What you did say is that trusting Jesus for your salvation without your own effort allows you to focus on righteousness and not staying clean to keep your salvation.
You and I agree that righteousness is the goal then. Sin and righteousness aren't the same thing. We need the promises and the warnings. The rod and the staff. Goodness and severity. We need both.
I'd sooner say my goal is holiness. With holiness comes righteousness. Holiness is to live only according to God's purpose. If I'm doing that my thoughts and feelings as well as actions will be righteous.
My real goal is Jesus Himself. Without holiness I'm not able to enjoy the intimacy with Jesus that I can with holiness. Holiness isn't something I seem to be able to get my fingers on for it's own sake. Holiness comes to me as I'm consciously drawing near to God.
Jude 1:21 KJV
Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
I'm looking for His mercy as He has promised me that He will show me mercy. Without mercy I am lost, and He has promised He will Never leave me, Never forsake me. I know that He's not only forgiven me, but He's made me a new creature, created patterned after Himself, in righteousness and true holiness (Ephesians 4).
One promise that is very dear to me is this one:
Hebrews 12:10-11 KJV
10) For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.
11) Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
He chastens us - trains as one would a child - so that we may be partakers of His holiness, and when He's done we will have the peaceable fruit of righteousness.
Paul acknowledges in 1 Corinthians 4 that he's not a fit judge of himself, and that Jesus will judge him when He comes. I don't always know what is right for me, and even knowing I don't always do it. God has promised that He's chasten me as needed, with good result. And I've experienced this in some major ways. I love Him so much more for it!
And yet much what gives us reassurance is. the same: we do more things that please God and sin less.
While I understand this, I disagree, because we can by the strength of our character make changes in our lives to do things better. I find my true assurance is that there is Someone I know. This Someone is a Spirit, I cannot see Him, touch Him. But He is with me, in me, I know Him like I know other people, though He is not at all like other people, or like me. I know He loves me as over the years He has worked much in me, in my life, that only someone who truly loves me would.
And this is what the Bible tells us.
1 John 3:24 KJV
And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby
we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
1 John 4:13 KJV
Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us,
because he hath given us of his Spirit.
Romans 8:15-16 KJV
15) For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
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The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:
Our true guarantee is that the Holy Spirit, Who is the seal of God's ownership of us, has been given to us. This seal of ownership . . . It's God's. We are not allowed to violate it, no one is. And we are sealed unto the day of redemption. That's God's intent for His seal, to secure us until that day.
1 John 3:18-23 KJV
18) My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.
19) And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him.
20) For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.
21) Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God.
22) And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
23) And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.
Failing to love others is failing to walk in holiness, because God's purpose for us is to love others. Loving others in truth gives us confidence, assures are hearts, we "feel" it. It's directly after this passage that John wrote our knowledge, not assurance, or confidence, but knowledge comes from the Holy Spirit.
And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
They said to rest in the finished work of the cross. That's not in Scripture. And it didn't help. It didn't assure me. But following all Scripture and abiding in Jesus did. The fear of the Lord helped me start bearing fruit. That gave me all the assurance I needed.
I'd sooner say our rest is to be reconciled to God in Christ, and I stand in that. I'm completely, fully, and forever reconciled to God. Jesus will never leave me nor forsake me, and I know that. He ever lives to make intercession for me, there is nothing that can take me away from Him.
I have a friend who once said, "I began to understand the fear of the Lord when I realized how much He can mess with my life." For me, the real fear isn't of rejection, but of falling short, of failing to fulfill my purpose, and failing to draw as close to God as I can.
I don't see Him now but I will, and I will stand before Him to be judged. And then I'll know what He has to say about me, with certainty! I don't pretend to know what He will say! I do know that there will be no pretense, just honesty. I know He is working His ways into me. The real question is, am I truly working into my life - my thoughts, feelings, and actions - all that He has worked into me? He knows how hard I am or am not trying.
I believe in making a great an effort as we are able. That effort should be to not come up short of all He desires from us. But to put that effort towards providing some additional salvation beside what Jesus Himself provides, I believe that gets us pointed in the wrong direction.
I feel there is more I could say but I've said so much already, God bless your heart!!
Much love!