Praise God with me....I need a man!

[LittleTuneAlright]

Peeps...

I'm so very single, and want a man to keep me company.

So I am going to use this wonderful Praise forum, in order to keep a focus on progress, and hopefully to encourage those in the throws of any loneliness and document my progress, on meeting the "one for me"

So a bit about me...

I broke up with my last partner many years ago ( I was not a christian back then, and he had an affair) and we have two wonderful grown children in the military doing well in themselves.
I have not met anyone I like enough to marry or keep as a life partner since then... everyone seems to be taken, or I am just not feeling the love.
All I have ever wanted was to fall in love and get married which has never happened and it feels like a military operation

I work with many men, but most are all younger than me,( I work with the military too in a large military complex. I have only been there 4 month) I have been to churches and either they are married or there are more women than men. My current church is full of women LOL. I have tried dating sites and they all seem like a conveyer belt... Just swipe left ...
They seem to all be looking for hook ups. And the dating site I used, tried to charge me after I left and avoided my cancellation plee for ages, charging me even after dumping the service.


There is currently a man right now on my radar at work, I will call Derek. (not his real name)

Derek is someone at work who is a civilian trainer, who I cheekily asked for some of his home made wine after finding out he brews it himself. It tasted alright but it nearly gave me lockjaw but I wont tell him that. I have not noticed a ring on his finger yet, so next time I see him I hope to ask more about him if he has no ring or no girlfriend. I don't know when I will see Derek again, he only pops in now and then..in the meantime here's to all you single lonely people out there....



I will not give up, because, ....

Romans 5:3-5 NIV. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.


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More to come...

 

[Hey You!]

Peeps...

I'm so very single, and want a man to keep me company.

So I am going to use this wonderful Praise forum, in order to keep a focus on progress, and hopefully to encourage those in the throws of any loneliness and document my progress, on meeting the "one for me"

So a bit about me...

I broke up with my last partner many years ago ( I was not a christian back then, and he had an affair) and we have two wonderful grown children in the military doing well in themselves.
I have not met anyone I like enough to marry or keep as a life partner since then... everyone seems to be taken, or I am just not feeling the love.
All I have ever wanted was to fall in love and get married which has never happened and it feels like a military operation

I work with many men, but most are all younger than me,( I work with the military too in a large military complex. I have only been there 4 month) I have been to churches and either they are married or there are more women than men. My current church is full of women LOL. I have tried dating sites and they all seem like a conveyer belt... Just swipe left ...
They seem to all be looking for hook ups. And the dating site I used, tried to charge me after I left and avoided my cancellation plee for ages, charging me even after dumping the service.


There is currently a man right now on my radar at work, I will call Derek. (not his real name)

Derek is someone at work who is a civilian trainer, who I cheekily asked for some of his home made wine after finding out he brews it himself. It tasted alright but it nearly gave me lockjaw but I wont tell him that. I have not noticed a ring on his finger yet, so next time I see him I hope to ask more about him if he has no ring or no girlfriend. I don't know when I will see Derek again, he only pops in now and then..in the meantime here's to all you single lonely people out there....



I will not give up, because, ....

Romans 5:3-5 NIV. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.


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More to come...

Titus 2:4-8 NLT. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely.


Are there any Mature ladies here who will speak up?

 

[Debp]

Derek is someone at work who is a civilian trainer, who I cheekily asked for some of his home made wine after finding out he brews it himself. It tasted alright but it nearly gave me lockjaw but I wont tell him that. I have not noticed a ring on his finger yet, so next time I see him I hope to ask more about him if he has no ring or no girlfriend. I don't know when I will see Derek again, he only pops in now and then..in the meantime here's to all you single lonely people out there....

I think the most important thing is to find out if he is a believer. If he's not a born again Christian, you will just be asking for trouble I think.

 

[soberxp]

He who trusts in Jesus Christ will not be alone.

 

[Pearl]

Peeps...

I'm so very single, and want a man to keep me company.

So I am going to use this wonderful Praise forum, in order to keep a focus on progress, and hopefully to encourage those in the throws of any loneliness and document my progress, on meeting the "one for me"

So a bit about me...

I broke up with my last partner many years ago ( I was not a christian back then, and he had an affair) and we have two wonderful grown children in the military doing well in themselves.
I have not met anyone I like enough to marry or keep as a life partner since then... everyone seems to be taken, or I am just not feeling the love.
All I have ever wanted was to fall in love and get married which has never happened and it feels like a military operation

I work with many men, but most are all younger than me,( I work with the military too in a large military complex. I have only been there 4 month) I have been to churches and either they are married or there are more women than men. My current church is full of women LOL. I have tried dating sites and they all seem like a conveyer belt... Just swipe left ...
They seem to all be looking for hook ups. And the dating site I used, tried to charge me after I left and avoided my cancellation plee for ages, charging me even after dumping the service.


