Son moving away

[Rita]

Hi Everyone,
Wonder if you could pray for me over the next few days. My middle son and his family are moving from the U.K. to Northern Ireland, and I have to say goodbye to them tomorrow. Dave has always been my gentle giant ( well I am small in height and he is tall !! lol ) Always there to give me a hug when my world has fallen apart, and it has many times. In terms of distance, and compared to how far many from the US have to travel, he isn’t really going that far , but for me its a flight away, rather than just a 45 min car journey.
Not many around me understand the emotion that I am feeling , all I know is that I am an emotional wreck and just don’t know how I will face the moment when I have to actually say goodbye.
Many thanks xx

 

[MA2444]

Done.

 

[Rita]

Done.

Thank you x

 

[Bob]

Thank you for reaching out.

One of my favorite facts about the New Testament is that the Greeks had four different words, all of which we translate as “love.” “Storge” does not appear much, but it expresses the special love we have for family members. On top of that, your middle son, with you all these years since bonding at childbirth, is departing. How poignant.

Our hearts go out to you and them. May God sustain you and comfort you during your trial of physical separation, and also look after them during and after their relocation.

Many blessings.

 

[LoveYeshua]

Hi Everyone,
Wonder if you could pray for me over the next few days. My middle son and his family are moving from the U.K. to Northern Ireland, and I have to say goodbye to them tomorrow. Dave has always been my gentle giant ( well I am small in height and he is tall !! lol ) Always there to give me a hug when my world has fallen apart, and it has many times. In terms of distance, and compared to how far many from the US have to travel, he isn’t really going that far , but for me its a flight away, rather than just a 45 min car journey.
Not many around me understand the emotion that I am feeling , all I know is that I am an emotional wreck and just don’t know how I will face the moment when I have to actually say goodbye.
Many thanks xx\

 

[amadeus]

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Praying.

 

[Lambano]

Prayers for Dave and family.

Prayers for Rita.

 

[Debp]

Agreeing in prayer.

 

[Ritajanice]

Dear Rita.

May God comfort your heart at this time of great emotional distress ...you Love your children from deep within your heart, I think it’s called Agape Love...unconditional Love.Gods Love..

Don’t even imo ,try to hold those emotions in, when he/they depart for Ireland.as in cry, nothing wrong in showing your heart, because that’s what you will be doing..and I’m sure you will get that big hug from him, plus other members of the family....will be thinking and praying for you..in Jesus Name..Amen!x

 

[Taken]

Hi Rita ~

Yes, prayers for your son & family’s new choice of residence and your peace and comfort per the distance from them.

God bless you.

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[Bob Estey]

Hi Everyone,
Wonder if you could pray for me over the next few days. My middle son and his family are moving from the U.K. to Northern Ireland, and I have to say goodbye to them tomorrow. Dave has always been my gentle giant ( well I am small in height and he is tall !! lol ) Always there to give me a hug when my world has fallen apart, and it has many times. In terms of distance, and compared to how far many from the US have to travel, he isn’t really going that far , but for me its a flight away, rather than just a 45 min car journey.
Not many around me understand the emotion that I am feeling , all I know is that I am an emotional wreck and just don’t know how I will face the moment when I have to actually say goodbye.
Many thanks xx

My closest friend would be my brother. He is a 2-day drive away. We email each other all the time.

 

[NotTheRock]

I can relate, Rita. I had the same feelings when my son moved. I had to remind myself that "my" son belongs to God first and that God has plans for him that likely don't involve me.

 

[Nancy]

Hi Everyone,
Wonder if you could pray for me over the next few days. My middle son and his family are moving from the U.K. to Northern Ireland, and I have to say goodbye to them tomorrow. Dave has always been my gentle giant ( well I am small in height and he is tall !! lol ) Always there to give me a hug when my world has fallen apart, and it has many times. In terms of distance, and compared to how far many from the US have to travel, he isn’t really going that far , but for me its a flight away, rather than just a 45 min car journey.
Not many around me understand the emotion that I am feeling , all I know is that I am an emotional wreck and just don’t know how I will face the moment when I have to actually say goodbye.
Many thanks xx

You will be in my prayers Reets, when one of my brothers moved to N.C., my heart broke and 18 years later, it still does. He was always there for me, no matter the issue. He is my closest sibling, for sure and I miss him.
I pray for comfort and the fact that you will be able to now and then, take a plane ride there to see your son. I hate that your sweet heart hurts sister.
xxx

 

[Taken]

Ditto…Bob, Nancy….

