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This morning they said his thraot will stay like that forever and that he wont be able to swallow anymore, and I was basically told to prepare for his death. I said where there is life there is still hope and that even people can be raised from the dead.
After that I spent a very long time in prayer, at first it felt hopless and like no matter what I prayed the matter was already settled and that I must be ok with my dads passing. However I kept praying and kept praying, and quoting scriptures and declaring victory and healing and deliverence. Then somthing happened as if a wall fell, and Suddenly I felt that my dad will make it out of the hospital. That he will be allowed more time here.
After that prayer he was able to swallow some ground up fish and a bit of a smoothie.
Please keep praying he continues to eat, as he has been having a big issue with rejecing food.
So even though he looks like he has been in a famine, I am still going to keep praying and believing he can recover.
Thank you everyone for your prayers and support, and faith that God can do all things.
 

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My dad had a hard winter. 2 UTI's and a stroke. I finally brought him home in April. He can't use his legs. His hands all riddled with arthritis he can hardly feed himself. I have hospice coming to the house 3 times a week to check his vitals, help me bathe him and such.
But his spirit is good.
My heart and prayers and thoughts are with you and your dad Sparrow. I know how trying these times can be.
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Thank you yes, its very scary and sad as he actually came out of the surgery pretty well, he was walking around and everything then he left the hospital and it seemed like everything was good for a couple weeks... but then one thing after another. Now he is so week he cant walk or really eat on his own or even swallow very well its very scary to me and im really concerned...... And honestly it just feels so wrong as so many problems in the hospital made it worse for him.
Anyways I know God is Good, and I know He sees everything and I do believe He can do a miracle and He will get all the glory for it as it will take a miracle at this point.
I am blessed by your prayers thank you.
Amen Sis!!..praying for your beloved Father....unfortunately hospitals can be quite unsanitary...I won’t mention any names but I certainly agree with you.

Please keep sparrow Dad strong Lord and build his body up to be strong once again, praying hard for his appetite to return..in Jesus Name..Amen!

Also please give sparrow a sign that all is going to be ok with her Dad..In Jesus Name...Amen!!
 

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Given what you've shared, I suggest you get an attorney now.

It sounds like your dad is being badly neglected. Infection,unable to swallow ever again after an orogastric feeding tube was removed,etc...should not be happening.


How close is Boise to your dad's hospital?

Seriously. I was just about to retire for the night when I saw your post. I can't describe to you save for relaying his words as to how loudly Holy Spirit is telling me to tell you, get your dad out of there!

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However I kept praying and kept praying, and quoting scriptures and declaring victory and healing and deliverence. Then somthing happened as if a wall fell, and Suddenly I felt that my dad will make it out of the hospital. That he will be allowed more time here.
After that prayer he was able to swallow some ground up fish and a bit of a smoothie.
Praise God for the breakthrough!
While reading your post this scripture came to mind.

Isaiah 35:1-2 NIV
The desert and the parched land will be glad;
the wilderness will rejoice and blossom.
Like the crocus, 2 it will burst into bloom;
it will rejoice greatly and shout for joy.
The glory of Lebanon will be given to it,
the splendor of Carmel and Sharon;
they will see the glory of the Lord,
the splendor of our God.

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Thank you for your prayers, and for your intercession on his behalf I stand in agreement as well. Right now he is in Idaho right now at the VA hospital.

