Where can I find a really shy woman for a relationship?

[Lambano]

While we're on the subject of men and women ... I've watched this probably 20 times, and it cracks me up every time! lol
@Lambano
https://youtube.com/shorts/m4i6R4wTGtE?feature=share

Women are.... more complicated than men.

 

[TLHKAJ]

Women are.... more complicated than men.

I fully agree!! LOL

 

[Waiting on him]

Hi, I’m a young student who is slowly growing up and approaching adult life, and as such I’m wondering which would be the woman I could marry in the future. Sometimes my hormones attack me and make me desperate to enter a relationship, though I know that I should be patient and trust God, especially now that I don’t have many responsibilities and can live pretty comfortably. But this will end someday and I will have to begin a new life want it or not, so I want to planify my purpose and goals for my adult life. And one of the most important areas will be marriage and children, so I should be extremely cautious with picking the woman I make my life with, because if this part goes wrong my life will be irreparably lost forever. Divorce is not any joke and may leave me literally begging in the streets.

This said, after observing the behavior and character of the vast majority of women my around (pride, arrogance, entitlement, promiscuity, rudeness, mistreatment, disrespect, attention-seeking, gossip, drama, tattoos, piercings, Netflix, Instagram, selfies, trips to Dubai, feminism, horoscopes, Buddhas, dyed hairs, immodest clothing etc) it is more than clear that if I don’t pick an unicorn from Mars they will kill me. I don’t know of any single woman my age who doesn’t have an Instagram profile and dozens of friends (with benefits).

Because the world of these days is so wicked and corrupted and most women seem to only do whatever this evil world tells them to, I have come to the conclusion that my only safe option is to meet a socially awkward loner with no friends at all, who hides and isolates herself from society and only gets along with her family. A woman who is really shy, reserved, introverted, quiet, bashful... scared of strangers, blushes a lot, takes centuries to even give a chance to someone, lacks social skills, has no Instagram or Facebook profiles and of course a devout Christian virgin. Basically a woman who lives in an unbreakable bubble that nobody but those given access to by the Lord can enter. I know this may be a bit too much to expect, but this is honestly the only kind of woman I can see myself with (something very close at least).

The thing is that I have no idea on where I could ever find such a woman, because I won’t give up on this ideal either. I don’t want a socially confident woman, not at all. I don’t want a woman to kill me with games, drama, criticism, lies, mistreatment, infidelity, illegitimate children, alimony, child support and theft of belongings. I don’t want a woman to exchange me for Chad Tyrone. I want a woman I can be sure that will respect me. Even if it takes a longer time to find.

So, then what places would you recommend for me? Thanks all.

Don’t get on that train.

 

[michaelvpardo]

A woman who is afraid/fearful of strangers and introvert ....sounds like a woman with a traumatic past.

I met a lovely demure woman when I was in college at SUNY @ Buffalo, but only had opportunity to take her to dinner once. They do exist and this one was a farm girl and didn't seem at all traumatized. I would have continued to take her on dates and gotten to know her better, but my father asked me to transfer to a school closer to home and I was always inclined to obey my father, and did.

Maybe I didn't know her well enough, but she was quite sweet. I had the attention of other young women, all who claimed to be engaged to someone, but the others were all very forward, and like the original poster I was inexperienced and looking for a spouse, not just "a good time."

 

[michaelvpardo]

A woman shouldn't be fearful. That indicates unhealthy familial attachments. It's proven that when an infant has strong healthy attachments to their parents, they grow into less afraid and more stable adults. They have an emotional and (hopefully) spiritual footing and a foundation that has been built and have a healthy outlook on the world around them.

You might be right. I was rebellious toward a physically abusive mother, was timid after having the snot beat out of me by two different kids that I thought were friends, and took out a lot of anger on the football field when I was stronger and more skilled with my hands and feet.

However, I read scripture from an early age, though discouraged from it by my Catholic mother, and had a strong desire to observe the Bible's moral imperatives.

Unfortunately, through body building, jogging, and a natural ability for martial art, I gained a confidence in myself that expressed itself in boldness under pressure. It would've been better to gain such confidence in the Lord, but my early impression of righteous works was that "no good deed goes unpunished." However, I saw Jesus as my master, even though not convinced in His divinity nor understanding the gospel. I became , as it was, no respector of men, but did as I was inclined without regard to the judgment of others.
After all, I had biblical heroes like David, Solomon, and Samson.

Even so, I had a pretty solid scriptural foundation, but found myself at odds with God, simply because circumstances in life always frustrated my desires.

I was 39 years old when I finally accepted scripture as entirely true, and in the midst of a sinful situation caused by my own presumption, I heard a street preacher with a gospel message for me. I prayed with him wanting it to be true, but doubting. A Christian coworker that I considered a friend had ministered the word to me very well. His ready explanations of seeming contradictions in scripture was what convinced me of the truth of the word, as well as his joyful demeanor and testimony of a troubled past. He's the one who explained the biblical proof for the gospel message I didn't apprehend. He's the one who prayed with me to receive my Lord. I don't remember the date, but I'll never forget the moment. It was awesome.

If you'd asked my friends and people that I'd worked for about me before I was saved, they'd have spoken well of me, but none really knew me, the wrath stored up that I could just barely restrain when my integrity was challenged, or my secret fantasies or unwholesome desires. God's law has a restraining effect on those who fear Him, but God's love is transforming.

God makes us who we are. Some believe when they're very young and tend to live wholesome but frequently very restricted lives. Others I've known wandered about for years seeking answers, looking for honesty, searching for righteousness, while all the time doing as they pleased, before finally believing the gospel and trusting the Lord for forgiveness and salvation.