Hard when family with close relationship is met with circumstances of long distances…
Carrying mixed emotions of happiness and longing for their company…

We have and had the same issues regarding parents, siblings and children…. and the emotions linger…happy and longing…

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[Angelina]

Praying for you sister @Rita I know how difficult a time this can be. Blessings and Peace to you xox

 

[Rita]

Thank you everyone - they left, I cried, we hugged and no doubt it won’t be the end of my tears , but even I know it’s all about letting go and allowing them to do what they need to do………….

 

[Lambano]

Hey, Rita, look at it this way: When our son left home at 18, it was to join the Navy. At least in Northern Ireland (now that the Troubles are long past), nobody will be shooting at Dave.

 

[Rita]

Hey, Rita, look at it this way: When our son left home at 18, it was to join the Navy. At least in Northern Ireland (now that the Troubles are long past), nobody will be shooting at Dave.

My twin brother left home when we were 16 , to join the army- two years later he is serving in Northern Ireland during the troubles- he still has PTSD and we are now 66. Going to NI to visit will bring a wide range of emotions, especially as my son will be living just outside Belfast. He knows that he can’t mention that his Uncle was in the British army, there are still active members of the IRA around and from time to time you still hear of random killings .
I remember all those years ago , everytime the phone rang we wondered if something had happened, more so when it hit the news that a bomb had gone off or a soldier had died. A lot of the emotion I feel about ‘ letting go ‘is linked to my brother. Twins often feel separation anxiety- only Found that out last year, made a lot of sense.
xx

 

[Wrangler]

Wonder if you could pray for me over the next few days. My middle son and his family are moving from the U.K. to Northern Ireland, and I have to say goodbye to them tomorrow.

My prayers are with you.

I recall when the situation was reversed. In fact, I was thinking just last week about that fateful last night. Getting out of college, I got a job 2,000 miles away. This was my last night living in the Boston area. My mother asked me what I wanted for dinner. My grandparents were coming over, who shared at least 2 meals every week with me my entire life, Friday dinner and Sunday lunch.

I wondered what to say, aware this goodbye would be painful. I decided to defer to how the older men, my father and grandfather wanted to handle it.

They pretended like it was a dinner get together like any other. The clock was rapidly clicking down to the time I had to leave. The small talk continued. And it began to annoy me. Focused on myself, on how I was feeling overwhelmed, it did not occur to me that these men were also overwhelmed and unable to speak in the moment. I initiated the "it's about time I go."

My grandfather, always positive, tried to spin the event as a journey he is looking forward to taking once I get settled and will visit me often. It is the only time I recall tears in my grandfather's eyes. I knew it hurt him terribly and there was nothing to be done about it. I was a man about to embark on the journey of my life, away from everything I ever knew, all my family, friends and places of meaning.

I suppose it is akin to getting comfortable with public speaking, talking about such life moments is something that came to me later in life. Years later, after I gave the eulogy to my grandfather and then a year later to my grandmother, my younger cousin remarked that I really had a way of talking of such topics. If I could go back ... I encourage you to draft some words on how you feel about this milestone and love for your son.

 

[Rita]

My prayers are with you.

I recall when the situation was reversed. In fact, I was thinking just last week about that fateful last night. Getting out of college, I got a job 2,000 miles away. This was my last night living in the Boston area. My mother asked me what I wanted for dinner. My grandparents were coming over, who shared at least 2 meals every week with me my entire life, Friday dinner and Sunday lunch.

I wondered what to say, aware this goodbye would be painful. I decided to defer to how the older men, my father and grandfather wanted to handle it.

They pretended like it was a dinner get together like any other. The clock was rapidly clicking down to the time I had to leave. The small talk continued. And it began to annoy me. Focused on myself, on how I was feeling overwhelmed, it did not occur to me that these men were also overwhelmed and unable to speak in the moment. I initiated the "it's about time I go."

My grandfather, always positive, tried to spin the event as a journey he is looking forward to taking once I get settled and will visit me often. It is the only time I recall tears in my grandfather's eyes. I knew it hurt him terribly and there was nothing to be done about it. I was a man about to embark on the journey of my life, away from everything I ever knew, all my family, friends and places of meaning.

I suppose it is akin to getting comfortable with public speaking, talking about such life moments is something that came to me later in life. Years later, after I gave the eulogy to my grandfather and then a year later to my grandmother, my younger cousin remarked that I really had a way of talking of such topics. If I could go back ... I encourage you to draft some words on how you feel about this milestone and love for your son.

Oh thank you for sharing that prospective Wrangler - I intend to write to my son in the coming week , but I have thankfully been quite open with him about how I am feeling. I know he is apprehensive , but he equally knows this is the right move .
I can relate about the small talk, avoidance - we had that just before the ‘ goodbyes ‘ were due to start. No one really wanted to make that first move.