Reproving a sinner is not “hate speech”

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You have heard it said, we are to hate the sin, but we are to love the sinner. And yes, Jesus did tell us to love our neighbor and to love our enemies.

But what I am seeing today is that those who call themselves Christians are embracing the sinner, having fellowship with the sinner, and not even rebuking the sinner of their sins.

They have been deceived into thinking that rebuking and reproving the sinner is “hate speech” and so they keep silent. This of course is the opposite message that God’s words tell us to do.

We are told to love our neighbor, but if he sins, then we are commanded to rebuke him and warn him of the dangers of sin.

It is written in Leviticus 19:17 17 “Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.”

I like to use the blind man analogy, that if you saw a blind man fixing to walk off the edge of a cliff and plummet to his death, would you hold your tongue and watch him fall to a certain death?

Many would say of course not! So in the same way if you see those around you partaking in sinful behavior, why would you not warn them? Because the wages of sin will also lead to a certain death.

So, if you truly loved your neighbor, and if you truly loved your enemy, then why would you not warn them that their sins will lead to a certain death and destruction?

If you truly loved them then you would tell them that the cure for their sinful condition is found in having faith in Jesus Christ. The gospel message includes a call for sinners to repent of their sins,and seek the Lord and His righteousness.

But this is not what we are seeing in many denominations today. They are telling the sinner they are fine just the way they are, and that God loves them just the way they are.

Not only that, but they are also having fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness. We are warned in scripture many times not to have fellowship with sinners, but these warnings are being ignored.

Again, warning sinners of the dangers of sinful behavior is not “hate speech”; that is the tactic of the enemy, and it is the opposite of what God commands us to do.

Warning a sinner is the opposite of hate speech because if you truly love the sinner and love your enemy, then you will warn them of the dangers of sin, which is death.

It is written Proverbs 27:5
Open rebuke is better than secret love.” It is also written that love does not rejoice in sin.

One of the signs of a true born again Christian is that they, by the Holy Spirit, will reprove the world of sin. But that is not what we are seeing today, we are seeing an embracing of sin and a silence from those who call themselves Christians when it comes to reproving sinners of sinful behavior.

God warned Ezekiel, to warn the wicked of their sinful ways, even if they would not listen and repent. God told Ezekiel that if he did not warn the wicked, then their blood would be on his hands.

Do you want the blood of sinners on your hands for not speaking out against their sinful behavior? Paul said to the unbelieving Jews that “Your blood be upon your own heads; I am clean;”

And also in Acts 20:25-26 ..25 And now, behold, I know that ye all, among whom I have gone preaching the kingdom of God, shall see my face no more.26 Wherefore I take you to record this day, that I am pure from the blood of all men.”


Don't believe the lies of the Devil, speaking out against sinful behavior is not “hate speech”; it is an act of love in hopes that some might come to repentance and be saved from their sins by having faith in Jesus Christ.

Be good and be blessed.
 

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Thank you for your post. Well put.

And here is what gentle Jesus advises:

15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.” (Matthew 18:15-17)

Amen
 

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You have heard it said, we are to hate the sin, but we are to love the sinner. And yes, Jesus did tell us to love our neighbor and to love our enemies.

But what I am seeing today is that those who call themselves Christians are embracing the sinner, having fellowship with the sinner, and not even rebuking the sinner of their sins.

They have been deceived into thinking that rebuking and reproving the sinner is “hate speech” and so they keep silent. This of course is the opposite message that God’s words tell us to do.

We are told to love our neighbor, but if he sins, then we are commanded to rebuke him and warn him of the dangers of sin.

It is written in Leviticus 19:17 17 “Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.”

I like to use the blind man analogy, that if you saw a blind man fixing to walk off the edge of a cliff and plummet to his death, would you hold your tongue and watch him fall to a certain death?

Many would say of course not! So in the same way if you see those around you partaking in sinful behavior, why would you not warn them? Because the wages of sin will also lead to a certain death.

So, if you truly loved your neighbor, and if you truly loved your enemy, then why would you not warn them that their sins will lead to a certain death and destruction?

If you truly loved them then you would tell them that the cure for their sinful condition is found in having faith in Jesus Christ. The gospel message includes a call for sinners to repent of their sins,and seek the Lord and His righteousness.

But this is not what we are seeing in many denominations today. They are telling the sinner they are fine just the way they are, and that God loves them just the way they are.