This morning they said his thraot will stay like that forever and that he wont be able to swallow anymore, and I was basically told to prepare for his death. I said where there is life there is still hope and that even people can be raised from the dead.
After that I spent a very long time in prayer, at first it felt hopless and like no matter what I prayed the matter was already settled and that I must be ok with my dads passing. However I kept praying and kept praying, and quoting scriptures and declaring victory and healing and deliverence. Then somthing happened as if a wall fell, and Suddenly I felt that my dad will make it out of the hospital. That he will be allowed more time here.
After that prayer he was able to swallow some ground up fish and a bit of a smoothie.
Please keep praying he continues to eat, as he has been having a big issue with rejecing food.
So even though he looks like he has been in a famine, I am still going to keep praying and believing he can recover.
Thank you everyone for your prayers and support, and faith that God can do all things.
Blessings in Christ Jesus Sparrow. The wall that fell was established down there. Declaring and proclaiming with The Power and Authority in Jesus Name is and was needed for your dad and the land. There is a time to sit in our affliction(like Job, he did not know) and a time to stand up in faith to proclaim(The Word of God) and rebuke the enemy. Oh, and The Lord does give us the desires of our hearts, I have found that it happens when we least expect it, as He is always working for our good. Blessings.
 

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How close is Boise to your dad's hospital?

Seriously. I was just about to retire for the night when I saw your post. I can't describe to you save for relaying his words as to how loudly Holy Spirit is telling me to tell you, get your dad out of there!

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Thank you for sharing this, unfortunately I think there is only one va medical center in Boise and that's the one he is at. Its crazy they dont have other options....
Though its been really difficult, I have been holding down the fort here so I actually have not seen my dad during this entire ordeal. My older sister who lives in idaho has been with him. My dad basically said some one has to be here to watch everything, we have that large property and word gets out fast if you suddenly arent around. He told my mom not to go either until he was out of the hospital but once things got to bad she decided to go anyway. Meanwhile ive been here trying to hold it together and keep a eye on things.

Thank you for saying what you felt the Holy Spirit put on your heart, it really hit home reading it and it confirms what I also have been feeling, and I am pretty urgent about him leaving there as well.
I read what you said to my mom also and she agrees and wanted me to tell you thank you very much for sharing that, its been hard because the doctors were saying they cant move him. However, thankfully today they took the splint out of his lung which was the last big thing left. So the plan is to get him out this week and bring him to my sisters house in Idaho.
 

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My dad had a hard winter. 2 UTI's and a stroke. I finally brought him home in April. He can't use his legs. His hands all riddled with arthritis he can hardly feed himself. I have hospice coming to the house 3 times a week to check his vitals, help me bathe him and such.
But his spirit is good.
My heart and prayers and thoughts are with you and your dad Sparrow. I know how trying these times can be.
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Thank you for sharing your story and what you have been through, I am so sorry you gone through all of this. Praise God you were strong and steadfast and that you got your dad out of there. I have heard to many stories now of hospital and nursing home horror stories. I knew a guy who worked in a hospital and nursing homes and he said sadly it was a regular occurrence that he witnessed were people would just drug up the elder and just give them to much one day so they would pass on, and other things like that.... Really was trrible..
Denying water is insane and obviously neglect is to tame of a word.
I am so happy you were strong and stood your ground and got him out of there, as that was the absolute right thing to do. Also thank you so much for your tips that actually is very helpful I read your post to my mother and she is going to do all those things and she thanks you as well.
Today the doctors tried to convince everyone that he absolutely needs some feeding thing put inside my dads stomache but after all we went through it was a very firm no on that. I am positive that was the right decision. Your story is more confirmation of that.
 
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Blessings in Christ Jesus Sparrow. The wall that fell was established down there. Declaring and proclaiming with The Power and Authority in Jesus Name is and was needed for your dad and the land. There is a time to sit in our affliction(like Job, he did not know) and a time to stand up in faith to proclaim(The Word of God) and rebuke the enemy. Oh, and The Lord does give us the desires of our hearts, I have found that it happens when we least expect it, as He is always working for our good. Blessings.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, defiantly this was a very intense experience. When I first started praying I was already starting to grieve because of what I was told and it did feel like no matter what I prayed the outcome was settled. I prayed for a hour and it just felt like it went nowhere, and then I caught myself asking God why and just really started to go into grief mode....
Then I remembered the unjust widow and her personality and how that is a bit more like me and how I just am going to keep pounding on that door.I will say this really felt like a war verses just prayers for healing, I was praying that no weapon formed against him shall prosper etc. I also felt lead to pray as if my dad was standing there in front of me believing his spirit could hear every word.
I do feel something took place that changed everything and the outcome of my dads life went into a different direction.
I will never forget this experience and it will completely transform how I pray in the future. I still dont know exactly what happened or what took place, but something changed. I wish I could understand it better but I am just very joyful that everything feels totally different now.
 

