How do you handle people who disagree with you?

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There will always be people that differ. Sometimes those differences can be from church doctrine, or even church traditions, or the traditions grandpa or grandma, or mom and dad instilled upon their children. While differences exist, it's important to allow people to be. Yahavah, does this. Yahavah allows people to choose and make their decision every single day, with the breathe of life within their lungs. Will a person serve and look faithfully to him, or not faithfully look towards him. There are many people whom are passionate, but there are many people who will literally hate you and you never even know it, there will be people that just want to harass. On websites like this, while I love it being an open forum, and thankful that the Admins have allowed me the extension of being here as long as I have for the past 4 years, with many topics, made and topics posted. You have to be careful not to fall into the temptations of the flesh to desire to get even with people because I believe there may be the issue of people do not know how to communicate, and therefore they may respond the way they do. There was time in my life while I was on drugs, (which was in the last four years which I am currently on 3 months of soberity) I came on here and was not acting rightly. It's hard to deal with some people, and the way they talk to you, and disregard many of the things you may have presented. Some people just want to be right about a certain topic and dominate, I am no stranger to my flesh desiring to dominate, but what about the Spirit? While some say it's wrong it wrong to ignore people on here, (it's an option). How do you handle people with differences, when people respond a certain way, it makes me not want to engage with them, unless they are doing so in a proper manner and engaging the conversation and not looking to be right in any certain way. How do you handle them? For myself I just simply use the ignore button. Because we are on a forum, which has the word "Christian" in it, but that doesn't mean everyone is going to act Christ like, and that can make a conversation very difficult in my opinion. I just wanted to see how other people handle it.

I remember sometimes it good to just remain silent. Sometimes there is a movement to speak. In the end, it's where the individual heart will be at the end of life, did one have faith and did they love. As long as it is possible on your part live in peace with everyone, but sometimes its hard to have peace when you are engaging with a person whom, miscommunicates, or just disregards the things you say. All the best thank you for the responses ahead of time.

P/s in the end: It's individuals who choose what they believe, it's not a group collective, though group collectives exist that doesn't make everything they say the right thing, and that is why I encourage people, never trust me, or anything that I post on this website. Go and read the bible for yourself, even study it, but most people do not like that, and that is why so many bibles gather and collect dust on the shelves.
 
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There will always be people that differ. Sometimes those differences can be from church doctrine, or even church traditions, or the traditions grandpa or grandma, or mom and dad instilled upon their children. While differences exist, it's important to allow people to be. Yahavah, does this. Yahavah allows people to choose and make their decision every single day, with the breathe of life within their lungs. Will a person serve and look faithfully to him, or not faithfully look towards him. There are many people whom are passionate, but there are many people who will literally hate you and you never even know it, there will be people that just want to harass. On websites like this, while I love it being an open forum, and thankful that the Admins have allowed me the extension of being here as long as I have for the past 4 years, with many topics, made and topics posted. You have to be careful not to fall into the temptations of the flesh to desire to get even with people because I believe there may be the issue of people do not know how to communicate, and therefore they may respond the way they do. There was time in my life while I was on drugs, (which was in the last four years which I am currently on 3 months of soberity) I came on here and was not acting rightly. It's hard to deal with some people, and the way they talk to you, and disregard many of the things you may have presented. Some people just want to be right about a certain topic and dominate, I am no stranger to my flesh desiring to dominate, but what about the Spirit? While some say it's wrong it wrong to ignore people on here, (it's an option). How do you handle people with differences, when people respond a certain way, it makes me not want to engage with them, unless they are doing so in a proper manner and engaging the conversation and not looking to be right in any certain way. How do you handle them? For myself I just simply use the ignore button. Because we are on a forum, which has the word "Christian" in it, but that doesn't mean everyone is going to act Christ like, and that can make a conversation very difficult in my opinion. I just wanted to see how other people handle it.

