role of a wife is harder it is good to take a step back and think about the responsibilities a husband and father has at times. My ex had failings, so did I, but he worked really hard and often had me nagging him about Jobs on his days off. I never stopped to think about the pressures on his shoulders until I was working full time and had my dad to look after. Or when I consider my middle son and daughter in law having to both work and juggle the children. I was so fortunate to be a stay at home mum who could work part time and get the school holidays off.

Also enjoy your children while they are young, as adults they go through things but you cannot sort everything out like you could when they were children. Appreciate the role because one day you will blink and those times will be gone. We never stop being a mum , for me my role as a wife ended, but then I had to navigate being a good ex wife ( and I was with Gods help x ) and then I had to learn to be a lone parent when my ex passed away.
You learn a lot when you have the prospective of looking back xxxxxxx
One of the best moments, when the six weeks summer holiday ends and you get back from the school run, close the front door and listen……total silence !!!! lol

 

[DuckieLady]

Any parents or parents with grown kids in here? I have a seven year old daughter and 4 year old son. And then kind of like a third child that I watch many times a month! Like one of my own. What have you found most challenging about being a mother? For me is it seems that a woman is expected to do so much more then the husband. We are to take care of the house and the kids, and these days work in order to provide. I enjoy this but not the best house wifey type. I’d rather work. Knowing discipline is the hardest part for me. What best teaches them and guides them in the right way. Moms can be hard on themselves, so any parent in here, either young or adult kids, just know you are doing a good job. If you point your kids to God, He is ultimately going to be the One who leads them in the right direction.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: And when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭6‬ ‭KJV‬‬

If I could make changes I would go back and never let them use electronics without safety measures. Anytime my middle child started playing Roblox, his behavior changed dramatically overnight and he would get very angry and irrational.

Roblox is not allowed in the house. His xbox is blocked from having access to the wifi. He is not allowed to have a phone. He also doesn't want one, because he feels like he'll be addicted.

Now I learned the Kindle has good parental controls built in. I also would have not brought a TV in the house. Media controls the world now and it's how they're getting to the children. Most of it is evil and YouTube is blocked from their devices for that reason.

Yippee! is a Christian streaming network for kids, if that is something you'd be interested in. All of the veggie tales.

Also @Mayflower I'm going to be inappropriate and a minor rule breaker because I can't message you. Lol

A couple of years ago I got an email from you and I was in the process of an emergency move. I was going to read it and then I couldn't find the email.

Then I had to start a new job right away and a whole bunch of things happened all at once. I didn't come back to CB for a while because I was so busy.

Now I've cut back on my hours and have a little more free time. I wasn't ignoring you. I just lost the email and I still can't figure out what happened to it.

Hope you're doing well

 

[Mayflower]

If I could make changes I would go back and never let them use electronics without safety measures. Anytime my middle child started playing Roblox, his behavior changed dramatically overnight and he would get very angry and irrational.

Roblox is not allowed in the house. His xbox is blocked from having access to the wifi. He is not allowed to have a phone. He also doesn't want one, because he feels like he'll be addicted.

Now I learned the Kindle has good parental controls built in. I also would have not brought a TV in the house. Media controls the world now and it's how they're getting to the children. Most of it is evil and YouTube is blocked from their devices for that reason.

Yippee! is a Christian streaming network for kids, if that is something you'd be interested in. All of the veggie tales.

Also @Mayflower I'm going to be inappropriate and a minor rule breaker because I can't message you. Lol

A couple of years ago I got an email from you and I was in the process of an emergency move. I was going to read it and then I couldn't find the email.

Then I had to start a new job right away and a whole bunch of things happened all at once. I didn't come back to CB for a while because I was so busy.

Now I've cut back on my hours and have a little more free time. I wasn't ignoring you. I just lost the email and I still can't figure out what happened to it.

Hope you're doing well

I would rather move forward anyhow. That was a long time ago and can’t remember what it was about.