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Divorce how? You aren't married to her so you wouldn't have to get a divorce, just break up.
And can you give us more details? Why does it have to be a secret? Why would you have to wait three years if it gets out? etc.
And can you give us more details? Why does it have to be a secret? Why would you have to wait three years if it gets out? etc.
Surely the fact that you want ‘ your women ‘ to keep secrets and be deceptive is not the best way to start off married life. You are finding it hard to ‘ forgive ‘ her , despite the fact that she actually admitted to you that she had relayed some info to someone else- she messed up, but was open about it.
Yet you are already talking about divorce……..
Its not easy keeping secrets, especially if she is the one will have that on her shoulders more than you - given that it’s the country she is in which dictates that she cannot be an au pair and married.
Why can you not wait until you can both embrace the marriage and do it without being secretive.
Yet you are already talking about divorce……..
Its not easy keeping secrets, especially if she is the one will have that on her shoulders more than you - given that it’s the country she is in which dictates that she cannot be an au pair and married.
Why can you not wait until you can both embrace the marriage and do it without being secretive.
How has she abandoned you if you are in agreement with her working as an au pair in another country ?
Lambano
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Are you sure you two are ready for marriage?
If your first concern is about yourself and being "disrespected", that's a red flag.
If your first concern is about yourself and being "disrespected", that's a red flag.
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But you're NOT in the Schengen area, right? Your profile shows you're in Ireland, and Ireland isn't Shengen. So, why can't she move to where you are?
What bible scripture says you're already married? Does either YOURS or HER laws recognize your 'marriage' if you haven't gotten married through church or state?
Thanks Rita. I understand that, but I think more information is needed from the OP before being able to give him any helpful advice.
Rockerduck
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A married women cannot legally work as an au pair.
This you know, yet want your intended bride to lie to her employers about her marital status or to illegally leave her employment.
Wait for her contract to end, help her find work and accommodation in the same town you are in and proceed from there.
im very disappointed by these replies, i dont think there has been any tangible response addressing any of what im asking about
even going as far as claiming the government (a satanic entity) as holding any significance in a christian talk, and no one questioning this mindset- is alarming to say the least.
i came here to seek christian advice, not legal advice; i have LAWYERS who are professional in this and know what theyre talking about.
im quitting this forum as result of this.
even going as far as claiming the government (a satanic entity) as holding any significance in a christian talk, and no one questioning this mindset- is alarming to say the least.
i came here to seek christian advice, not legal advice; i have LAWYERS who are professional in this and know what theyre talking about.
im quitting this forum as result of this.
This sounds really complicated due to countries and legalities. I don't honestly think you are going to get any real help in this forum. I think you have already investigated the issue your self. The fact that she is entertaining a bisexual person goes against the bible and is seen as an infidel. The bisexual problem is also anti-Christian.
My advice from the Christian stand point is to be careful regarding country laws and protect yourself. You must seek the Lord God which is the Father, Son and Holy Ghost on the matter of whether to continue the relationship. You might be becoming afflicted by her entertaining a anti-Christian bisexual. I would keep and eye on how that affects your soul by her actions and consider that in your prayers to the Lord.
If you need a physical divorce from the temple of God, male and female, then I will instruct you to ask Jesus the Christ in prayer to divorce you from her. There is a bond God creates between the temples of male and female which only Jesus can undo.
Wishing you well on your endeavor.
well then, that was exactly the kind of response i was hoping for, i will be contacting you and sadly having to find another forum after our talk
im exactly very worried that she puts me not just equal, but below a man that is no doubt repentless- but even puts him above me in such a very significant issue that could rip up our marriage even by accident from his side (i believe he has to inform the embassy when he is changing aupair) and that phone call is direct to her phone, and that flight is direct, same day - out of europe, if she neglects this call she will be battling armed police officers
Could also be insecurity. But maybe a red flag. Depending on her interaction with the anti-Christian bisexual. Some of them fight against God and Christianity anyways.
Well from his last post, looks like the forum did a pretty good job of offending him. I will try to not add anymore offense to the posts, but looks like he ended his affiliation with the forum already.
Tried to chime in on the issue but I guess I was too late
absolutely, either you work for god, or against those who do, and thats why its absolutely imperative she does not give ANY kind of ammunition to someone surely working directly for the devil. there is a lot of paranormal activity at the castle which he owns which further proves his involvement with the evil world
im very sure he will either by will sabotage my relationship, (as him and his family have tried to do a number of times) or by accident
Yes, you could keep and eye on her and carefully and wisely attempt to direct her away from that influence.
Matthew 10:16 “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.
I was married for 3 months before my wife dumped a lot of similar news about her life on me. What I did was sought God on the issues in fasting and prayer. I took her to church and eventually it worked out of the marriage which were the problems. I think you'll find that Church and God can help people become healed from dark areas in their beliefs and hopefully they eventually see that God's blessings of love, peace, joy and good works outweigh any selfish lifestyle or false god beliefs.
Also @Zeth4500 as you probably are aware, the warmth of heart and love from God and goodness of his Holy Spirit and such I think convert a person away from worldly things and also false spiritual influence. And I know that did much to correct me in my early life and also have heard others testify to that as well.
yes, but the person in question has to be willing for a start, and those who are harboring evil spirits will struggle massively to take the first step
even with exorcism the person in question has to be fully willing to repent
I will certainly pray that she becomes willing to participate in a Christian church. Sometimes it takes a experienced Christian together with the Holy Spirit to draw a person into the Lords church. I wish you the best of outcomes. It may take some time before she allows that into her life.
Well I don't call people possessed as that probably will offend them. I am of the nature to ignore that unless it is self harm or harm of others. There are a few examples of possessed people in the new testament. In one example the possessing spirit attempt to harm that person in a self afflicted way. In the other example they are fierce and cannot be approached without being harmed by them.
I am wondering if simply waiting for them to be baptized, confirmed with the Holy Spirit and given the bread and wine of the new covenant would alleviate your concerns regarding dark influences of the spiritual nature. Influences aren't always possessing the person to cause strange behaviors. They can do that thru temptation and direction of the person.
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