There is currently a man right now on my radar at work, I will call Derek. (not his real name)

Derek is someone at work who is a civilian trainer, who I cheekily asked for some of his home made wine after finding out he brews it himself. It tasted alright but it nearly gave me lockjaw but I wont tell him that. I have not noticed a ring on his finger yet, so next time I see him I hope to ask more about him if he has no ring or no girlfriend. I don't know when I will see Derek again, he only pops in now and then..in the meantime here's to all you single lonely people out there....



I will not give up, because, ....

Romans 5:3-5 NIV. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.


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More to come...

If you NEED a man God will provide according to his promise:

Philippians 4:19
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

But perhaps you just want a man which is a bit different. Just trust God.

 

[LittleTuneAlright]

I realise we don't die if we don't find a loving partner, at least not physically. But it does make life very unfulfilling for sure. I cant help but wonder why He would leave some people on the shelf...He never left Adam without a partner, so why should he leave others who crave that special someone? ?
I guess I am dreaming when I say this...but wouldnt it be nice if He told us there was someone for everyone, and all we then have to do is go out in faith and find.....but reality says that is not always true... and that there is no garauntee...we might feel hopeful someone is out there....and thats enough to keep us going...

Some of the bible characters were lonesome and single, Paul only because he had other missions to accomplish...and the prophets, because they had Gods Work to do...

but for everyone else, I would have thought He would have gave us a clue where to look...

Littletune- feeling tired after work and keeping a hopeful outlook that someday my prince will come

 

[soberxp]

You can pray and even press Jesus Christ to create a spiritual "Adam" for you, but the opportunity to meet is not on earth, you need to wait until you enter heaven.

 

[Debp]

You can pray and even press Jesus Christ to create a spiritual "Adam" for you, but the opportunity to meet is not on earth, you need to wait until you enter heaven.

That is not Scriptural. Jesus said in Luke 20:34-35
34 Jesus answered and said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage

 

[soberxp]

That is not Scriptural. Jesus said in Luke 20:34-35
34 Jesus answered and said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage

Of course you don't marry or given in marriage in heaven, but you can have a partner.

 

[Debp]

Of course you don't marry or given in marriage in heaven, but you can have a partner.

Please give a Scripture to back up your belief. Thanks.

 

[soberxp]

Please give a Scripture to back up your belief. Thanks.

1 Timothy
4:3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.

4:4 For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving:

4:5 For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

Ecclesiastes
4:8 There is one alone, and there is not a second; yea, he hath neither child nor brother: yet is there no end of all his labour; neither is his eye satisfied with riches; neither saith he, For whom do I labour, and bereave my soul of good? This is also vanity, yea, it is a sore travail.

4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

4:10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.


Genesis 2:18
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

 

[Ritajanice]

I realise we don't die if we don't find a loving partner, at least not physically. But it does make life very unfulfilling for sure. I cant help but wonder why He would leave some people on the shelf...He never left Adam without a partner, so why should he leave others who crave that special someone? ?
I guess I am dreaming when I say this...but wouldnt it be nice if He told us there was someone for everyone, and all we then have to do is go out in faith and find.....but reality says that is not always true... and that there is no garauntee...we might feel hopeful someone is out there....and thats enough to keep us going...

Some of the bible characters were lonesome and single, Paul only because he had other missions to accomplish...and the prophets, because they had Gods Work to do...

but for everyone else, I would have thought He would have gave us a clue where to look...

Littletune- feeling tired after work and keeping a hopeful outlook that someday my prince will come

Sis...if it’s any consolation, my hearts desire has always been to know “ true” love.....even before I became Born Again...I would always wonder what that would be like...to truly know love...

Well. my hearts desire was answered by God..even as a non believer he knew my heart and was drawing me to Jesus.....I became Born Of The Spirit.....received that “ Pure” divine ,” true Love” .....straight to my spirit, when Spirit gives birth to spirit......the Love Of God in my spirit , overwhelmed me , it blew my mind.....that Almighty God loved me, .....

Gods Love is certainly enough to sustain me for the rest of my earthly life....I was only in my 30s when I became Born Again.....

I do understand your wanting a husband though.....I would love a husband ...I’ve put that heart request in Gods hands....it would be an added bonus wouldn’t it.....to have a Godly husband, who would love and cherish us like God does.

I have these words for you...how do you know that God isn’t preparing you for a husband?......remember Gods thoughts and ways are much higher than ours......I got it wrong x 2 with husbands.....I ain’t getting it wrong a 3 rd time......I wait on God for a husband and we will know in our spirit, when or if the right one turns up......if it’s the will of God for our lives it will happen.....