I can't speak to what a healthy attitude toward the world even is. I've never seen it as anything but a beautiful creation corrupted by mankind, and I've never been alone in this perspective, but of the two types of Christians I've mentioned, who do you think actually loves the Lord more?

 

[Jay Ross]

Hello, is this topic still about the OP or has it gone down a number of rabbit holes in the ethernet?

 

[michaelvpardo]

"28While my soul was still searching but not finding, among a thousand I have found one upright man, but among all these I have not found one such woman." Ecclesiastes 7:28​

Wow, you must be popular with the ladies. What translation is that from? Burn it brother.
The most accepted versions of scripture are worded to give a somewhat different meaning in context:
25 I directed my mind to know, to investigate and to seek wisdom and an explanation, and to know the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness. 26 And I discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, whose hands are chains. One who is pleasing to God will escape from her, but the sinner will be captured by her.

27 “Behold, I have discovered this,” says the Preacher, “adding one thing to another to find an explanation, 28 which I am still seeking but have not found. I have found one man among a thousand, but I have not found a woman among all these. 29 Behold, I have found only this, that God made men upright, but they have sought out many devices.” Ecclesiastes 7:25-29 NASB

The KJV, NKJV, ESV, and Strong's literal translation all have the same kind of wording, and though Solomon credits men with more righteousness than women, he seemed to be talking about the seductress or immoral woman rather than a generalization about the sex. In Solomon's case, considering his recorded history, it's a bit like "the pot calling the kettle black."

I really like Ecclesiastes, but king Solomon was one of the most carnal men to write scripture (it would be difficult to get more carnal than the song of Solomon.)
How could a man who had hundreds of wives and concubines ever claim to know one of them?
Ever meet someone with a Romeo complex?
Solomon is proof that God can use the most sinful sort of man to deliver His inspired word, but you at least want a more accurate translation.

 

[michaelvpardo]

Hello, is this topic still about the OP or has it gone down a number of rabbit holes in the ethernet?

Here, there, and everywhere, but the OP is about someone's love life. How much advice can you give to a youth who isn't prepared to be what he's supposed to be?

 

[Waiting on him]

Wow, you must be popular with the ladies. What translation is that from? Burn it brother.
The most accepted versions of scripture are worded to give a somewhat different meaning in context:
25 I directed my mind to know, to investigate and to seek wisdom and an explanation, and to know the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness. 26 And I discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, whose hands are chains. One who is pleasing to God will escape from her, but the sinner will be captured by her.

27 “Behold, I have discovered this,” says the Preacher, “adding one thing to another to find an explanation, 28 which I am still seeking but have not found. I have found one man among a thousand, but I have not found a woman among all these. 29 Behold, I have found only this, that God made men upright, but they have sought out many devices.” Ecclesiastes 7:25-29 NASB

The KJV, NKJV, ESV, and Strong's literal translation all have the same kind of wording, and though Solomon credits men with more righteousness than women, he seemed to be talking about the seductress or immoral woman rather than a generalization about the sex. In Solomon's case, considering his recorded history, it's a bit like "the pot calling the kettle black."

I really like Ecclesiastes, but king Solomon was one of the most carnal men to write scripture (it would be difficult to get more carnal than the song of Solomon.)
How could a man who had hundreds of wives and concubines ever claim to know one of them?
Ever meet someone with a Romeo complex?
Solomon is proof that God can use the most sinful sort of man to deliver His inspired word, but you at least want a more accurate translation.

I believe the virtuous woman is the Holy Spirit, this would be a woman Solomon never knew.

 

[michaelvpardo]

I believe the virtuous woman is the Holy Spirit, this would be a woman Solomon never knew.

Or it could be a woman with the Holy Spirit, or simply one who fears God. Eve didn't and look where it got her.

 

[TLHKAJ]

I've been wanting to ask..... who in the world is Chad Tyrone?! lol

 

[farouk]

Personally I don’t think any kind of list is helpful, the kind of wife you think you need may be completely different to the wife that God thinks you need. Also what about what kind of husband God may need you to be, I am pretty sure that we all need to change and often as not it’s through others that the changing happens.
Ask those who’s marriages have been successful and I am pretty sure you will find that either partner has
had ‘ negatives ‘ that the other partner has had to learn to live with and accept.
I cannot fit that group as my marriage failed, mainly because I didn’t fit into my husbands ideal of the kind of wife he wanted, he wanted a variety of women who, at different times met that requirement. He was governed by his own needs ………

@Rita Paul speaks of 'husband of one wife'; a 'one woman man'...

 

[ShyIntrovert]

I've been wanting to ask..... who in the world is Chad Tyrone?! lol

Better not to know...

 

[Bob Carabbio]

So, then what places would you recommend for me? Thanks all.

How about church??? Sounds like you've got some issues yourself.

 

[TLHKAJ]

Better not to know...

I looked it up and all I can find is that the names represent the perfect guy?? I have no idea. I don't follow fads

How do you know these terms? I thought you were against knowing the ways of the world.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

I looked it up and all I can find is that the names represent the perfect guy?? I have no idea. I don't follow fads

How do you know these terms? I thought you were against knowing the ways of the world.

I found the terms funny. Heard it from various websites, even other Christian forums.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Sounds like you've got some issues yourself.

What kind of issues?

 

[Bob Carabbio]

What kind of issues?

A morbid fear of life in general.

 

[Lambano]

A morbid fear of life in general.

Can you blame him? No one gets out of here alive!

 

[Bob Carabbio]

Can you blame him? No one gets out of here alive!

Actually born again Christians do. WE live forever and death has no terrors - I've been here almost 80 years, and I'm getting tired of the weakness and pain. There's a better home awaiting as the song says.