Not only that, but they are also having fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness. We are warned in scripture many times not to have fellowship with sinners, but these warnings are being ignored.

Again, warning sinners of the dangers of sinful behavior is not “hate speech”; that is the tactic of the enemy, and it is the opposite of what God commands us to do.

Warning a sinner is the opposite of hate speech because if you truly love the sinner and love your enemy, then you will warn them of the dangers of sin, which is death.

It is written Proverbs 27:5
Open rebuke is better than secret love.” It is also written that love does not rejoice in sin.

One of the signs of a true born again Christian is that they, by the Holy Spirit, will reprove the world of sin. But that is not what we are seeing today, we are seeing an embracing of sin and a silence from those who call themselves Christians when it comes to reproving sinners of sinful behavior.

God warned Ezekiel, to warn the wicked of their sinful ways, even if they would not listen and repent. God told Ezekiel that if he did not warn the wicked, then their blood would be on his hands.

Do you want the blood of sinners on your hands for not speaking out against their sinful behavior? Paul said to the unbelieving Jews that “Your blood be upon your own heads; I am clean;”

And also in Acts 20:25-26 ..25 And now, behold, I know that ye all, among whom I have gone preaching the kingdom of God, shall see my face no more.26 Wherefore I take you to record this day, that I am pure from the blood of all men.”


Don't believe the lies of the Devil, speaking out against sinful behavior is not “hate speech”; it is an act of love in hopes that some might come to repentance and be saved from their sins by having faith in Jesus Christ.

Be good and be blessed.
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Absolutely agree.
But under the Political Correct god's God does not exist ! Such things are being banned and it will be banned as God is Taboo under Political Correctness, because under Political Correctness the truth does not exist in fact, you know what they claim the truth is, don't you !

Socialist are Satanist, so they can make anything up ! and you just have to follow along or else you become an enemy of the State in fact !
 

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You have heard it said, we are to hate the sin, but we are to love the sinner. And yes, Jesus did tell us to love our neighbor and to love our enemies.

But what I am seeing today is that those who call themselves Christians are embracing the sinner, having fellowship with the sinner, and not even rebuking the sinner of their sins.

They have been deceived into thinking that rebuking and reproving the sinner is “hate speech” and so they keep silent. This of course is the opposite message that God’s words tell us to do.

We are told to love our neighbor, but if he sins, then we are commanded to rebuke him and warn him of the dangers of sin.

It is written in Leviticus 19:17 17 “Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.”

I like to use the blind man analogy, that if you saw a blind man fixing to walk off the edge of a cliff and plummet to his death, would you hold your tongue and watch him fall to a certain death?

Many would say of course not! So in the same way if you see those around you partaking in sinful behavior, why would you not warn them? Because the wages of sin will also lead to a certain death.

So, if you truly loved your neighbor, and if you truly loved your enemy, then why would you not warn them that their sins will lead to a certain death and destruction?

If you truly loved them then you would tell them that the cure for their sinful condition is found in having faith in Jesus Christ. The gospel message includes a call for sinners to repent of their sins,and seek the Lord and His righteousness.

But this is not what we are seeing in many denominations today. They are telling the sinner they are fine just the way they are, and that God loves them just the way they are.

Not only that, but they are also having fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness. We are warned in scripture many times not to have fellowship with sinners, but these warnings are being ignored.

Again, warning sinners of the dangers of sinful behavior is not “hate speech”; that is the tactic of the enemy, and it is the opposite of what God commands us to do.

Warning a sinner is the opposite of hate speech because if you truly love the sinner and love your enemy, then you will warn them of the dangers of sin, which is death.

It is written Proverbs 27:5
Open rebuke is better than secret love.” It is also written that love does not rejoice in sin.

One of the signs of a true born again Christian is that they, by the Holy Spirit, will reprove the world of sin. But that is not what we are seeing today, we are seeing an embracing of sin and a silence from those who call themselves Christians when it comes to reproving sinners of sinful behavior.

God warned Ezekiel, to warn the wicked of their sinful ways, even if they would not listen and repent. God told Ezekiel that if he did not warn the wicked, then their blood would be on his hands.

Do you want the blood of sinners on your hands for not speaking out against their sinful behavior? Paul said to the unbelieving Jews that “Your blood be upon your own heads; I am clean;”

And also in Acts 20:25-26 ..25 And now, behold, I know that ye all, among whom I have gone preaching the kingdom of God, shall see my face no more.26 Wherefore I take you to record this day, that I am pure from the blood of all men.”


