Apology for disappearing for awhile

[bluedragon]

Wednesday morning, i awakened to a shock. My wife had passed away during the night. Paramedics got her heart started again, however, they lost her on the two mile trip to the hospital. She had been battling illnesses for months . We seemed to spend more time in the hospital, than we did at home. At the emergency room, the Doctor came in to give the bad news. They asked if I wanted to see her before I left. I told them I had to. They cleaned her up. While waiting, I paced the hallway. One of my traits is that I can’t sit, I pace. The Coroner called and spoke with me, while I was pacing…..he called back and explained because of her medical history there would be no autopsy. I didn’t want her cut up. Next call from the organization that handled organ donorship. They can’t take anything, she had Lyme disease.

We went to see her. I kissed her and told her “Now you fly with angels.” As I turned to leave, the nurse suggested we remove the crucifix necklace before it disappears. We gently lifted her head and remove the necklace. I kissed her again and told the empty shell goodbye. I have decided to wear that crucifix myself. I refuse to remove my ring.

Because she was so sick, we had stopped going to church.
I went to a nearby church and for the first time…..
Cried when the Pastor prayed over me. For the first time in my life, I’ll be going to a Baptist Church…..I enjoyed the young Pastor and his message.

Afterwards….the Homeowners President sat me down and explained my confusion and sorrow. “Right now, today…you are lost. For months you did everything for her. You made
all her meals, changed her, cleaned….in the rehab facilities, you slept on the floor because she asked you to stay. Today….you are lost….you enter an empty house. You leave the same.”

“ This will pass….and you will remember the times of love and joy again.Take the time to grieve…….”

 

[Rita]

I am so sorry xxxxxxx
Much Love as you walk this new path

 

[Debp]

Wednesday morning, i awakened to a shock. My wife had passed away during the night. Paramedics got her heart started again, however, they lost her on the two mile trip to the hospital. She had been battling illnesses for months . We seemed to spend more time in the hospital, than we did at home. At the emergency room, the Doctor came in to give the bad news. They asked if I wanted to see her before I left. I told them I had to. They cleaned her up. While waiting, I paced the hallway. One of my traits is that I can’t sit, I pace. The Coroner called and spoke with me, while I was pacing…..he called back and explained because of her medical history there would be no autopsy. I didn’t want her cut up. Next call from the organization that handled organ donorship. They can’t take anything, she had Lyme disease.

We went to see her. I kissed her and told her “Now you fly with angels.” As I turned to leave, the nurse suggested we remove the crucifix necklace before it disappears. We gently lifted her head and remove the necklace. I kissed her again and told the empty shell goodbye. I have decided to wear that crucifix myself. I refuse to remove my ring.

Because she was so sick, we had stopped going to church.
I went to a nearby church and for the first time…..
Cried when the Pastor prayed over me. For the first time in my life, I’ll be going to a Baptist Church…..I enjoyed the young Pastor and his message.

Afterwards….the Homeowners President sat me down and explained my confusion and sorrow. “Right now, today…you are lost. For months you did everything for her. You made
all her meals, changed her, cleaned….in the rehab facilities, you slept on the floor because she asked you to stay. Today….you are lost….you enter an empty house. You leave the same.”

“ This will pass….and you will remember the times of love and joy again.Take the time to grieve…….”

My sincere condolences to you. God give you peace and comfort.

My 94 year old mom passed away on June 21.

 

[amadeus]

Wednesday morning, i awakened to a shock. My wife had passed away during the night. Paramedics got her heart started again, however, they lost her on the two mile trip to the hospital. She had been battling illnesses for months . We seemed to spend more time in the hospital, than we did at home. At the emergency room, the Doctor came in to give the bad news. They asked if I wanted to see her before I left. I told them I had to. They cleaned her up. While waiting, I paced the hallway. One of my traits is that I can’t sit, I pace. The Coroner called and spoke with me, while I was pacing…..he called back and explained because of her medical history there would be no autopsy. I didn’t want her cut up. Next call from the organization that handled organ donorship. They can’t take anything, she had Lyme disease.

We went to see her. I kissed her and told her “Now you fly with angels.” As I turned to leave, the nurse suggested we remove the crucifix necklace before it disappears. We gently lifted her head and remove the necklace. I kissed her again and told the empty shell goodbye. I have decided to wear that crucifix myself. I refuse to remove my ring.

Because she was so sick, we had stopped going to church.
I went to a nearby church and for the first time…..
Cried when the Pastor prayed over me. For the first time in my life, I’ll be going to a Baptist Church…..I enjoyed the young Pastor and his message.

Afterwards….the Homeowners President sat me down and explained my confusion and sorrow. “Right now, today…you are lost. For months you did everything for her. You made
all her meals, changed her, cleaned….in the rehab facilities, you slept on the floor because she asked you to stay. Today….you are lost….you enter an empty house. You leave the same.”

“ This will pass….and you will remember the times of love and joy again.Take the time to grieve…….”

Keeping you in prayer,

 

[marks]

Wednesday morning, i awakened to a shock. My wife had passed away during the night.

I'm so sad for you!! I cannot imagine! I'm glad she is with Jesus, I pray He is very close to you in this time!

Much love!

 

[Rockerduck]

It pray your grief will be short realizing the place she is, is a lot better now.
It won't be long until we join our loved ones who have passed before us. Jesus has promised us a place and Jesus will come back to get us. The hope is there for us Christians forever, and forever we will be together., one day soon. Marantha!

 

[Pearl]

I am so sorry to hear your sad news @bluedragon. I hope you will find the love and support you need as you adapt to your loss.

I think as a Christian I look on death as our last adventure in this world. It is inevitable but even though we know that, we grieve for our lost loved ones. My husband and I are old now and he is very frail, but for years I have prayed about when that time comes for one of us to be left alone. I have trusted God with my life and trust him with my passing.

 

[Wrangler]

@bluedragon,

In reading your story, I'm sure it reminds us all of loved ones we lost. It also reminds us that loss, in addition to cherishing our childnren's future, breathing the same air and ocuppying this small planet is something we have in common.

To all those we loved and lost.

Love,

W

 

[BlessedPeace]

Hugs
My heart breaks for you and your loss.

Take all the time away that you need brother.

You go home and everything you shared together is still there. Decorations,her favorite chair. It looks like even the home is waiting for them to come home.

Yet,they are home.
Just not with us.

When it is time to make room for yourself and stow away her things she no longer needs you will know it.
Until then it is like living beneath a veil of the grave. Living with their stuff they left behind.

She cherished and loved you more than words,especially of strangers here,could ever know.
However, you do .

What you shared with her was on a deeper level than the material world.

She is always with you.
And God only knows when is your time to see her again.

In the meantime,don't retreat for overlong. Live! And take her with you to wonderful new adventures you know she'd love. Love transcends death.

Hugs