I remember sometimes it good to just remain silent. Sometimes there is a movement to speak. In the end, it's where the individual heart will be at the end of life, did one have faith and did they love. As long as it is possible on your part live in peace with everyone, but sometimes its hard to have peace when you are engaging with a person whom, miscommunicates, or just disregards the things you say. All the best thank you for the responses ahead of time.

P/s in the end: It's individuals who choose what they believe, it's not a group collective, though group collectives exist that doesn't make everything they say the right thing, and that is why I encourage people, never trust me, or anything that I post on this website. Go and read the bible for yourself, even study it, but most people do not like that, and that is why so many bibles gather and collect dust on the shelves.



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Differences are natural, and I handle them by staying patient or using the ignore option if needed. It’s best to focus on faith, love, and studying the Bible personally.
 
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People talk now with a fundamentalist type attitude on everything they don't care what others think or want its their way or the highway only they have the right path - you can see this trend happening in the world intolerance is at its highest level.Its in politics its everywhere.

Jesus did say in these times
They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”
 
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I will try to reason with folks that I disagree with until they resort to gaslighting and/or slander and then it's time for me to shake the dust off my shoes and move on.
 
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Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves. (Matthew 10:16)

"As serpents." This means that you have to speak with a forked tongue, ambiguously, so that everyone can understand in their own way. And also, this means that having bitten a wolf, you have to be able to quickly slips away. And also, "as serpents" means to be deaf to what people tell you.

At the same time, you have to be as simple as a felt boot dove. Nothing personal, it's just business.
 
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There will always be people that differ. Sometimes those differences can be from church doctrine, or even church traditions, or the traditions grandpa or grandma, or mom and dad instilled upon their children. While differences exist, it's important to allow people to be. Yahavah, does this. Yahavah allows people to choose and make their decision every single day, with the breathe of life within their lungs. Will a person serve and look faithfully to him, or not faithfully look towards him. There are many people whom are passionate, but there are many people who will literally hate you and you never even know it, there will be people that just want to harass. On websites like this, while I love it being an open forum, and thankful that the Admins have allowed me the extension of being here as long as I have for the past 4 years, with many topics, made and topics posted. You have to be careful not to fall into the temptations of the flesh to desire to get even with people because I believe there may be the issue of people do not know how to communicate, and therefore they may respond the way they do. There was time in my life while I was on drugs, (which was in the last four years which I am currently on 3 months of soberity) I came on here and was not acting rightly. It's hard to deal with some people, and the way they talk to you, and disregard many of the things you may have presented. Some people just want to be right about a certain topic and dominate, I am no stranger to my flesh desiring to dominate, but what about the Spirit? While some say it's wrong it wrong to ignore people on here, (it's an option). How do you handle people with differences, when people respond a certain way, it makes me not want to engage with them, unless they are doing so in a proper manner and engaging the conversation and not looking to be right in any certain way. How do you handle them? For myself I just simply use the ignore button. Because we are on a forum, which has the word "Christian" in it, but that doesn't mean everyone is going to act Christ like, and that can make a conversation very difficult in my opinion. I just wanted to see how other people handle it.

I remember sometimes it good to just remain silent. Sometimes there is a movement to speak. In the end, it's where the individual heart will be at the end of life, did one have faith and did they love. As long as it is possible on your part live in peace with everyone, but sometimes its hard to have peace when you are engaging with a person whom, miscommunicates, or just disregards the things you say. All the best thank you for the responses ahead of time.

P/s in the end: It's individuals who choose what they believe, it's not a group collective, though group collectives exist that doesn't make everything they say the right thing, and that is why I encourage people, never trust me, or anything that I post on this website. Go and read the bible for yourself, even study it, but most people do not like that, and that is why so many bibles gather and collect dust on the shelves.
I don't care.

I might ask questions, because there is not really much in the world that someone doesn't already know, and if I don't know then someone else might.

When I listen to someone I kind of listen to the person who makes the most practical sense.

