Why did God give you a husband?

[St. SteVen]

This one is for the ladies. (or whoever has a husband)

I was just thinking about my wife and a discussion we were having. For some reason this question popped into my head.

Why did God give you a husband?

I didn't ask that of my wife. Probably not something to ask your spouse. (sounds intimidating)
To be clear, I am not demanding with my wife. It is a true partnership. (44 years and going strong)

But as a husband, I am here for a reason.

Much more to say about this. But I will wait to respond.

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[hosanna33]

God gives us spouses for various reasons, but ultimately, marriage is a reflection of His love and purpose for humanity. Some reasons why God may have given someone a husband include:

1. Companionship: God designed humans to thrive in relationships, and marriage provides a lifelong companion to share joys, sorrows, and life experiences with.
2. Mutual support: A husband can provide emotional, spiritual, and practical support to his wife, and vice versa. Together, they can encourage each other, offer guidance, and help one another grow.
3. Fulfillment of God's design: God created man and woman to complement one another. In a healthy marriage, the husband and wife work together to fulfill God's plan for their lives and contribute to His kingdom.
4. Reflection of God's love: Marriage between a husband and wife is a picture of the love between Christ and the Church. By loving and serving one another, they reflect God's love to the world around them.

 

[quietthinker]

This one is for the ladies. (or whoever has a husband)

I was just thinking about my wife and a discussion we were having. For some reason this question popped into my head.

Why did God give you a husband?

I didn't ask that of my wife. Probably not something to ask your spouse. (sounds intimidating)
To be clear, I am not demanding with my wife. It is a true partnership. (44 years and going strong)

But as a husband, I am here for a reason.

Much more to say about this. But I will wait to respond.

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Does God micro manage peoples affairs?

 

[Rita]

Well I guess another question is ‘ Why did God give you a wife ? ‘
We know from Adam and Eve that the original design was for a man and a women to come together , two become one and also that they had the mandate to procreate.
We also know that Adam needed a companion

There was compatibility with Adam and Eve
However we know that in OT times many of the patriarchs had more than one wife, never the other way round !! lol ( Which often led to a lot of heartache for many )

I no longer have a husband, so I tend to look upon Jesus as taking over that role in my life - and in reality I am more contented than I was when I was married. ( guess that it determined by what kind of marriage you have ! ) As a non believer I am not sure God was part of the plans when I met and eventually married. It was just a natural part of life and expectations I guess. ( cultural norms )

 

[Ritajanice]

Who needs a husband when we have God.

I’ve had 2 husbands in my life....thank God he came along when he did as I’d probably be on husband number 3...by my own choice of course.

The evening I became Born Again, God has me lock ,stock and barrel....33years, I would love a husband, but, God must decide if that’s right for me..he knows my “ hearts desire “.

I wait on Him and I can assure you I ain’t “ desperate “.....

 

[St. SteVen]

God gives us spouses for various reasons...

Fantastic post! Welcome to the forum.

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[St. SteVen]

Does God micro manage peoples affairs?

Apparently not.

Although a spouse makes a pretty good spy. - LOL

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[JohnDB]

Can two walk together unless they agree?
How about 3?

Living without purpose kinda sucks...and two can't work together on nothing.

 

[hosanna33]

Fantastic post! Welcome to the forum.

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Thank you.

 

[Wynona]

This one is for the ladies. (or whoever has a husband)

I was just thinking about my wife and a discussion we were having. For some reason this question popped into my head.

Why did God give you a husband?

I didn't ask that of my wife. Probably not something to ask your spouse. (sounds intimidating)
To be clear, I am not demanding with my wife. It is a true partnership. (44 years and going strong)

But as a husband, I am here for a reason.

Much more to say about this. But I will wait to respond.

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Hi St.Steven, I like this question.

God gave me a husband to help me fulfill my calling and purpose as a woman in Christ!

My husband is the counterbalance and consistent voice that anchors my often changing moods, emotions, and spiritual sensitivities.

His leadership guides me away from overextending myself and the enemy using my natural desire to help others in a chaotic unfruitful way.

His unique personality and stress tolerance shields me from the wind, and allows me to protect some measure of trust, innocence, and hopefulness in me. He gets to be a controlled monster on my behalf while I get to remain soft in that covering.

My life's goal is to act as one flesh with him and help him in the calling God gave him. Being this help is a great joy that allows me to prioritize the best things in life while tossing out all kinds of vices, sins, and foolish behaviours that I definitely engaged in on my own.

 

[St. SteVen]

My husband is the counterbalance and consistent voice that anchors my often changing moods, emotions, and spiritual sensitivities.

Good post, thanks.

My wife sometimes thanks me for being the voice of reason in a situation. And for my calm approach to the challenges we face. (which she would rather call disasters) - LOL

The sump pump in our lower level stopped working recently, This has us in a restoration project. (all the carpet had to be removed) It could have been much worse. But is still stressful enough. Especially on top of everything else we are dealing with. We are a team to get through it. Both glad that the other is there.

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[MA2444]

Does God micro manage peoples affairs?

He will when they ask Him to.

