Nothing motivates me like seeing this play out in people's lives.
I grew up poor in a tiny house compatible to a shack, with both parents and 5 children. Children develop their own personalities, likes, dislikes…and certainly I know which of my siblings were “bitter”, “poor me attitudes”, Felt good, to hang blame on anyone but themselves. One particular sibling and myself, were very close. Not in “age”, but birthdays fell 2 days apart. We made do, turning junk into what we liked. If we wanted something particular, we found a way to earn money. We would scrounge pop bottles, which had deposit money. My first steady “job” was at age 11. We would buy our little desires, (usually clothing), and the “non-working ones” would be jealous, complaining, lash out. The one sibling and myself, then and even to this day…reminisce and giggle and laugh at the predicaments resulting from being financially poor. The other kids were so consumed with bitterness and poor me, they could never see the humor in situations. One sibling, had a high academic IQ and natural talent for music…similar to my dad, a Mensa member and could play any instrument, without music sheets or lessons. That got her a satisfactory pat on the head, BUT also required continual academic effort…AND neither had a lick of common sense. I learned early on from my mom…when Scripture talks about “poor”… it is not a get rich (in tangible items) with the Lord…IT IS to get rich IN spirit with the Lord.
Point being…many others were raised going without, doing without (tangible items) like some others had…and with the decline of 2 parent families, or both parents working families…it’s ALL about … giving, over giving tangible things to their kids…that they love today and send off to the trash tomorrow.
They missed the BIG Picture…It’s not about what you Don’t have (tangible), it’s about how you are thankful and take care of what you DO have. AND IF one is willing to work (good) to purchase what they desire.
Kids are impressionable…(society influence and advocation is not a help)….kids thinking the more they have, the more popular they are, they more they will be liked by other kids, the better they will Feel….its a learned “mind-set”…where as the Lord promotes and advocates…a “spiritual-set, within”.
There ARE millions IN this world, IN every society, who hang on to their childhood bitterness and poor me…(I was financially poor, I was not wanted, I was abused, yelled at, sent away, blah, blah)….AS their Life long EXCUSE for their behaviors AS adults….(remaining in the immaturity of childhood).
Little children become Overwhelmed with to many choices…and stunted with always no choices, be it toys, food, clothing, whatever.
Apologize for this lengthy post…but in my perspective, it’s short. Lol
I know you are a new mom…and it can be exhausting to say the least… Just always be the Leader, not the follower. Kids like routines.
God Bless you and yours.
Glory to God,
Taken