I’ve been divorced 34 years roughly.....or maybe less, I can’t remember......I just know that I belong to God......and that he is in control of my life...

I pray that God brings you a husband, as it’s your heart desire.....before he will do that imo....he will prepare you for the husband that he has for you.....if that’s his will for your life.

 

[Debp]

1 Timothy
4:3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.

4:4 For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving:

4:5 For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

Ecclesiastes
4:8 There is one alone, and there is not a second; yea, he hath neither child nor brother: yet is there no end of all his labour; neither is his eye satisfied with riches; neither saith he, For whom do I labour, and bereave my soul of good? This is also vanity, yea, it is a sore travail.

4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

4:10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.


Genesis 2:18
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Your Scripture references are talking about life here on Earth. They are not about after we die.

 

[Ritajanice]

Of course you don't marry or given in marriage in heaven, but you can have a partner.

What do you mean a partner?

One thing I do know in my spirit......there should be no sex before marriage.....that making love is for The wedding bed.

There are 3 in a Born Again marriage....God, husband and wife......sex before marriage is unthinkable imo.....as it disrespects God....once we are married in the eyes of God......then the love making can begin as we then have Gods blessings..

These are my beliefs and I don’t force others to believe the same.....God has a moral law.....there is no sin in God....therefore a Born Again will not continue to sin because they have been Born Of God’s seed.

By the way....I had sex outside of marriage with both ex husbands..( I was not Born Again, when I had sex outside of marriage )..never again.....the consequences of going against God’s moral law...in my case were devastating......as a Born Again ..my spirit knows never to have sex outside of marriage....for imo...there will be consequences....

Which I know are true...as a friend of mine who is supposedly a Born Again..had sex with a married man..she then ended up pregnant....I don’t think I need say anymore....she told me that she suffered the consequences of that act....I won’t go into detail what they were...just this .......her son who she had by the married man, has severe mental health problems .....plus he has tried to commit suicide.on a number of occasions.

 

[Debp]

You can pray and even press Jesus Christ to create a spiritual "Adam" for you, but the opportunity to meet is not on earth, you need to wait until you enter heaven.

@Ritajanice ...see his or her above statement. I told him or her that the above is unscriptural and quoted Jesus to him or her.

 

[Ritajanice]

@Debp .....when we’re totally and utterly in Love with God...how can we ever truly be lonely....?

I used to be co- dependant on my husbands and even my family , as a Born Again.

God imo wants us to be totally dependent on him 100%...has taken many years to understand that.

At the moment all I want to do, is seek more and more of God’s heart out...I ain’t got time these days...dwelling on him bringing me a husband...LOL.

This isn’t undermining the OP starter post....she is where she is at, in her walk with God....she spoke from her heart honestly and I admire her for doing that...she made herself vulnerable.

 

[Rockerduck]

You need Christian friends. We all need friends. We help those in need and friends help. Develop close friendships with females, young and old. God will open your eyes through friendships.

 

[Ritajanice]

My friends are in the forum...I don’t have any friends...in this world...other than a couple of acquaintances.....not everyone has the same needs.....my need is to know more of the heart of God.....unfortunately some people in the world are led by their emotions...one day hot the next day cold...their friendship is “ conditional “...from my own experiences of friends.

When I go shopping, God usually brings me people to have a natter with.....that’s enough for me.

 

[soberxp]

Your Scripture references are talking about life here on Earth. They are not about after we die.

So what do you think should happen after we die ?

 

[soberxp]

What do you mean a partner?

One thing I do know in my spirit......there should be no sex before marriage.....that making love is for The wedding bed.

There are 3 in a Born Again marriage....God, husband and wife......sex before marriage is unthinkable imo.....as it disrespects God....once we are married in the eyes of God......then the love making can begin as we then have Gods blessings..

These are my beliefs and I don’t force others to believe the same.....God has a moral law.....there is no sin in God....therefore a Born Again will not continue to sin because they have been Born Of God’s seed.

By the way....I had sex outside of marriage with both ex husbands..( I was not Born Again, when I had sex outside of marriage )..never again.....the consequences of going against God’s moral law...in my case were devastating......as a Born Again ..my spirit knows never to have sex outside of marriage....for imo...there will be consequences....

Which I know are true...as a friend of mine who is supposedly a Born Again..had sex with a married man..she then ended up pregnant....I don’t think I need say anymore....she told me that she suffered the consequences of that act....I won’t go into detail what they were...just this .......her son who she had by the married man, has severe mental health problems .....plus he has tried to commit suicide.on a number of occasions.

So you really didn't read that conversation I wrote to you,

Some things like"hey hey you you,I can be your girlfriend, no way no way thinking in a new way."