Where can I find a really shy woman for a relationship?

[Mink57]

I had noticed how informed he is at such a young age. All one has to do is be observant to see how things are these days. He's not wrong in how things are today. The internet makes it almost impossible to be in a faithful relationship these days. Victory over STD's and easy access to immorality makes it so a man should only marry a Mennonite or Amish girl these days. I'm not just saying that for a laugh. It's bad out there.

As, if a man marries a Mennonite or Amish girl, it would somehow prevent HIM from cheating...?

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Men can show 'weakness' in many ways. They can act like doormats. Or, they can act like control freaks. Or, just plain jerks. Either way, a woman will lose respect for him, because he wasn't respectful to her and/or to others.

But as a Christian she is not to lose respect for him, but to respect him, nevertheless. Just as a man is to love his wife even if she is not lovable.

 

[TLHKAJ]

But this defies what Peter just got done teaching. Whether or not your husband or wife is worthy of love, honor, and respect is not conditioned on if they have earned it. How we treat our spouse is not conditional. We are to love as God loves. God's love is not conditional.

He (Paul) gave direct reference to Sarah and Abraham.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

As, if a man marries a Mennonite or Amish girl, it would somehow prevent HIM from cheating...?

Of course not. No more than it prevents her from cheating on him. It just far lessens the chance of it happening because it will be a more Biblically aligned relationship. God's not stupid. And he's not mocked. Live outside of his model for marriage and you've got the potential for some real trouble.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

He (Paul) gave direct reference to Sarah and Abraham.

Not sure what you're referencing but he said we owe respect to who we owe it to. This does not mean we only owe it if they deserve it. Remember when Paul unknowingly called the High Priest (I think that's who it was) a white washed wall?

 

[ShyIntrovert]

Men can show 'weakness' in many ways. They can act like doormats. Or, they can act like control freaks. Or, just plain jerks. Either way, a woman will lose respect for him, because he wasn't respectful to her and/or to others.

And from what I can see, most women where I live fall for jerks.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Honestly, any man with such poor views of women with a need to suppress and control them

I can honestly say I do not sense in his post a need for him to suppress and control a woman. He just wants a woman who's feet will stay at home. Bible readers will know what I mean by that.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

And from what I can see, most women where I live fall for jerks.

They do, but then they hate their guts when they tire of them.

 

[Mink57]

I can honestly say I do not sense in his post a need for him to suppress and control a woman. He just wants a woman who's feet will stay at home. Bible readers will know what I mean by that.

Except maybe to go to the grocery store...

 

[ShyIntrovert]

They do, but then they hate their guts when they tire of them.

And then "where are all the good men" and CAT PARTY!

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Except maybe to go to the grocery store...

No. The laundromat too.

 

[Mink57]

No. The laundromat too.

The OP never mentioned the laundromat...;) We can only go by what he writes.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

The OP never mentioned the laundromat...;) We can only go by what he writes.

Well, if she's earns his love he'll buy her a washer and dryer. I mean, fair is fair, right?

 

[Mink57]

Well, if she's earns his love he'll buy her a washer and dryer. I mean, fair is fair, right?

Only if he 'earns' HER love, too, would it be fair.

Besides, what would be fair is that if he buys a washer and dryer, that HE does the laundry, too.

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Only if he 'earns' HER love, too, would it be fair.

That was my point exactly.
Christians don't know that love is to be unconditional. But we don't love any different than how the world loves: "I'll love you if you love me." That's not God's love.

Women only have to love and respect their husbands if they are worthy of it. Of course, that is completely unbiblical, even evil, but that is the attitude of many, many Christian women. The point is, if that's true then men should not have to love their wives unless they are worthy of it. But Christian woman say a husband has to love his wife no matter what. They got that part right, but few of them know that they have to love and respect their husbands the same way.

 

[Nancy]

But as a Christian she is not to lose respect for him, but to respect him, nevertheless. Just as a man is to love his wife even if she is not lovable.

Oh brother, Christians can SURELY lose respect for anyone. If a husband, ("Christian") abuses his wife either physically or mentally/emotionally, how could ANY woman NOT lose respect? It turns into "fear" of the abusive spouse and, I will NEVER believe that a woman should EVER stay in an abusive marriage/relationship.
If said "Christian" husband does NOT love his wife as Christ loves the church...IMHO he is NOT a Christian. HELPMEET!

Genesis 2:18 - And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

1 Peter 3:7 - "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

Genesis 2:24 - "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Besides, what would be fair is that if he buys a washer and dryer, that HE does the laundry, too.

If he wants to love her that way, that's fine. But for a woman to demand that he love her that way, and that he owes it to her, that is where the wheels fall off the bus. Made worse by the fact if she feels no obligation to love him in similar manner.

 

[Mink57]

If he wants to love her that way, that's fine. But for a woman to demand that he love her that way, and that he owes it to her, that is where the wheels fall off the bus. Made worse by the fact if she feels no obligation to love him in similar manner.

Same with men...when they demand that she 'submit' to him...

 

[Michiah-Imla]

“Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:27)

“But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none” (1 Corinthians 7:28-29)

 

[Ferris Bueller]

Oh brother, Christians can SURELY lose respect for anyone. If a husband, ("Christian") abuses his wife either physically or mentally/emotionally, how could ANY woman NOT lose respect? It turns into "fear" of the abusive spouse and, I will NEVER believe that a woman should EVER stay in an abusive marriage/relationship.
If said "Christian" husband does NOT love his wife as Christ loves the church...IMHO he is NOT a Christian. HELPMEET!

Genesis 2:18 - And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

1 Peter 3:7 - "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

Genesis 2:24 - "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

Physical abuse ends a marriage relationship and ends all discussion about marital respect. You don't owe marital respect in a relationship that in effect is no longer a marital relationship because of physical abuse (don't get me wrong, she's still married to him). The woman is to submit to a husband as is fitting in the Lord.