There is a family member who is angry with me because I won't listen to their doom stories of the future and blah-blah-blah.

Do I think something is coming? Yes, but I also think there's a lot of rubbish in the prophecy world from a lot of false prophets and I don't care about what they say, so they're offended.

Let them be offended. If I've said my peace then it's over. All I have to do now is focus on what makes the most logical sense.

And I'm specifically talking about these "watchmen" who are trying to save the world by scaring them from conspiracy events and dreams, and not showing the sane love of Christ, we all know and appreciate.
 
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First recognize the spirit of variance as something of the flesh...

Strongs - ἔχθρα échthra, ekh'-thrah; feminine of G2190; hostility; by implication, a reason for opposition:—enmity, hatred.

19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. - Galatians 5

I have dealt with several denomination hens at my workplace. They feel their complicated mindset is correct and everyone else in the Christian world are heretics. It really is quite annoying. I will raise my finger before them and say... "Spirit of Variance! Spirit of Variance!" And it kills them. I have had guys point their finger back at me and say real sissy like... Spirit of Variance! Spirit of Variance! As it really annoys them!
 
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There will always be people that differ. Sometimes those differences can be from church doctrine, or even church traditions, or the traditions grandpa or grandma, or mom and dad instilled upon their children. While differences exist, it's important to allow people to be. Yahavah, does this. Yahavah allows people to choose and make their decision every single day, with the breathe of life within their lungs. Will a person serve and look faithfully to him, or not faithfully look towards him. There are many people whom are passionate, but there are many people who will literally hate you and you never even know it, there will be people that just want to harass. On websites like this, while I love it being an open forum, and thankful that the Admins have allowed me the extension of being here as long as I have for the past 4 years, with many topics, made and topics posted. You have to be careful not to fall into the temptations of the flesh to desire to get even with people because I believe there may be the issue of people do not know how to communicate, and therefore they may respond the way they do. There was time in my life while I was on drugs, (which was in the last four years which I am currently on 3 months of soberity) I came on here and was not acting rightly. It's hard to deal with some people, and the way they talk to you, and disregard many of the things you may have presented. Some people just want to be right about a certain topic and dominate, I am no stranger to my flesh desiring to dominate, but what about the Spirit? While some say it's wrong it wrong to ignore people on here, (it's an option). How do you handle people with differences, when people respond a certain way, it makes me not want to engage with them, unless they are doing so in a proper manner and engaging the conversation and not looking to be right in any certain way. How do you handle them? For myself I just simply use the ignore button. Because we are on a forum, which has the word "Christian" in it, but that doesn't mean everyone is going to act Christ like, and that can make a conversation very difficult in my opinion. I just wanted to see how other people handle it.

I remember sometimes it good to just remain silent. Sometimes there is a movement to speak. In the end, it's where the individual heart will be at the end of life, did one have faith and did they love. As long as it is possible on your part live in peace with everyone, but sometimes its hard to have peace when you are engaging with a person whom, miscommunicates, or just disregards the things you say. All the best thank you for the responses ahead of time.

P/s in the end: It's individuals who choose what they believe, it's not a group collective, though group collectives exist that doesn't make everything they say the right thing, and that is why I encourage people, never trust me, or anything that I post on this website. Go and read the bible for yourself, even study it, but most people do not like that, and that is why so many bibles gather and collect dust on the shelves.
Study the Jesus method
 
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I remember having this same conflicting torment in my heart and when I prayed and asked God how to "handle" others who argue and strive against my beliefs. He said just LOVE them, share my WORD for it is powerful and will accomplish what I sent it to do, it will not return to me void. He said remember....some plant, some water, but it is I, the Lord God who gives the increase.
So everytime you share the WORD, you may have been the planter, or the waterer, but God is the one who brings that WORD to life.
Just LOVE them, refrain from arguing, it only harms your witness as a Christian.

Amen!