There is an age of accountability.
This is an important aspect, often overlooked in discussions like this.
Like most emotive topics, it’s sometimes hard to see past the emotion.
But Christian baptism has to reflect the same baptism that Jesus undertook, which was not a request for forgiveness of sins, but the beginning of a new course in life.....and he was 30 when John baptised him.
John was hesitant to proceed because he knew that his baptism was for the forgiveness of sins committed against the Mosaic law. He “prepared the way” for the Messiah who came after him, by getting the people in the right frame of mind and heart to accept Messiah’s teachings.
So what did Jesus’ baptism symbolise, since it was not for the remission of sins? Jesus said to John that this (one off) baptism was so that God’s will could be carried out in connection with the role that he was now undertaking, from that day forward. So with complete immersion, he was symbolically dying to his former life and rising to a new life of dedication to his God and Father.....a role that Paul identified as a role of service......he called Jesus
“God’s holy servant”. (Acts 4:27, 30) That day Jesus received the holy spirit and became “the Christ”. People become “born again” only after the dedication of baptism, not before.
Those baptised by John, on accepting Jesus as the Christ, had to undergo a separate Christian baptism to demonstrate publicly that they had begun a new course in life as disciples of the Messiah.
It was not the baptism itself that was the important thing, but more importantly, what it symbolised. It was also a decision that had to be demonstrated from that day forward, in the lifestyle of that individual who has told the world that they now belonged to Christ as a fellow ‘servant’ of his God.
Paul also stated something significant with regard to the spiritual standing of children. There is not one single mention of any infant being baptised in the scriptures.....for very good reason. Christian baptism was full immersion under the water and to do that to an infant would put their life at risk. Paul gave us a different perspective as to the standing of children from God’s perspective....
1 Cor 7:12-15....
“....if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” (NASB)
Do you see provision there for believers to feel secure that their minor children are covered under their own Christian parenthood. Even an unbelieving mate comes under that umbrella, but for children there is an “age of accountability” where the child then becomes responsible for their own course in life, and can choose to become a Christian by his or her own baptism, or not, according to their own free will. There is no proxy arrangement for baptism. As Paul goes on to relate, mates too can be drawn to God by the conduct of their believing spouse. However their ‘sanctified’ standing only applies while they are married to a believer. At the judgment, they will stand before God on their own.
And once undertaken, baptism carries a weight of responsibility to continue in that course for the rest of your life....that is not something an infant can undertake of their own free will.
This, I believe rules or any necessity for infant baptism, but there is no impediment to having a naming ceremony if that is the parent’s wish. It can be something done at home even, not requiring the services of anyone but the parents and attendance by close family and friends. All are free to celebrate the birth of a child and to give them a name that will be theirs for the rest of their lives.