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I would like to really thank every single one of you for praying, and speaking with me about this. I am so blessed to get such a response from all of you I cannot express how grateful I am to have you and that you all would pray and be there for some one you have not even met before. I know this break through that has happened was because of each and everyone of your prayers, not only did they strengthen me and give me more faith, it helped my dad in more ways than I will ever know, and I also know its impacted what has been happening in the hospital.

Thank you everyone. Yesterday the doctors said he was going to die, my sister said she was afraid to move him because she didnt think he would even make it home, and my mom on the phone told me I should try to quickly get there to say goodbye. I told her we cannot pronounce some one dead who is alive and we cant give up hope.. Thankfully I was already fasting at this point and I had all of your guys support so I just really really started to pray.
In the past 24 hours something has changed. My mom said my dad appears to be making more of effort now. Yesterday they said he would never be able to swallow again, and he also he was unable to walk, today he is eating small amounts of food, and for 5 mins he went on the stationary bike of all things!
That to me is a miracle, a absolute miracle, I am completely convinced this was a total act of God. My dad still has weight to gain and healing that needs to happen but somthing changed yesterday, and I know that I know it was a miracle.
The fear of him not making it is gone and I feel very confident he is going to make it home.
I will keep doing updates here, I am so grateful for all of your thank you so much for your support and prayers.
 

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Amazing! Praise God! That's wonderful!
I'm with Blessed Peace- get him home ASAP, and make him homemade bone broth to drink with the best ingredients. Crock pots work well. Fruit & veg smoothies, etc. There are a lot of natural herbs that are a great sub for drugs. Will keep praying.
 
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Thank you for sharing this, unfortunately I think there is only one va medical center in Boise and that's the one he is at. Its crazy they dont have other options....
Though its been really difficult, I have been holding down the fort here so I actually have not seen my dad during this entire ordeal. My older sister who lives in idaho has been with him. My dad basically said some one has to be here to watch everything, we have that large property and word gets out fast if you suddenly arent around. He told my mom not to go either until he was out of the hospital but once things got to bad she decided to go anyway. Meanwhile ive been here trying to hold it together and keep a eye on things.

Thank you for saying what you felt the Holy Spirit put on your heart, it really hit home reading it and it confirms what I also have been feeling, and I am pretty urgent about him leaving there as well.
I read what you said to my mom also and she agrees and wanted me to tell you thank you very much for sharing that, its been hard because the doctors were saying they cant move him. However, thankfully today they took the splint out of his lung which was the last big thing left. So the plan is to get him out this week and bring him to my sisters house in Idaho.
*Hugs to you all.
 
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Sounds like your dad is as stubborn as mine LOL.
My dad isn't one for deep heart discussions, so I have no idea what he's been praying.
But what we do agree on, is when it's time to go, the Lord will take him home. Until then keep on living and doing the best you can.
When he first went into the hospital in December he told me he was ready to go. But he kept fighting to get better.
Your dad must have a strong will and a strong spirit and God is working with him.

My dad has good days and not so good days. He's tired of not being able to get around, but his legs are just too weak to put any weight on them. His world consists of bed, recliner, tv, and meals. When hospice comes over we bathe him, clip his nails, wash his hair, shave him, and try to give him as much dignity as possible.

I baught this inflatable bathtub that sits on top of the bed so we can give him a better bath than just a sponge one.
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It cost less than $100. and he gets to soak everything.
From here on in it's just trying to make life as comfortable as possible. Today he has to have his catheter changed and thats never a fun day. The nurse and CNA are really nice girls. They come out 3 times a week and help me help him.

