Where can I find a really shy woman for a relationship?

[ShyIntrovert]

Enough talk. Let's return to OP.

Where could I find a really shy, socially awkward Christian woman? Because I love that purity and quietness.

 

[Jane_Doe22]

Enough talk. Let's return to OP.

Where could I find a really shy, socially awkward Christian woman? Because I love that purity and quietness.

You may purchase a Barbie doll still-in-the-box at your local Walmart.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

You may purchase a Barbie doll still-in-the-box at your local Walmart.

There's no Walmart here, sorry.

 

[farouk]

Enough talk. Let's return to OP.

Where could I find a really shy, socially awkward Christian woman? Because I love that purity and quietness.

Perhaps if you really concentrated on prayer and the Scriptures - and maybe this indeed is your wish - then maybe by God's grace someone with similar interests in prayer and the Scriptures would appreciate your interest in the 'things most surely believed among us' (Luke 1.1).

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Perhaps if you really concentrated on prayer and the Scriptures - and maybe this indeed is your wish - then maybe by God's grace someone with similar interests in prayer and the Scriptures would appreciate your interest in the 'things most surely believed among us' (Luke 1.1).

But would I find a woman who is shy and awkward as well this way?

 

[farouk]

But would I find a woman who is shy and awkward as well this way?

Perhaps in the long term in the context of the gatherings of those who like the early believers practise Acts 2.42. (Remembering of course that the primary aim of gathering is to honour the Lord and encourage His people and feed on His Word and seek the prosperity of the Gospel message.)

 

[TLHKAJ]

Enough talk. Let's return to OP.

Where could I find a really shy, socially awkward Christian woman? Because I love that purity and quietness.

Join a commune.... or a Mennonite or Amish community. They have plenty of maladjusted youth there.

 

[TLHKAJ]

Perhaps if you really concentrated on prayer and the Scriptures - and maybe this indeed is your wish - then maybe by God's grace someone with similar interests in prayer and the Scriptures would appreciate your interest in the 'things most surely believed among us' (Luke 1.1).

Exactly, brother.

Psalm 37:3-7
[3]Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.
[4]Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
[5]Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
[6]And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday.
[7]Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.

But I don't think he's looking for scriptural truth that requires something of him. He wants a quick answer that'll get him a female robot TODAY.

The scriptures above give a very detailed outline....
*Trust in the Lord and do good.
*Commit your way unto the Lord, and trust Him.
*Rest in the Lord and wait patiently.

And here's a key that many forget .....
*Fret not!

Don't worry about the evildoers. Just do what God commands, and HE will bring it to pass. HE will bring you the desires of your heart! BUT ....you have to be patient, trust, delight in HIM. In other words ....get your priorities in order!

 

[ShyIntrovert]

But I don't think he's looking for scriptural truth that requires something of him. He wants a quick answer that'll get him a female robot TODAY.

False. I never said that I want it right now and immediately. Read the OP again.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Read the OP again.

 

[TLHKAJ]

False. I never said that I want it right now and immediately. Read the OP again.

Good. Then don't be impatient with discussion about healthy godly/scriptural marriage relationships. Be patient, and take in what is being shared. Discussion is good.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Good. Then don't be impatient with discussion about healthy godly/scriptural marriage relationships. Be patient, and take in what is being shared. Discussion is good.

I just want to be prepared for when the day comes.

 

[TLHKAJ]

Good. Then don't be impatient with discussion about healthy godly/scriptural marriage relationships. Be patient, and take in what is being shared. Discussion is good.

But if you're looking for someone you can control and keep under your thumb (keep her at home so she never goes anywhere), that's an indication that you're living in fear. Fear, suspicion, and distrust are not ingredients for a good foundation to build a marriage relationship.

Look closely at the Proverbs 31 woman. She managed her household well and she was also a successful businesswoman. The heart of her husband trusts in her. Be a man of integrity, and ask God to send you a woman who is virtuous. You won't need to fear that she'll find another man.

 

[TLHKAJ]

I just want to be prepared for when the day comes.

This discussion is a good place to start. But please, read my post above where I posted scripture and take it to heart. I'd strongly advise reading those passages daily and praying for God to create in you the integrity that a man needs in order to be a good husband.

 

[amadeus]

Good. Then don't be impatient with discussion about healthy godly/scriptural marriage relationships. Be patient, and take in what is being shared. Discussion is good.

Yes, discussion is good and first things first:

@ShyIntrovert

Remember and understand these verses

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof." Matt 6:33-34

What God adds is then in accord with His time and His will... not ours! Jesus asked one thing of His Father, but that is Not what he received!