Don't believe the lies of the Devil, speaking out against sinful behavior is not “hate speech”; it is an act of love in hopes that some might come to repentance and be saved from their sins by having faith in Jesus Christ.

Be good and be blessed.
"Love the sinner hate the sin," is all well and good. We can understand why warning against sin isn't hate because of that from our perspective as Born again Christians.

However there are those amongst the lost who stake their personal Identify in their sin. I can understand why they would see hate for their sin as an condemnation against them personally. It is truly a sorry state of affairs, as humans need some sort of affirmation for their psychological wellbeing. We will identify with ideologies that are not beneficial to us if it provides a form of affirmation through a peer group, and no alternative is presented.

It seems like the degradation of community and the cultural falling away from God has left many empty with no peer group. God has not designed us to be alone.
 

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All you do for the unsaved spiritually is to pray for them. You can do nothing without Christ and God doing the work inside of them.
Unsaved naturally resist God due to the enmity that is within them. They are opponents, antichrists, only God changes the heart, God is the one who grants repentance to know the truth (Christ).

24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, 26 and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.
 

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Hello to the original poster,

There is a difference between teaching lessons and deciding to beat children into submission. I seen a person who shot the mother of a child on a YouTube video yesterday who hated children, and was very mean. Some people have had a grandma or a grandpa who put cigarettes out on them, due to their hatred. There is definitely a way to handle things without having to terrify anyone; don’t you think?

I talk to atheist, and other people of many different backgrounds: and while some may listen to what you have to say, some may come around to believing in God later on, all one can truly do is hope and is pray for each of them while faithfully clinging on to the LORD God.

Blessings.
 
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Jesus and John teach about the hearing, and of those who are not able to hear God. It is really a total inability for the unsaved to hear God as they are of the world, they are not of God, they are of their father the devil and they listen to him.
Those who are perishing have been blinded in their minds by the god of this world, Satan and Satan does this to prevent them from being enlightened by the gospel, 2 Corinthians 4.

To have the ability to hear God means a person is of God, as in born of the Spirit of God and they are His people whom He will save. God has shown His light in their heart, and they will reflect that light outwards, trusting themselves to God through Christ..
Being born in this way is the first step to a person trusting themselves to Christ. So let your light shine before men that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.


Jesus said 47 He who is of God hears God’s words; therefore you do not hear, because you are not of God.”
John said 6 We are of God. He who knows God hears us; he who is not of God does not hear us.


1 John 4:4-6

4 You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.
5 They are of the world. Therefore they speak as of the world, and the world hears them.
6 We are of God. He who knows God hears us; he who is not of God does not hear us. By this we know the spirit of truth and the spirit of error.

And John 8

39 They answered and said to Him, “Abraham is our father.”

Jesus said to them, “If you were Abraham’s children, you would do the works of Abraham. 40 But now you seek to kill Me, a Man who has told you the truth which I heard from God. Abraham did not do this. 41 You do the deeds of your father.”

Then they said to Him, “We were not born of fornication; we have one Father—God.”

42 Jesus said to them, “If God were your Father, you would love Me, for I proceeded forth and came from God; nor have I come of Myself, but He sent Me. 43 Why do you not understand My speech? Because you are not able to listen to My word. 44 You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it. 45 But because I tell the truth, you do not believe Me. 46 Which of you convicts Me of sin? And if I tell the truth, why do you not believe Me?

47 He who is of God hears God’s words; therefore you do not hear, because you are not of God.”
 

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The wonderful truth is that God did His work in you so that you have believed in the only begotten Son of God, Jesus Christ.
Therefore, they who believe in Him are not under condemnation, they have passed from death into life.

The dead who hear the voice of the Son of God will LIVE
They will hear if they are born of the Spirit.
God is spirit and those who worship God must worship Him in spirit and in truth

24 “Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life.

25 Most assuredly, I say to you, the hour is coming, and now is, when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God; and those who hear will live.

26 For as the Father has life in Himself, so He has granted the Son to have life in Himself, 27 and has given Him authority to execute judgment also, because He is the Son of Man. 28 Do not marvel at this; for the hour is coming in which all who are in the graves will hear His voice 29 and come forth—those who have done good, to the resurrection of life, and those who have done evil, to the resurrection of condemnation. 30 I can of Myself do nothing. As I hear, I judge; and My judgment is righteous, because I do not seek My own will but the will of the Father who sent Me.
 

