@Christian Soldier wrote on another thread:Yes, this would mean that we do hold radically different ideas about God and the Gospel. And it means we will both be reading the Bible in very different ways.
Don't be too quick to label me, it won't help you to understand me.
Much love!
"Every Christian hold to one of the two views. The fact that you reject Reformed theology, means that you hold to Arminian theology.
I would be interested to hear about a third option, but I won't hold my breath as nobody has ever found it thus far. The worlds greatest theologians and bible scholars have been searching for this illusive third view for the past 500 years and they haven't found it, but let me guess you have

I know of a third way, which was described by the Quaker founder George Fox though I do not know who else taught it. I agree with Fox who said based on John 1:9:
9There was the true Light which, coming into the world, enlightens every man. 10He was in the world, and the world was made through Him, and the world did not know Him. 11He came to His own, and those who were His own did not receive Him. 12But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name, 13who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.
As every man is enlightened, Calvinism is false (not purely depending on this verse) and God comes to each man at His chosen time, and the man has the chance of not quenching the Holy Spirit and open up the way for more truth to be reveled and that man is saved if he continues seeking the Light.
I have been struck how many people have said that there was a day when they may have become Christian but did not.