I will be praying for your dad hoping he can get home soon. Praying for your mom and family.
Big Hugs and Much Love to you all.
 
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, defiantly this was a very intense experience. When I first started praying I was already starting to grieve because of what I was told and it did feel like no matter what I prayed the outcome was settled. I prayed for a hour and it just felt like it went nowhere, and then I caught myself asking God why and just really started to go into grief mode....
Then I remembered the unjust widow and her personality and how that is a bit more like me and how I just am going to keep pounding on that door.I will say this really felt like a war verses just prayers for healing, I was praying that no weapon formed against him shall prosper etc. I also felt lead to pray as if my dad was standing there in front of me believing his spirit could hear every word.
I do feel something took place that changed everything and the outcome of my dads life went into a different direction.
I will never forget this experience and it will completely transform how I pray in the future. I still dont know exactly what happened or what took place, but something changed. I wish I could understand it better but I am just very joyful that everything feels totally different now.
Blessings in Christ Jesus Sparrow. Part of my calling is spiritual warfare(not that I chose it). When I looked, that is what I saw. I do not like it when I see the enemy running amuck in peoples lives, and yet they can not see it. I live on an acre that is The Lord's. Words are powerful. What we speak out loud(especially words of faith) are always heard by The Lord and sometimes the enemy when he is near. I had to draw a line in the sand(so to speak) with this land concerning the enemy. Please remember The Power and Authority in Jesus Name within you, in The Holy Spirit, and speak. "It is done." is what happened. Is what I heard that night. Blessings!
 
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Blessings in Christ Jesus Sparrow. Part of my calling is spiritual warfare(not that I chose it). When I looked, that is what I saw. I do not like it when I see the enemy running amuck in peoples lives, and yet they can not see it. I live on an acre that is The Lord's. Words are powerful. What we speak out loud(especially words of faith) are always heard by The Lord and sometimes the enemy when he is near. I had to draw a line in the sand(so to speak) with this land concerning the enemy. Please remember The Power and Authority in Jesus Name within you, in The Holy Spirit, and speak. "It is done." is what happened. Is what I heard that night. Blessings!
That is a special calling for sure, and not somthing I encounter often within the body of Christ, thank you for sharing your thoughts. For sure there seems to be somthing amiss about this entire thing and I do feel this is a huge battle and I am just tyring to believe for a miracle, even though my dad looks like he is in a concentration camp.
 

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The doctors had my dad do a living will today.
My sister called crying hysterically in a way I have never heard her saying she doesnt know if my dad will make it. Tht she has spent the last month in the hospital watching slowly day and that is a totally nightmare. She sent a photo and its pretty horrendious the shape he is in.

She she wanted to have them put the thing inside his stomache to feed him, but I objected and she decided to give it more time, but my dad agreed to it in his living will.
He is at about 500 calories a day and isnt able to eat more. For some reason today they took him off the puree food idk why they would do that when he really is having such a hard time eating.
Also am not sure why they had him using a stationary bike yesterday then the next day doing a living will somthing feels sooooo off about thiis entire thing.
My mom said they plan to get him out of the hosptial wensday but my sister is crying and crying saying he wont live that long.
Its terrible. My dad is drowling on one side of his mouth but idk why.

I am just going to keep praying I have to.
 
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The doctors had my dad do a living will today.
My sister called crying hysterically in a way I have never heard her saying she doesnt know if my dad will make it. Tht she has spent the last month in the hospital watching slowly day and that is a totally nightmare. She sent a photo and its pretty horrendious the shape he is in.

She she wanted to have them put the thing inside his stomache to feed him, but I objected and she decided to give it more time, but my dad agreed to it in his living will.
He is at about 500 calories a day and isnt able to eat more. For some reason today they took him off the puree food idk why they would do that when he really is having such a hard time eating.
Also am not sure why they had him using a stationary bike yesterday then the next day doing a living will somthing feels sooooo off about thiis entire thing.
My mom said they plan to get him out of the hosptial wensday but my sister is crying and crying saying he wont live that long.
Its terrible.

