Overwhelmingly blessed, Prayer & praise.

[SERVANTedu]

Before Christ, I was such a different man with different priorities. I know this seems obvious, but I'm just taking a moment to reflect and be grateful for what He has done.

He has completely changed my work ethic and desires when it comes to work. I used to be focused on doing whatever was easiest and required the least amount of effort. Today, I see work as an opportunity to demonstrate the hard work and commitment of a Christian and to display Christ as best I can to the men who work under me. I am focused on being a blessing to the owner of the company i work for and ministering to those in need of the wisdom of God.

With the changed character God has provided, I received a promotion into supply chain management and a pay Increase that has allowed me to purchase a home for Mrs. Ducky and I.

I am asking for prayer for the strength to work the extra hours, deal with the added stress, and the ability to better separate my work and personal stress. As of late, my attitude towards our son has not displayed Christ and I know I'm too hard on him. I want to not come home too tired and overwhelmed that I "have no time" to be a dad. And by that I mean patience. Also, to be more responsible financially, I bought a motorcycle because I always wanted one I know that's immature but I am at times impulsive. . .

Thank you all for always being so kind to my ducky. God bless you all.

 

[DuckieLady]

Because of ASD in the family, we need distance from neighbors and there is no privacy in our situation right now. The walls are paper thin and while everyone is polite, we just understand it's probably miserable for them.

The pressure is high.

 

[DuckieLady]

Also, to be more responsible financially, I bought a motorcycle because I always wanted one I know that's immature but I am at times impulsive. . .

Technically it saves on gas. ;) love you <3

 

[Lambano]

I am asking for prayer for the strength to work the extra hours, deal with the added stress, and the ability to better separate my work and personal stress. As of late, my attitude towards our son has not displayed Christ and I know I'm too hard on him. I want to not come home too tired and overwhelmed that I "have no time" to be a dad. And by that I mean patience. Also, to be more responsible financially, I bought a motorcycle because I always wanted one I know that's immature but I am at times impulsive. . .

You have my prayers, especially for "having time to be a dad". They grow up so fast, and you only have a short time to get it right.

The last time I saw my own father before he died, he expressed his regrets that he had prioritized his career over spending time with us kids, and had allowed work stress to spill over into the home. I never knew. I assured him he had done a fine job of raising us.

And he got a motorcycle too. But he traded it for a bicycle, because a) you can bike with your kids (make sure you get a house in a bike-friendly area); and b) exercise is a good stress relief.

 

[Bob]

Thank you for your post and honesty.

We join with you in prayer that God will assist you with your chosen burdens.

Work-life balance is important for everyone who has a family. A colleague once told me his approach, with the blessing of his family regarding the long hours: when at work, he was 100% focused on work, and when at home, 100% focused on his family. It served him well.

Regarding your son: does he know you love him? If you want him to apply himself to his studies, etc., does he know it is because you care for him and want him prepared as an adult?

As a good Christian, are you helping your son understand the importance of loving God and his neighbor? There are some basic characteristics of “loving your neighbor” that are worth teaching:
—the importance of sharing with others & caring for others;
—being gentle & peaceful toward all;
—learning to forgive others who make you angry;
—learning to say you are sorry when you have hurt someone;
—taking responsibility for your mistakes (no finger pointing!),
—and staying humble.

(I list these because I wish now I, too, had been a better father.)

Blessings.

 

[Raccoon1010]

I'll offer up prayer that the Lord blesses you in the way he sees according to your needs as a family and individually as well.

 

[quietthinker]

Thank you all for always being so kind to my ducky. God bless you all.

I miss her being around!

 

[Lambano]

Because of ASD in the family, we need distance from neighbors and there is no privacy in our situation right now. The walls are paper thin and while everyone is polite, we just understand it's probably miserable for them.

The pressure is high.

"ASD" is "Autism Spectrum Disorder", right? That merits its own set of prayers. My grandson is also "on the spectrum" (Asperger's Syndrome), so I may have some first-hand experience with what that might entail. (Like those core meltdowns.) I also know what it's like to suddenly have to step into the role of "father" for a special-needs child.

May God bless and direct the two of you as you try to do the right things for your new blended family.

 

[DuckieLady]

"ASD" is "Autism Spectrum Disorder", right? That merits its own set of prayers. My grandson is also "on the spectrum" (Asperger's Syndrome), so I may have some first-hand experience with what that might entail. (Like those core meltdowns.) I also know what it's like to suddenly have to step into the role of "father" for a special-needs child.

May God bless and direct the two of you as you try to do the right things for your new blended family.

Thank you, Lambano! Yes, all together we have four. Two at home. I came with one adult, one ASD, and one teen. Mr. Duck has an ASD child, too, so he is experienced.

The difficult one is my teen. He's a good kid. Just likes to argue and control everything.

 

[Lambano]

The difficult one is my teen. He's a good kid. Just likes to argue and control everything.

You just described my older stepson - both when he was a teen, and now, three and a half decades later.

I think @SERVANTedu will be better able to handle that than I was back then. I was a little young when I stepped into the role of father to a teenaged son... But I've got a pretty good idea of what he's facing (while trying to handle a new career), which is all the more reason to keep him in my prayers.

 

[Wynona]

Praying now