 

[Wynona]

Good post, thanks.

My wife sometimes thanks me for being the voice of reason in a situation. And for my calm approach to the challenges we face. (which she would rather call disasters) - LOL

The sump pump in our lower level stopped working recently, This has us in a restoration project. (all the carpet had to be removed) It could have been much worse. But is still stressful enough. Especially on top of everything else we are dealing with. We are a team to get through it. Both glad that the other is there.

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Thanks! You and your wife are a team. I like that you said that. Marriage is becoming one, not roommates. lol

I don't always like when my husband says "women point out problems, men solve them" but I think there's some truth to it. Most modern technology and invention is to help women and children in some way.

 

[MA2444]

I don't always like when my husband says "women point out problems, men solve them" but I think there's some truth to it. Most modern technology and invention is to help women and children in some way.

My first date with my wife was I took her shooting 22 rifles with me. I had already planned to go so just brought her along and we did have fun. My point is about the technology that you spoke of that helps women & kids. Soo...of course we are talking about video games? I think it's ok to let kids play sometimes. Our kids played Mario and Zelda and all that. But we got them out of doors on the weekends, let's go camping, let's go to the target range and knock over some tin cans! So they had a balance with technology and actually learned some life skills, plus, it's loads of fun! So be careful not to get into the habit of letting a video game babysit the kids. Nope we're going camping, get ready! Lol.

It occurs to me that, God made Eve as a help mate to Adam, and there is no doubt that women are a fantastic helper for men with al they things that they do. So I have to laugh at the feminists who used to be saying, we dont need men at all...and now they seem to be waking up to the fact that men, might be be a bigger help to them than they are to the man! Can she really change her own flat tire? Change her oil or a faulty starter? They dont think about those things until it's too late and they remain unmarried. I've never heard of a woman being an oil worker. They sure like to have their cars though!

So it has to be a team to really work. Not two people, a man and a woman.

 

[Wynona]

My point is about the technology that you spoke of that helps women & kids. Soo...of course we are talking about video games?

I was thinking more basic and essential: paved roads, airplanes, trains, cars, medicine, plumbing. Washing machines, microwaves, fridges. I believe men primarily made those things because of how darn difficult it is to have babies and raise them safely as women.

Most husbands under Christian societies see their wives as people to cherish. They want to make their lives easier, not harder. So they come up with solutions. Fix things.

 

[St. SteVen]

I have to laugh at the feminists who used to be saying, we dont need men at all...

Agree.
Link below to an interesting men's advocate channel.

karen straughan

Writing and vlogging on gender issues fearlessly since 2010.

www.youtube.com

She once asked the question: "Do you really understand what men did to provide that box of breakfast cereal on your dining table?"
"Or who is out in the wind and rain, risking their lives to get your electric power reconnected in a storm?"

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[Wynona]

Agree.
Link below to an interesting men's advocate channel.

karen straughan

Writing and vlogging on gender issues fearlessly since 2010.

www.youtube.com

She once asked the question: "Do you really understand what men did to provide that box of breakfast cereal on your dining table?"
"Or who is out in the wind and rain, risking their lives to get your electric power reconnected in a storm?"

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Interesting. She sounds like a "Dadvocate" type feminist.

 

[St. SteVen]

Interesting. She sounds like a "Dadvocate" type feminist.

She doesn't consider herself to be feminist. The heading on her page reads:



But she is a men's advocate for sure. Single men too.

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[Wynona]

She doesn't consider herself to be feminist. The heading on her page reads:

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But she is a men's advocate for sure. Single men too.

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Oh I see. Good! I just don't want to paint all feminists as man haters. Some actually try to stick to equality as an ideal and will admit women have more advantages in American society now.

 

[MA2444]

She doesn't consider herself to be feminist. The heading on her page reads:

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But she is a men's advocate for sure. Single men too.

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Some girls are waking up to these facts! It is a level playing field between men and women. The man is typically the boss and one of the wife's duties is to be submissive to her husbands wishes as leader of the home. Most men gladly hand the reins of control over to the woman because we all know that happy Wife, Happy life. And the women gladly takes the reins and so women control the money in America. And that's all right if she is good with numbers and responsible...during peace time. Let a crises arise and watch how fast she hands the man the reins. Feed us. Protect me. Whatever. and the man (should) be ready and have an ace in the hole and remain ready for the wife to hand over the reins.

I can see it now. We get attacked by (take your pick), Migrants, Russians, Chinese or a drunk Irish man, lol. And she feels threatened so says, here's the reins, Protect Me!
And the guy says, I wish I could but you wouldnt let me buy a gun, remember?
(But that's no excuse because she needs protected, and we know what's coming)

So the man should think on these things and teach the young men that just because she might take the reins for awhile doesnt lessen his responsibility for the man stuff!

What does anti feminisim looks like? I like that. I guess it would look like a Proverbs 31 Wife? I married a nice girl, maybe she was a Proverbs 30 wife but she didnt quite make it to a Proverbs 31 wife.

I might have met a Proverbs 31 wife before but I dunno because they were married already. I believe maybe a small handful may exist somewhere but I never met one that I know of.