I am just going to keep praying I have to.
Hi Sparrow,
This is too wacky. Is the tube out of his lungs yet? I'm trying to understand why he needs to be there now. ??????
Get him home ASAP! Get him on a good probiotic for a couple months because his gut will be destroyed from the antibiotics. That's important. If he gets any infection use oregano oil. It's potent. He ate- so don't let them say he can't! They did that with my mom and she died. I had no say because my sister believed them and she was in charge, legally. My mom drank water and chewed ice cubes several times, but they said she could not swallow. It wasn't true. We all saw it. If your dad is able to eat, and isn't in danger from something else- dont bring up anything about eating..just get him out!
 
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No one wants food in the hospital. At home you can make nutricious smoothies and broths. Get some strength back.
There may be natural alternatives for drugs he is on.
Pain meds can be very addictive amongst other things. Why did your mom choose Wednesday?
Praying.
 
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My dad is drowling on one side of his mouth but idk why.
The first night my dad was in the second rehab I told him I would see him in the morning.
When I got there he was sitting in the chair with oatmeal drooling out the right side of his mouth and he couldn't form any words.
He had a stroke. They took him to the hospital and gave him a shot to break up the clot which had lodged in his brain.
It worked. But I thought I lost him for sure.
A living will isn't anything to be concerned about. It tells the hospital who is in charge to make decisions if he can't make them for himself.
It says whether the person chooses to be resussitated incase of heart failure or not. My dad has a DNR/DNI.
He does not wish to be ressucitated if he should die or be incubated if his lungs fail.
You can choose if you want life saving medications or other support they may need, or to deny any support.
Usually they have you fill one out before you lose the ability to decide for yourself. Otherwise it's up to the hospital to decide for you.
My dad has had a living will for many years, just incase.
So it is for his protection and also the hospitals.
But it is a common form and everyone should have one regardless of age incase an accident ever arises.

My heart goes out to you and your family. It sounds like you are all very close. Damn girl, loss is hard. Letting people go is hard.
But we all have to go sometime. And it's the hardest thing to face when it's happening to you.
This man you call your father, he is in God's hands. And God don't want to see him suffer any more than you do.
They kept telling me at the hospital and at rehab and even now when hospice comes by that he may not get any better. He could go at any time. Our job is to just make him as comfortable while he is still here.
Dang that sounds cold. But it's true.

It's only me and dad here. My daughter lives 3 hours away and I haven't seen her in years. When he goes I'm on my own.
And I won't lie, that scares me a little. My moms been gone for almost 25 years. Both my brothers passed away years ago. Both my husbands and my in-laws have passed away. It can be scary. And it hurts.
Pray and we are praying for your dad's recovery. For it to be the Lord's will for him to hang around.
But God knows what kind of a future he will have. One of recovery or even more suffering.
Either way I have accepted the fact with my dad, that either way will be a blessing. I know when he goes he won't be dying anymore.

Your all under a lot of stress. Take some time and cry if you feel you need to. Some people hold it in and it becomes anger.
Don't let that happen. Maybe try talking about dying with you mom and sister, everybody has their own ideas and feelings about what happens next. Sometimes talking about it don't make it so scary. Remind eachother that you love them and they are not in this alone.
Because sometimes this can make you feel isolated and alone not knowing what to say or what to do.
Your sister sounds like she's taking this pretty hard. Sounds scared. She needs your hugs even if your thousands of miles away.
But don't give up. Stay as positive as you can knowing whatever outcome it is, it is the best outcome, even if it hurts.

All you can all do is be there for him whether in body or in spirit. Trust the Lord either way.
We all have to go sometime. And I am truly not afraid to leave this life. Dad already has his bags half packed.
And I know I won't be that far behind him. Even if it's 20 -30 years, it will be but a moment.

I wish I had better words of comfort. Have hope, not fear. Pray for God's will even if it is not your own.
Comfort each other. Do not be afraid.

Praying
Much Love
Lynda