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Hello @Scott Downey

I’ve heard some people being saved since they were children and then they go end up molesting children. I’ve heard some people get saved later on in life. It’s most certainly a choice; and picking on people is not a way to go about it. You can tell them something is wrong, or whatever but they have to choose themselves whether or not they will stop. I was a meth user and marijuana user for a long time before I stopped. Those things were yes against the law; but I still used them anyway until I decided to make the choice to stop. Yahavah has helped me but I also have to make a choice and let him work with me.
 

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For those of God, who hear, they hear the things of God through His Spirit, the things having to do with salvation and sanctification, which are freely given to us by God.

10 But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God. 11 For what man knows the things of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so no one knows the things of God except the Spirit of God. 12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things that have been freely given to us by God.

If we are born of His Spirit, we have been joined to the Lord as one spirit with Him, and only we will know the spiritual things of God., as it is He who teaches us to come to Christ.

43 Jesus therefore answered and said to them, [h]“Do not murmur among yourselves. 44 No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws him; and I will raise him up at the last day. 45 It is written in the prophets, ‘And they shall all be taught by God.’ Therefore everyone who [i]has heard and learned from the Father comes to Me. 46 Not that anyone has seen the Father, except He who is from God; He has seen the Father. 47 Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes [j]in Me has everlasting life.
 

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What about the people who profess Christianity but still live in sin? Those who while professing their faith in Jesus, stake their personal identity in sin in some way? We see that on the board here. And it's frowned upon to call out these people on their faith.

I understand that those who run the board have a certain obligation to be at least somewhat politically correct about it and so it's prolly even a rule? Either way it's tacky. But these people need to question the state of their soul and hear encouraging words.

You can't take someone aside on the board and speak to them privately about it. You could DM them and start a conversation with them but they are going to take it as an attack or harassment and it wont end well for the Brother or Sister which is trying to speak encouraging words to them.

So the only thing a man can do is to speak in open forum to the people, and tip toe around the truth provoking their thoughts. That tactic is becoming less and less effective because of the great falling away that is happening. When you speak truth to them, they become a victim and hostile where they try to label you and tell you what you think!

What's a guy to do? Just keep trying. Holy Spirit, let me not write any thing which can be received as some sort of attack on them today...??
 

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What about the people who profess Christianity but still live in sin? Those who while professing their faith in Jesus, stake their personal identity in sin in some way? We see that on the board here. And it's frowned upon to call out these people on their faith.

I understand that those who run the board have a certain obligation to be at least somewhat politically correct about it and so it's prolly even a rule? Either way it's tacky. But these people need to question the state of their soul and hear encouraging words.

You can't take someone aside on the board and speak to them privately about it. You could DM them and start a conversation with them but they are going to take it as an attack or harassment and it wont end well for the Brother or Sister which is trying to speak encouraging words to them.

So the only thing a man can do is to speak in open forum to the people, and tip toe around the truth provoking their thoughts. That tactic is becoming less and less effective because of the great falling away that is happening. When you speak truth to them, they become a victim and hostile where they try to label you and tell you what you think!

What's a guy to do? Just keep trying. Holy Spirit, let me not write any thing which can be received as some sort of attack on them today...??
They have the scriptures, if they are on the forum they can read what other Christians have to say about sin. They don't necessarily have to be directly confronted by anonymous people on the internet. If God is not disciplining their bad behaviors, then they don't belong to God. they are not His sons, not His family. Effective rebuke and exhortation is for believers from other believers. Of course they claim they are of God, but if not, expect lot's of trouble from them. Many people will at the judgement be told by Christ He never knew them and depart from me you workers of iniquity. You can not make them change their spots, but God can change them. I try not to worry about things I can not change. Everything is unfolding according to God's plans and purposes for us to receive our eternal inheritance.

Hebrews 12
3 For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls. 4 You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin. 5 And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons:

“My son, do not despise the [c]chastening of the Lord,
Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him;
6 For whom the Lord loves He chastens,
And scourges every son whom He receives.”
7 If[d] you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? 8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness. 11 Now no [e]chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
 
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The timing of this thread is perfect. Here is my dilemma. My wife and I are planning to visit a high school friend of her from 4 decades ago. Because of him, I met my wife. Anyway, he moved to Florida and bought a house. He invited us to visit at years end. Also, he came out of the closet and has a husband. What do you advise?
 
