I did. I could identify all too well with the conviction that I was condemned to an eternity of torment by an arbitrary decree issued before the foundation of the world. But my real issues were with trusting God, which was rooted in being threatened with hellfire as a 12-year-old child. Theology, and particularly the Calvinist understanding of Election, just gave me an intellectual reason for distrusting Him.
God came to me in a night of intense prayer and asked me why I didn't trust Him. And then he healed me. And He loved me. And I realized I could trust Him.
I've studied the Arminian - Calvinist debate, including reading writings by John MacArthur and John Piper. I found
to be particularly helpful because it laid out the Biblical arguments and counter-arguments for both sides. The author himself (a professor at a Free-Will Baptist seminary) then makes his case for Reformation-era Arminianism.
If you're looking to lift the fog using only Biblical proof-texts, I don't think you can do it. If it could be done, this issue would have been resolved sometime in the last 411 years. As you can probably tell from my sidebar discussion with
@stunnedbygrace yesterday, I lean towards the Arminian side and am very close to driving into her left-hand ditch. One of the reasons why is, as she pointed out, is because the Calvinist side tends to heavily downplay and condition the verses that talk about the love of God for the world He created, which to me is non-negotiable. I have other reasons that are based on my denomination's traditions, reason, and experience.
Having discovered that I cannot obtain certainty even from studying scripture, I fall back on the big three: Trust, Hope, and Love. (1 Corinthians 13:13). And the greatest of these is love.