You say NOTHING about us having any responsibility to cooperate with the Holy Spirit.
There is no "cooperation with the Holy Spirit" in God's work of salvation. We are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them., just as Paul says in Ephesians 2:9-10.
You think He just does what He does and we, like robots, do what He programs us to do.
No, but I do think along the same lines as Paul and what he says in Philippians 2:13, in his exhortation to us, that we are able to "work out (our) own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in (us), both to will and to work for his good pleasure." I mean, you can think of that as "robotics" or "puppetry" if you want, but it's not. And this is not me speaking; this is the Word of God.
I wonder why Paul warns us about not grieving and quenching the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 4:30, 1 Thess 5:19) ...
Because this is what sin does, and even as believers, we still sin.
if it is automatic that we obey Him? How do you explain that?
It's not "automatic;" that's ridiculous, but the answer is that we don't obey nearly perfectly, which is another way of saying we still sin. But, of course, as John says, if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive.
Salvation is not an either-or thing, as if it's entirely dependent on God or entirely dependent on man.
That's true, but it is first dependent on God. And If God chooses, and then at the appointed time gives the person new birth in the spirit by the Holy Spirit, then, yes, it is ~ in a sense, dependent on man to respond positively and obey, and will and work for His good pleasure, but he will, because he has a new spirit, even the Spirit, and walks in the Spirit. Again, not perfectly in this life, but for that man, the one who is a new creation in Christ, there is no more condemnation. So he walks in this newness of life and spirit, with God at work in him, as Paul says in Philippians 2:13, and as he has just said in Philippians 1:6, He Who began a good work in that man will ~ will, not "might or might not" ~ bring it to completion at the day of Christ.
I do NOT say it's entirely dependent on us. God does the work by sending His Son to die for our sins and having His word preached and speaking to our hearts by His Holy Spirit...
But that's what you're saying, essentially, even here, even in denying that you say it. God takes out our "heart of stone" and gives us a heart of flesh. He puts a new spirit in us, and thereby causes us to obey and walk according to His statutes. This is exactly what Ezekiel says in Ezekiel 11:19-20 and 36:26-27. This is not saying He "makes us" or "forces us to" obey and walk according to His statutes, but rather because of the new spirit that He has put in us, we then do it... as best we can in this life, because we are not yet glorified, but we surely well be. But yes, because of this new spirit we have been given, we are now of God, God is our Father, and we want to do His will, which is the change from how we were previous to being born again, when our father was the devil, and our desire was to do his will. I've said it before, but remember Jesus's conversations with two different groups of Jews in John 8 (
"...you do what you have heard from your father... You are doing the works your father did... Why do you not understand what I say? It is because you cannot bear to hear my word. You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires") and John 10 (
"you do not believe... you do not believe because you are not among my sheep").
, but we are responsible to choose how to respond to His offer of salvation that He offers to all people (Titus 2:11).
God's grace and granting of salvation, His giving us new birth in the Spirit, His placing us in Christ, demands responsibility and a continually positive response, to be sure. Fortunately, we have been granted the Spirit, so then, yes, again, we can.. and will... work out our own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in us, both to will and to work for His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13).
You try to remove man's responsibility completely from the equation...
Not at all. See directly above. It's just not the beginning of the equation but,,,, well, after the equals sign. <
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There is no basis for people being judged for eternity if man has no responsibility. Why you can't understand that is beyond me.
No, I actually agree with you on that, as I have said. And say here.
So, you ignore the "through faith" part and say it's by grace alone.
No, I say that the through faith... oh, hey, kudos on getting the "through" part right; that's very important... but yeah, the "through faith is a part of the grace. This faith that we have is from God. Which... maybe you're not denying, but if you are, you still haven't responded to my citation of 1 Corinthians 12 and specifically verse 9, which says that faith is a gift of the Spirit ~ God ~ which you have denied several times as I remember. By the way, wisdom and knowledge are gifts of the Spirit, too.
We are NOT guilty of sin at birth in any way,
Not any specific sins, so in that sense, no, but in the sense that we have sinful hearts, which is the issue regarding salvation, yes, absolutely, and even King David, the man after God's own heart, affirms it even of himself. So, maybe the sin in us hasn't outwardly manifested itself yet, at birth we have not actually yet sinned, but the sinful nature is just that, and we have it at birth. As Jeremiah says, the heart is deceitful above all things. And that's God's concern; the heart. Not the will, the heart. Because the heart drives the will. The root of the problem is the heart. As God says in Revelation 21:5, "Behold, I am making all things new." You and I, Spiritual Israelite, have been made new, and we are walking ~ hopefully ~ in this newness everyday... that is our responsibility. And our joy.
... blatantly contradict what Paul taught about when a person becomes dead in sin...
I blatantly reject what your thought regarding what Paul is talking about and saying there. Well, half of it actually, as I said, that a person
becomes dead in sin. He is dead in sin, and in need of new birth by the Spirit. And this is the condiction of all men (and women, of course) from birth. If what you say is true here, that a person "becomes dead in sin," then Paul is contradicting himself here in comparison to what he says in Ephesians 2, that we were dead in the trespasses and sins in which we once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience ~ among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. There is no minimum age mentioned here by Paul, or any insinuation that this happened at like puberty or something... <
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...the parable in Luke 18:9-14. If the tax collector used his free will to decide to repent of his sins, acknowledge that he can't save himself and ask God for mercy...
Jesus's parable there is not a picture of his salvation, but his humility. He acknowledges his sinfulness, and that is the direct result of his having this new spirit, which God has given him. He now sees and knows his sinfulness, and this is because God has opened the eyes of his heart, and so now, yes, he repents and asks for mercy.
Continued...