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They have the scriptures, if they are on the forum they can read what other Christians have to say about sin. They don't necessarily have to be directly confronted by anonymous people on the internet. If God is not disciplining their bad behaviors, then they don't belong to God. they are not His sons, not His family. Effective rebuke and exhortation is for believers from other believers. Of course they claim they are of God, but if not, expect lot's of trouble from them. Many people will at the judgement be told by Christ He never knew them and depart from me you workers of iniquity. You can not make them change their spots, but God can change them. I try not to worry about things I can not change. Everything is unfolding according to God's plans and purposes for us to receive our eternal inheritance.

Hebrews 12
3 For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls. 4 You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin. 5 And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons:

“My son, do not despise the [c]chastening of the Lord,
Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him;
6 For whom the Lord loves He chastens,
And scourges every son whom He receives.”
7 If[d] you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? 8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? 10 For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness. 11 Now no [e]chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

I'm learning how to speak diplomat, lol. Many times I leave it alone, but if the spirit says say this is needs said, then I just gotta say it. It hasn't made me very popular with the women here, lol but that is of no consequence. In that way maybe they have at least heard the truth and then Holy Spirit can have them to think about it.
 

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The timing of this thread is perfect. Here is my dilemma. My wife and I are planning to visit a high school friend of her from 4 decades ago. Because of him, I met my wife. Anyway, he moved to Florida and bought a house. He invited us to visit at years end. Also, he came out of the closet and has a husband. What do you advise?

No way I could advise you of what to do between you & your wife on this! Good luck, Brother! I guess I could tell you how I would handle that situation if it arose between me and my wife.

I think it is a bad situation that I would avoid even going.
Scenario #1 He came out as gay and he's married to a man. So, do you not believe him and need to travel there to see? What are you supposed to do then? STart sending them Christmas cards and visiting every other year? Evangelize him? Most gays dont want evangelized and if they do, you would have heard questions already about God. Yu didn't. You heard, I'm out of the closet and have a husband! Don't get any on you if you go! What if the man's philosophy is confided to your wife and it affects her mind or heart? Too many things could go wrong. So he introduced us, thanks bob, sorry you turned gay. No, we're not like that, good luck with it though!

Scenario #2 He's lying about being gay and married and wants your wife to somehow come come alone...so he can make his play for her? Stir up some old feelings that he had and she may have had, who knows?.

What business has a straight married woman got with gay men? Old friends? Well yeah, but he turned gay and that is sinful and weird.

You're in for some fireworks friend. Nothing about you I envy today! Lol. I'm soory Brother. I don't mean to laugh but I'm glad it's not me in that situation. It's just that, many women are gay sympathetic because they have a good heart at it's core, and perhaps they see them as non threatening? But you are the spiritual leader of the home, so must guide your wife through this trial.

This mission should you decide to accept it...will be told is bunk and you will painted as a bad guy and you will have o help from anyone because your wife has teeth! This message will self delete in 15 seconds, lol.
 
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The timing of this thread is perfect. Here is my dilemma. My wife and I are planning to visit a high school friend of her from 4 decades ago. Because of him, I met my wife. Anyway, he moved to Florida and bought a house. He invited us to visit at years end. Also, he came out of the closet and has a husband. What do you advise?
Paul teaches it depends, does the man say he is a believer in the Lord?
If not, then it is ok to keep company, as they are everywhere in life, unbelievers who sin. If you cannot bear the thought of spending time with them, then don't, but it is not a sin to do so,

We commanded to not keep company with sexually immoral people who say they are a brother in the Lord.
We don't encourage such people in their sins. We are to judge them who are inside the church, not them who are outside, God judges those on the outside.

1 Corinthians 5

Immorality Must Be Judged​

9 I wrote to you in my epistle not to [f]keep company with sexually immoral people. 10 Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. 11 But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.

12 For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? 13 But those who are outside God judges. Therefore “put away from yourselves the evil person.”
 

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This mission should you decide to accept it...will be told is bunk and you will painted as a bad guy and you will have o help from anyone because your wife has teeth! This message will self delete in 15 seconds, lol.
Yea, that's how I see it too.

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We don't encourage such people in their sins.

Jesus always chose to eat with sinners and hang out with them.
Why?
To influence them, to cause them to see the LIGHT.

Paul did the same, unless he was in a Local Church He started......showing them more they needed to Know.

THE NT says that the born again are "salt and Light", and that means that our words and deeds, are to reflect to the unbeliever, God and Salvation and Hope.