im going to play russian roulette with the lord god. . God choose a girl for me swedish , asian , ukranian i believe in your choice God a holy girl
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Let’s get personal for a moment.
NO, I am not asking you to share things that I have no right to know, but am offering to share things that you have no business asking me (but I choose to share in case it might benefit you).
I made it to almost 40 years old with almost no dating experience. I went out about once per decade mostly because EVERYBODY dated and it seemed like I should probably be doing so as well. Frankly, the whole process is the opposite of “fun”. By my mid twenties, I had simply come to accept that I was content to be single … in an earlier century I would have been called a “Confirmed Bachelor” and joined a Men’s Social Club to enjoy brandy and a cigar (but I was born to neither drink, smoke or date).
One day, a mentor asked me what it would take for me to get married. That was an interesting question. I had never really given it any proper thought. When you are young, dating is all about HORMONES. After age 30, with some growth as a Christian under my belt, I at least understood the correct questions to ask … and I had never bothered to ask them.
So what is the BIBLICAL definition of a HUSBAND? What does God expect from you for that role?
[Once you understand the JOB DESCRIPTION] … Can you do that?
[IF YOU CAN DO THE JOB] … then ‘dating’ becomes a matter of finding the answer to just ONE simple question as swiftly as possible … Is SHE the one?
It took a year to answer all of those questions except the last. Once I knew what it meant to be a Husband, Once I had purposed in my heart that I could do that job (with God’s grace) … then I began to look for someone from God. Our first “date” was her and I and her mother and their 4 foster children under 2 years old at Bob Evans after church service. We talked as I took turns shoveling spoonfuls of baby food into small mouths.
It was at the end of our second date that I knew … YES, she was the one. She probably thought me crazy, but I told her at the end of that date that we were going to get married. We would date for 6 months, then we would be engaged for 6 months and then we would be married 6 months after that. We were … 20 years ago last week.
So start with understanding the JOB DESCRIPTION before you hurry to apply for the job.
Life is hard, you will want a good partner by your side (or no partner but God).
NO, I am not asking you to share things that I have no right to know, but am offering to share things that you have no business asking me (but I choose to share in case it might benefit you).
I made it to almost 40 years old with almost no dating experience. I went out about once per decade mostly because EVERYBODY dated and it seemed like I should probably be doing so as well. Frankly, the whole process is the opposite of “fun”. By my mid twenties, I had simply come to accept that I was content to be single … in an earlier century I would have been called a “Confirmed Bachelor” and joined a Men’s Social Club to enjoy brandy and a cigar (but I was born to neither drink, smoke or date).
One day, a mentor asked me what it would take for me to get married. That was an interesting question. I had never really given it any proper thought. When you are young, dating is all about HORMONES. After age 30, with some growth as a Christian under my belt, I at least understood the correct questions to ask … and I had never bothered to ask them.
So what is the BIBLICAL definition of a HUSBAND? What does God expect from you for that role?
[Once you understand the JOB DESCRIPTION] … Can you do that?
[IF YOU CAN DO THE JOB] … then ‘dating’ becomes a matter of finding the answer to just ONE simple question as swiftly as possible … Is SHE the one?
It took a year to answer all of those questions except the last. Once I knew what it meant to be a Husband, Once I had purposed in my heart that I could do that job (with God’s grace) … then I began to look for someone from God. Our first “date” was her and I and her mother and their 4 foster children under 2 years old at Bob Evans after church service. We talked as I took turns shoveling spoonfuls of baby food into small mouths.
It was at the end of our second date that I knew … YES, she was the one. She probably thought me crazy, but I told her at the end of that date that we were going to get married. We would date for 6 months, then we would be engaged for 6 months and then we would be married 6 months after that. We were … 20 years ago last week.
So start with understanding the JOB DESCRIPTION before you hurry to apply for the job.
- “Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the Church” … think about exactly what that means and how high that bar is set.
- Proverbs 31 woman … are you prepared to do what it takes to lift her up to obtain that stature?
- A Godly man with daughters asks their suitors: “What is your plan to present her before God without blemish?”
- Read HOSEA … He NEVER stopped loving her and NEVER gave up on the hope of restoring her … A HUSBAND enters the race to finish well, to never quit and to fight for HER victory … no matter how much pain that requires YOU to endure. This is the JOB DESCRIPTION you are signing up for. Remember: “As Christ loved the Church”.
- Get a concordance and look up every verse where the following words appear: “husband”, “wife”, “marriage” … and read the entire chapter containing that verse (plus the whole BOOK of HOSEA). Take notes and pray for God to grant WISDOM.
Life is hard, you will want a good partner by your side (or no partner but God).
I chose my first wife and wasn't picky about it. Just wanted someone to share my life with. Boy did I mess up. Won't do that again.
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