"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:" Ecc 3:1

"...nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt." Matt 26:39

Who did Jesus marry?
Who did Paul marry?
Who did Stephen marry?

 

[farouk]

This discussion is a good place to start. But please, read my post above where I posted scripture and take it to heart. I'd strongly advise reading those passages daily and praying for God to create in you the integrity that a man needs in order to be a good husband.

@TLHKAJ Good advice indeed....

 

[ShyIntrovert]

But if you're looking for someone you can control and keep under your thumb (keep her at home so she never goes anywhere), that's an indication that you're living in fear. Fear, suspicion, and distrust are not ingredients for a good foundation to build a marriage relationship.

Look closely at the Proverbs 31 woman. She managed her household well and she was also a successful businesswoman. The heart of her husband trusts in her. Be a man of integrity, and ask God to send you a woman who is virtuous. You won't need to fear that she'll find another man.

Yes, but this is actually a rational fear based on rational reasons.

Adultery happens more often than not these days, and in every single demography, even the happiest churchgoing couples. And note that there has been also a major shift in the profile of the unfaithful, in the past they were mostly powerful men, but today, even a lot of housewives stray away. In fact I could say that in the latest years women have become more unfaithful in marriages than men. Which may be related as well to the fact that high school girls are already ruder, more problematic, and get drunk more often than their male peers. Even my mother suggested me at a point to stop thinking about marriage. These are all huge signs that times are getting very rough, for the good people who want to live in a godly marriage till death. And as such, I have to understand as a man the risks that marriage and women more probably than not could bring into my life for a long time and end it up in disaster, and therefore look for every way possible to minimize those risks. I hope you understand the meaning of risk minimization.

Then you will say just trust God and find a Proverbs 31 woman. The problem is that reality is not that simple, and there a lot of things to consider beforehand as well. When I turn to God, I'm pretty much turning the society into my enemy, with the challenges and consequences such a position would bring. Which means that serving God for my entire life will lead me into an eternal civil war against the world that will only finish with the end of my earthly life. The world would repeatedly attack me with its fire arrows, and I would have to defend myself with the strong thick shield of the Lord, and avoid the maximum number of arrows possible, which will not always be an easy task. Now guess what? My wife would have to do exactly the same as me, something which due to their nature the vast majority of women can't do. In her case, the war would be not only against the world, but basically against herself. The reason is that women are biologically programmed to seek social approval and mimic their peers. Which means that even if she initially attempts to "rebel" and be different from them, she will unconsciously grow to be more like them over time. It's hardwired in her nature, and the only way one can prevent this is either by entirely isolating her from society, or by inserting her into a very enclosed circle of like-minded people (the latter of which is sadly not always possible). Though of course, this will sound like a loud alarm bell to the world. Since this could bring me unnecessary additional problems, I have decided that instead of picking a woman from society and trying to disconnect her from her friends as our relationship consolidates, I will seek a woman who has voluntarily given up on it and decided to live within her bubble. And why? Because this way, none of us lose! Doesn't it sound like a fair deal? I don't harm her, she doesn't harm me.

 

[amadeus]

... I will seek a woman who has voluntarily given up on it and decided to live within her bubble. And why? Because this way, none of us lose! Doesn't it sound like a fair deal? I don't harm her, she doesn't harm me.

So then you are covered until you are not covered... that is until God stop blocking the enemy's access to you? What covering or protection does anyone have to day against his spiritual enemies? You cannot build your own hedge that will stand against Satan:

"Then Satan answered the LORD, and said, Doth Job fear God for nought?

Hast not thou made an hedge about him, and about his house, and about all that he hath on every side? thou hast blessed the work of his hands, and his substance is increased in the land.

But put forth thine hand now, and touch all that he hath, and he will curse thee to thy face.

And the LORD said unto Satan, Behold, all that he hath is in thy power; only upon himself put not forth thine hand. So Satan went forth from the presence of the LORD." Job 1:9-12

 

[TLHKAJ]

Adultery happens more often than not these days, and in every single demography, even the happiest churchgoing couples.

If Christ is your foundation, you don't need to fear. Just being a churchgoer doesn't make someone a Christian. And being a Christian doesn't make someone flawless. Someone can be an immature Christian and make bad decisions in marriage. The difference will be ...what kind of foundation so you have? And what kind of foundation does your wife have? It's not about being a shy socially awkward introvert. You and your future wife need to have a foundation in Christ. Take to heart the scriptures being shared here and seek the Lord. There's where you'll find your answers.

 

[ShyIntrovert]

And what kind of foundation does your wife have?

Except that she could lie about it, or change in the future.