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Forewarning
Ladies should be careful if they respond to this in two ways. We don't want to cause men to lust unnecessarily by accident. And we don't want to not be guarded about sensitive information online because not everyone reads with pure intentions.
Step One: Heal Father Wounds
What was/is your relationship with you Dad like? If you struggle as I did with craving lustful attention from males, it could be because you didn't recieve enough positive attention from your own father. "Daddy issues" may be an insult, but there's some truth to it.
After you've considered this, realize your not alone if it gives you pain. Process it however you want but I then want you to ask God, your heavenly Father, for help and forgive your earthly Father from the heart.
A good start would be praying for him if he's still alive. Every bad thought against him from this point, I want you to cast that down and think of Jesus' forgiveness instead. This may be an ongoing process. As many times in a day as your tempted to feel resentment, cast it down, pray for him instead, rinse and repeat until you stop thinking evil of his sins against you in your heart.
Step Two: Continue in the Word
Lust can destroy you in many ways and porn addiction is difficult to get rid of for women too. You are going to be in that Bible, and I mean in that Bible, hearing it out loud because faith comes by hearing---until you know the truth and it sets you free from being a slave to sin.
Don't wait fill you feel like it. The more you need the Word, the less you'll feel like reading it. Focus on the New Testament. I was able to kick porn addiction by hearing 1 John, 1 Peter, and James out loud a few times.
Step Three: Guard Your Heart
Paul wrote the Corinthians and said among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality. Not a hint. We don't fight lust, we flee it.
Single, seeking marriage? You are conducting yourself and your dress choices as if you are someone's wife already. Okay? No girlfriend energy, even to the men you date. Serious suitors only. You're not a toy or a car to be test driven. Be honest about wanting marriage when dating. Sexuality shouldn't be used to hook the man in. He should see your character and beauty and be attracted to that without you compromising your morals.
Married? You are not "advertising". Not in dress. Not in photos online. Not in messaging. No "hints" to other men. You fully invest in your husband and give zero suggestions that you would pick someone else. You are good. You are solid. If not, you present that to the world anyway.
If you struggle with lust, avoid long one on one conversations with men. Flee temptation. No close best guy friends either. So many affairs start that way. If men were indifferent to us and we to them, the human race would be in trouble. Err on the side of being overly guarded.
Once you do this, realizing that your Father in heaven wants to be everything your earthly parents may have failed in, it becomes easy. If you've messed up and are devastated, get that under the blood of Jesus by confessing and forsaking that sin.
Your reputation, relationships, and heart will recover with time but seek God's Kingdom first in the meantime. You can overcome this and you don't have to struggle the same way your whole life. The enemy will flee if you resist him. He is nothing but God's lackey.
Ladies should be careful if they respond to this in two ways. We don't want to cause men to lust unnecessarily by accident. And we don't want to not be guarded about sensitive information online because not everyone reads with pure intentions.
Step One: Heal Father Wounds
What was/is your relationship with you Dad like? If you struggle as I did with craving lustful attention from males, it could be because you didn't recieve enough positive attention from your own father. "Daddy issues" may be an insult, but there's some truth to it.
After you've considered this, realize your not alone if it gives you pain. Process it however you want but I then want you to ask God, your heavenly Father, for help and forgive your earthly Father from the heart.
A good start would be praying for him if he's still alive. Every bad thought against him from this point, I want you to cast that down and think of Jesus' forgiveness instead. This may be an ongoing process. As many times in a day as your tempted to feel resentment, cast it down, pray for him instead, rinse and repeat until you stop thinking evil of his sins against you in your heart.
Step Two: Continue in the Word
Lust can destroy you in many ways and porn addiction is difficult to get rid of for women too. You are going to be in that Bible, and I mean in that Bible, hearing it out loud because faith comes by hearing---until you know the truth and it sets you free from being a slave to sin.
Don't wait fill you feel like it. The more you need the Word, the less you'll feel like reading it. Focus on the New Testament. I was able to kick porn addiction by hearing 1 John, 1 Peter, and James out loud a few times.
Step Three: Guard Your Heart
Paul wrote the Corinthians and said among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality. Not a hint. We don't fight lust, we flee it.
Single, seeking marriage? You are conducting yourself and your dress choices as if you are someone's wife already. Okay? No girlfriend energy, even to the men you date. Serious suitors only. You're not a toy or a car to be test driven. Be honest about wanting marriage when dating. Sexuality shouldn't be used to hook the man in. He should see your character and beauty and be attracted to that without you compromising your morals.
Married? You are not "advertising". Not in dress. Not in photos online. Not in messaging. No "hints" to other men. You fully invest in your husband and give zero suggestions that you would pick someone else. You are good. You are solid. If not, you present that to the world anyway.
If you struggle with lust, avoid long one on one conversations with men. Flee temptation. No close best guy friends either. So many affairs start that way. If men were indifferent to us and we to them, the human race would be in trouble. Err on the side of being overly guarded.
Once you do this, realizing that your Father in heaven wants to be everything your earthly parents may have failed in, it becomes easy. If you've messed up and are devastated, get that under the blood of Jesus by confessing and forsaking that sin.
Your reputation, relationships, and heart will recover with time but seek God's Kingdom first in the meantime. You can overcome this and you don't have to struggle the same way your whole life. The enemy will flee if you resist him. He is nothing but God's lackey.
